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So, why do men think that their larger size or muscle mass makes them superior, as if women could never possibly innovate and build a society on our own? If there was a third, larger, stronger sex than males, would that invalidate every race men have ever run, or every achievement males have ever accomplished?

"b-but homosexuality used to be considered mental illness!" yes, but the baseline is what is traumatic to the child. it's not trauma to see your parents be in love when they're the same sex. it is trauma when your parent has suicide attempts on regular.

you should be able to provide safety and stability to a child. you can have your own problems and issues, but you need to make sure it doesn't affect them. to be able to be kind and stable and in control around them, and maybe have someone to leave them with if you really can't, but if it's a lot of the time then that's pointless.

you absolutely shouldn't have suicide attempts, you should be able to not have breakdowns around the child (at least enough self control to put the child in a stable environment with someone else before you lose it), not self harm or at least not let them know that you do, you shouldn't age regress uncontrollably, should have enough patience to avoid lashing out at them when they piss you off or do something stressful, if in a situation where the house is a mess, you're already late and the kid won't cooperate putting their shoes on, you're going to sit on the floor and cry or lose your shit and yell at them and say random hurtful things, you shouldn't have a child (at least for now). if you would traumatize a child, you don't deserve one.

I know so many people who have traumatic memories of frantically apologising to their mentally ill parent who started to break down and cry or cut themselves because they behaved like normal children - they still suffer the impact and the self hate and guilt as adults, that shouldn't happen.

if you haven't gotten over your childhood trauma and you have a tendency to date abusive/violent people with red flags, too: no children until you stop. a child is human and doesn't deserve to be put around abusers who can and will hurt them or to watch their parent (usually mother) get abused, raped and beaten, and imprint on that model.

I don't care about "eugenics", children aren't free therapy, children aren't comfort items or a cure to your problems, children shouldn't be something that just happens to you or something you do because you emotionally want it, with no regard for circumstances. they're people, period - and you're an adult responsible for yourself.

"She had her own reservations. Niggling fears of not getting a job; disappointing her family. But when her hairdresser tried to talk her out of it, she knew she'd made up her mind. She wanted short hair. And it wasn't just a matter of taste — it was a statement.

Sohee is part of the growing 'escape the corset' movement taking hold in South Korea, with women taking a stand against rigid beauty ideals and unlacing the metaphorical corset. "I realised that the makeup and outfits were not my decision and I do not actually like it," says Sohee, 26. "So I choose to take off the corset."

Here, K-pop musicians aren't just stars; they're 'idols'. They attract millions of dedicated fans who have fallen for more than just their shiny, catchy lyrics. "They are just beautiful, they are just handsome," Yaejin, 20, tells me later at a tree-lined university campus in the capital's north-west. "They have so many surgeries, they lose weight, they put on so much makeup, they wear so many expensive shirts and clothes. They make teenagers want to be like them."

Lauren Lee, the founder of a company importing K-beauty products to Australia, says many K-pop stars are emblematic of unrealistic beauty expectations. "They've been chosen for their looks … and they're the people that you see represented over and over again in advertisements," she says. "And they're impossibly skinny. One thing that really, really shocks me is when these girls publish their diets, and they're basically starving themselves. They're eating an apple and a couple of pieces of fruit a day and coffee, and that's their diet." In the space of three months, three different K-pop stars have taken their own lives — prompting concerns about mental health in the industry, and mental health taboos in the country.

In May 2016, a 23-year-old woman was murdered in a public toilet; picked at random by a man who later claimed to have been "ignored" by women throughout his life. Korean women turned to social media to air their frustration and share their experiences of sexual violence. They covered the dome walls of Gangnam Station with multi-coloured post-it notes bearing sobering messages. "It was misogyny that killed her." "If we are in solidarity we can be strong." They marched. And in the past few years, women have increasingly been rallying around a mounting list of concerns. In October, a woman reportedly suicided after finding out she was secretly filmed in a hospital change room, the latest in a string of spy-camera victims.

It comes after over 12,000 women protested in Seoul's Hyehwa Station in 2018 against illegal spy-camera filming — many of the videos end up on pornography websites. Korean women have also taken to the streets as part of #MeToo rallies; 70,000 turned up to this year's International Women's Day demonstration.

Aside from forgoing makeup, Sohee is also shying away from relationships. "Getting married is probably quite common in Korean culture," she tells me. "So when you get to your mid-20s, people are talking about 'when are you getting married?' or that kind of thing. (...) I don't need someone else to fulfil myself." She's not alone. Growing numbers of South Korean women are turning their backs on marriage and children; the country's fertility rate fell to world-wide record low in 2019 (at one child per woman). "There are four movements promoted by women in their 20s in Korea," Professor NaYoung Lee explains. "No sex, no sexual romantic relationship, no marriage, no birth." MinYoung says having children is also a distant blip on her future horizon. "Many of my friends are doing no relationship … I don't like getting into relationships with men sometimes," she says. "When I become a mother, in Korean society, I have to give up one thing: career or baby." Sohee isn't ready to give up her career just yet, with ambitions to one day become a lawyer. With a job interview coming up, she's considering growing her hair out. She doesn't want to harm her prospects. Change comes slowly, MinYoung says with bitter conviction, recounting a recent example of a woman who was fired from a part-time café job for cutting her hair short.

