Don’t overlook paternity leave because it’s a hugely important feminist issue
Celebrating fatherhood with official paternity leave policies challenges traditional gender roles and empowers parents in the workplace. It’s one of those rare issues where men’s rights activists and feminists can find common ground with a mutually beneficial cause. It even has an impact on LGBTQ equality.
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I’ve reblogged a lot of posts today about why paid paternity leave (or just in general all parents regardless of gender being entitled to the same amount of paid parental leave) is such an important social issue, and these posts have made a lot of great points about why gender equality in parental leave is such a massively important issue for equality, such as:
- It’s important for LGBT+ parents who don’t fit the cis-hetero mold of one mother and one father.
- It’s an important feminist issue for reducing the second shift: when only one parent gets adequate parental leave, it’s only natural for a pattern to develop that the only parent who got adequate parental leave takes on the lion’s share of childcare. However, if both parents get adequate parental leave, then it’s more likely for a pattern to develop of sharing childcare duties. This is obviously massively important for reducing how much women’s careers are affected by having children.
- If the mother has post-partum health issues (anything from recovering from a C-section or other physical traumas, to post-partum depression and/or anxiety) it’s incredibly unfair to expect her partner to just go back to work immediately instead of allowing her partner to stay home and help with childcare duties. When someone is recovering from having a baby, it can be really important for their partner to stay home to help care for them and the baby.
However, one important point I haven’t seen brought up in why equal paid parental is so important for social equality is how important it is for reducing hiring discrimination.
By that I mean, when a country has *only* guaranteed maternity leave, but either no paternity leave (or really short paternity leave of a few weeks like the U.K. has), this is only going to raise the risk of hiring discrimination against women.
So if a company is choosing between two candidates for a position: one is a young woman and the other is a young man, if the country this company is in has a maternity leave policy of several months or more, but paternity leave is either just a few weeks (or completely non-existent), the company will look at the woman as riskier and less reliable to hire than the man.
So equal paid parental leave leads to more equality in the job market, because it means companies are less likely to see women as riskier and less reliable to hire. If everyone, not just women, has the same length of parental leave, everyone runs the same risk of needing to go on leave for the same amount of time.
There’s no reason not to demand that all parents regardless of gender receive equal paid parental leave. All parents and all children benefit from it.
we got “lucky” that my day-job went away not long before our child was born. if either of us were working full-time, even now that baby is 18 months, I don’t know how we could afford to raise him
childcare costs one parent’s total salary, and giving a baby to daycare changes a lot of things we didn’t want. we’re so happy to have so much time to bond with him and help establish a more healthy nervous system than either of us got to do as kids. we’re able to do everything we can to help ensure our baby can develop healthier emotionally than we got to
however, we’re lucky compared to most: neither of us having to work full-time is only possible because I’d saved enough over many years of working well-paying jobs. that’s a luxury few people - especially young people - can enjoy
even so, even with both of us able to spend more time with baby, it’s still a huge challenge
I seriously have no idea how other parents living in this country of no required parental leave and drooping salaries - and needing to work full-time jobs - can afford to have a baby these days. or even remain sane





















