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This intricate design is a timeless classic - abstract borders like this have been popular for a millennium. This particular pattern was taken from an Italian Renaissance embroidery manual, but you can find similar patterns all over the world, from woven damask to satin. This is a stick and stitch pattern - simple to use! Just stick the pattern where you want it, stitch over the gridded lines, and dissolve in water when you're done, leaving only your work behind.

Happy Pride! Queer people have been around for a very long time - here's some medieval examples.

Is she spoiled? Definitely.

A bit selfish? Yes.

Unable to keep a rein on her temper? Also yes.

None of those are fatal flaws (or at all unexpected) in a di daughter of a well-off household.

But despite being a bit naïve and easily manipulated, she doesn’t slavishly follow what other people tell her. Despite her mother’s insistence that she play the marriage game for status, Rulan is far wiser.

She sees what few people in her position see (what Molan never sees) and plays for happiness and stability.

Of the four Sheng daughters, she makes the lowest-ranking but the most prudent marriage:

Marrying someone who loves her and will take her side

Marrying into a family weak enough that her own birth family can back her up

Even ever-cautious Minglan makes something of a rash choice in marriage. Her gamble works for her, because she and Gu Tingye are a power couple. But it was very much a gamble, and dependent on her own iron will and skill at manipulation.

Rulan knows she doesn’t have those skills. She can’t hold her own in a storm with no support. So she optimizes for building a support system. Despite taking after her mother in many ways, she sees herself and analyzes situations so much more clearly. (Honestly, I am so impressed by that. Hualan had Granny to raise her; Changbai had his schooling outside of his mother’s influence; what did Rulan have as a model?)

And despite being a little spoiled, despite being the weakest of the sisters in will, ambition, and ruthlessness, she's incredibly effective in her protection of those she's loyal to:

She saves Xique's life by throwing herself on top of her when she's being beaten. Contrast that to Molan, who doesn't give a second thought to her maids when her affair is discovered. Contrast that to Qiheng, who cares about Buwei but is ineffective in saving him.

She (with reluctance, but voluntarily) takes the heat for Minglan when Auntie Kang is making trouble. She hates Auntie Kang, and Rulan has very low tolerance for doing things she dislikes. But she still offers to suffer Auntie Kang’s presence herself, to save Minglan from another headache among her already troubled family affairs.

i don't necessarily disagree with this headcanon. i love them as bffs with benefits. but ngl her "you don't want me" line absolutely gave me a sense of wistfulness. like maybe in another life it could have been us.

and obviously people can have whatever headcanons they want and write whatever they want. but this insistence on only one interpretation gives me the ick a little bit. this idea that svetlana needs to be this perfect best friend with perfectly pure non-romantic feelings. the perfect woman who couldn't possibility be hurt by ilya choosing someone else. by ilya choosing shane.

and I don't know, maybe I'm reading too much into it. but like, it's okay if svetlana is a little hurt, that doesn't make ilya the bad guy. it doesn't make his romance with shane a bad thing. it doesn't make svetlana the bad guy. it makes her a normal person with normal feelings. she can be a little in love and still be a wonderful supportive best friend who handles her emotions with grace.

i find it hot

they’re comparable generationally talented first line center professional hockey players

positioning shane as smaller/shorter/daintier than his white dom top boyfriend perpetuates racial, gender, and sexual stereotypes

i personally find it REALLY hot

when he chooses to, shane can physically overpower ilya (hockey, shoving ilya into walls i.e. vegas rooftop and stairwell scenes) but when he wants to submit in bed, he allows himself to be pushed, carried, held down, etc. because they both like it and want it

feminist scholar jane ward: "queer circuits of desire do not rely on the erotic encounter of opposites"

they can wear each other's clothes in a cozy boyfriend hoodie "give. i miss your boring laundry smell" "why the fuck are all your clothes dry clean hand wash only" long distance yearning way or post-game sweat damp base layer horny way or "gross now i have cum on my sweats i'm stealing yours" "okei yay ♥" fondly annoyed way

It's talked about like being obsessively neat or repeating pointless tasks is the main part of it, when really those are just potential symptoms.

The main thing behind OCD is not being about to turn off a thought. There's a thing where most people can just stop thinking about something. If it's over, it's not relevant, it doesn't matter anymore, people can turn their attention away. For OCD, that mechanism can get stuck. And some thought that was supposed to just temporarily pass through your head just stays there. An image of an object rotating. An anxiety about something bad happening. A wish that you made on a dandelion. These are all things that have at some point gotten stuck in my head, sometimes for years at a time.

The compulsions, the rituals, are the person trying to address the thought so it can go away. After all, if you're worried about the door not being locked you can check the lock. But for someone with OCD, that doesn't make the stuck thought go away. So they check it again. And again. And they made a ritual, maybe if I check it exactly five times, I'll know that it's locked and I can let this worry go.

It helps a little. It feels like you're doing something. But it doesn't solve the problem. Actual therapy for OCD involves not doing the compulsion. Instead, you ignore the thought, move around it, try not to give it space in your life. Your mind won't let the thought go normally, so instead you fill yourself with other thoughts. Other parts of your life.

In 1996, Subaru’s market research in the USA revealed an unexpected demographic who loved their cars: lesbians.

Tim Bennett, the company’s Director of Advertising, and a gay man himself, decided to lean in, and so began a series of ad campaigns pitching Subarus to the lesbian community. Here’s a few of our favourites.

As a queer woman who drives a Subaru myself, I guess I have to say the advertising works.

Let us know what car you drive, and if you reckon it’s queer!

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