"Aren't you lonely?" This is a question student Moensan is used to being asked. The 26-year-old, who lives in a provincial city in South Korea, is unmarried and childless — and plans to keep it that way. "There are many things I want to do in life that you can't do if you get married," she said. "I saw with my own eyes how married women are treated and discriminated against, so I decided marriage does not help women at all." agrees Jung Se-Young. Moensan told the ABC she was spurred to action after hearing "the voice of many women" in youtubers' Jung and Baeck's calls to fight back against societal pressures and patriarchal expectations. It was, she said, "what married women go through, what has happened vividly around me, even what I went through that made me want to join in the #nomarriage movement. My father assaulted my mother, which is more common than I thought in Korea — I'm glad my mum and I didn't die," she said. The student said she never wanted to get married or have children because pregnancy and childbirth were "big risks for women in Korea", while marrying "narrows a woman's position".

Sohee says that while many of her university friends are joining the #escapethecorset movement, many outside campus are reluctant. "I know it is quite a hard decision," she says. "But I want I just want some other women to see me and get confidence."

The country where a simple haircut can be a radical political statement

Now beauty standards are getting lax. No one wears a full face of makeup with the flowery fashion, and that started before we started wearing masks. Domestic cosmetic sales, cosmetic surgeries - all went down. Many went out of business. Women invested on their lives instead : property, cars, travel, basic life necessities and a room of her own. Cosmetic companies changed strategies - male cosmetic goods, plastic surgery for men flourished. Men shut their mouths at least in public on things that werent a problem before.

Meanwhile "corsets" "romance" became a blasé topic. Even to those who proclaim they arent feminists but "equalists", makeup and hyperfeminine fashion, talking about bfs or even being in a relationship has become outdated and boring. Sisterhood comes out often and is the new trend in media and ldols replacing oppas(sth akin to daddy) . This sentiment has accerbated among teens and women in their 20s. They voice new things they find uncomfortable every day. From radfems to normies to even anti feminist women there is one thing they agree on : wanting to be left alone away from men, misandry. fear of , for their safety, the urge rise higher. When i talk with girl friends and acquaintances the change feels big from 5 yrs ago. Casual radfem practices seeped into our lives as it was being ridiculed but gaining exposure.

Whether the woman identifies herself as a feminist or not, more men are branding all them as a feminist anyways if they dont wear makeup , dresses "like a man", doesnt have bf, ugly, too pretty, refuses their advances, engages in casual sex, rejects casual sex, insist condoms, opposes porn, worried of spy cams, refuse to pay dutch for dates, wants to pay dutch, claim #metoo, supports maternity leave. sprints at night if a man is behind, but the majority of their judgements are not based on ideology. Any woman does not dress up to look as their sexual object or not interested in keeping a man or dating/marriage/giving birth is their enemy. He wont care about your girl power thoughts as long as you have mascara on. But an avid anti feminist barefaced girl who has short hair, wears loose pants, or is fat, and plans to live alone - they attack her and hate her the most. Let this be a thought for "eyeliner sharper knife slaying the patriarchy"

If you wish to read on more on backlash against South Korean feminism, look up the recent case about streamer Jaemmi, who was pushed towards suicide after her mother also k her own life following the nationwide bullying after she expressrd discomfort sexual harrassment and male fans accusing her for feminism despite her denouncing it. Leaked videos of her undressing and changing in her room alone. Olympic gold medalist Ansan faced scrutiny for her short haircut. The ongoing presidential race, where candidates and major parties appeal incels and mras while promising men more rights and abolish the ministry of women and family, and promote birthrates instead. Where they advocate for false rape accusers while turning blind eye to male perpetrators. Women afraid being "outed" as a feminist.

Women aren't harassing men and discriminating against them on a large scale or doing anything to make the world more hostile to them, and the woman who'll only consume content made by other women and shun anything male-made is a rarity. Yet men continue to choose to screw over women all the time, without question or consequence, because they can.

Generations of men continue to solely lift up each other and promote each other while treating women like dust, yet because women are so good and fair, they wouldn't think of being so unkind to their male counterparts! You take males' support of solely males and add it to females' support of males and females, but guess what? Males still come out on top in the end! Not because they're better, not because they're inherently more valuable, but because men refuse to see the other half of the population as capable, fully formed human beings!

A young female Bison grazes on winter grasses, Shoshone National Forest, Wyoming