Beautiful People Will Ruin Your Life

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“Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions. Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time. In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows: “The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.” In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts.”

I have to say, I am finding this storyline fascinating because it's an example of my favorite dynamic - monster in love. Because there is no doubt Qi Min loves her as much as he can love someone and he risked his life and scuppered his plans temporarily to save her BUT HE IS STILL A MONSTER. Loving someone doesn't make him any less psychotic and also, because he's been so messed up from childhood, his way of loving is the opposite of one anyone can want; he loves her more than his life, he's also textbook abusive. If a person is a monster, it's going to bleed over into every relationship. All these things can coexist and I love that narrative being allowed.

#the fact that 'can prove access to an online account at least 12 years old' or even 'account to be verified is itself fully 18 years old'#AREN'T accepted methods of age verification is such a telling sign of what the real purpose of age-gating laws is:#data harvesting and deanonymization and the buildout of state-controllable ways to restrict both content and internet access itself en masse (via @shinelikethunder )

God: where’s Abel?

It is TRAGIC that you can’t read this in the original Hebrew.

God: hey where’s Abel???