bitch it's the circus

ykno. fictional women who r forced to disguise themselvez as men for their safety &/or to occupy some role allowed only to men are often analyzed az being transmasculine and, like, if the character in question experiences gender euphoria about it i can kinda get it. but in the majority of cases where it sucks ass and she hates it & wishes she could just Do The Thing as herself instead it rlly reads better as an allegory for transfemininity honestly. like sure these characters are usually Textually CAFAB in some kinda way but on a psychological level the experience of being a woman who is forced to present as male & gets dysphoric about it is just not a very good analogue for transmasculinity. if you want to make this trope more explicitly transgender i really think transfem boymoder is the way to go

saying this as a freak and a pervert but at some point it does really get exhausting and infuriating how a creative cannot write/draw, like, detailed body parts or characters with sexual desires or 'unconventional' fixations/happenings/etc without being accused of having some sort of fetish they're projecting into their creation. Artist a little good at drawing feet? Clearly a fetish thing. Writer factually mentioning things like characters having body hair or other not often mentioned traits? Obviously it's because they're into it. A character expressing sexual desires/preferences in character? Well of course it's just the creator channeling their own kinkd/whatever into it. Aren't you guys tired? the world becomes such a beautiful place when when you realize that sometimes things can just be and you can look at them for what they are and present, and it'll turn you into a better creative too to internalize the fact that you can write things that are not a reflection of your own personal desires and feelings.

AND ALSO!!!!! even if it WERE a fetish/kink/reflection of the creators sexuality, so what? Does that take away from the art? Does it make it less impactful if someone wrote it while feeling slightly randy? Would your perception of something you perceive as beautiful/deep/whatever change if you knew the person who created it might have committed the crime of being horny? Or do you just use sex as a shield so you won't have to confront what a piece of art is actually getting at? Something worth thinking about

everyone jokes about Gardevoir trainers being horny freaks but I think Gardevoir trainers would actually be posting like irl doll collectors

there’s a type of creature that lives six miles underwater in the sunless void and it’s hatched in two bodies and unless they find each other and fuse into a single chimaeric whole they can never grow up properly. hello? hello??

That's extremely cool! also, distracted and enraptured by the writing style at the second link.

every fucking time I see this I miss the "7 month old" part, then when I see the image I fucking lose it. god fucking dammit

It’s hard to even articulate how divorced online discussions of kink are from any kind of lived experience that involves real world kink communities or participating in kink irl. Like the difference between the endless “what tags you should be looking at on AO3” argument versus the way people actually involved in physical, often social spaces around other human beings in nonnormative sexual contexts that play with power dynamic, fear, pain, etc interact is unbelievable. The space between the two on every level is an ocean. If you showed the average play party attendee a tumblr post about kink they’d look at you like you have a second head.

This is a value neutral statement btw this goes equally for the people who are like “CNC makes you inherently evil” while talking about like captor/captive kidnapping yaoi instead of real human beings using safewords so that a sub can say “stop” during a play scene without the dom actually stopping just as much as it goes for the crowd that are like “I’m a degenerate freak cannibal” because they read NBC Hannibal fanfiction but they don’t even know how subspace or aftercare actually work and make fun of nonmonogamous people (<- backbones of every kink space ever). It all becomes significantly less meaningful when you realize that they are all talking about what fanfiction people read and not at all even a tiny bit about real life interpersonal dynamics between sexual partners in unconventional arrangements.

i feel. like on a fundamental level. i do not understand x reader fic. i am not exactly opposed to it because let a thousand blossoms bloom etc. but like. i genuinely don’t get it. it seems like the exact opposite of how i engage with fiction. like the whole point is that i’m not in there. i don’t wanna be in there. if i’m in there it’s going to be very stressful.

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