what the hell is a "womyn"

"Saying kill all rapists and pedos is bad actually. There should never be a group that's socially acceptable to murder because then it can be used arbitrarily be used against anyone someone doesn't like!"

Followed up immediately by,

"Kill all trans men."

"Kill all TMEs"

"Bomb that kills all TMEs"

"(Insert radfem blogger here) should be able to kill whoever she wants."

"All birthday boys should die."

And now, when I find myself making the mistake of going on Instagram, I get to see trans men themselves talking about how historically, trans men didn't do anything for the community, and so we need to step up now. Which, first of all, that isn't true, but second of all, if trans men's contributions are lesser, that makes a lot of sense if we listen to that trans woman talking about the trans men she was in community with back in the day. It's very hard to advance the trans cause if you're not alive.

Then when bisexuals spoke up and were like "hey we actually do experience homophobia because we are often perceived as queer. Also I'm really uncomfortable with how I'm being treated in my own community" but I responded by spouting statistics about corrective rape and violence against lesbians (despite the fact they never denied the suffering of lesbians), while ignoring their actual objection, we could agree that would be a horrible and biphobic thing to do?

but you deserve to give informed consent to that process.

the lies around pregnancy - that it's inherently safe, that it doesn't do you permanent damage, that it's only extremely rare for people to die of pregnancy complications, etc like

all of these are lies constructed so that more people will get pregnant w/o knowing all that

there needs to be more talk about the impact of miscarriages and how common they are, how different abortion processes are and how accessible they are

but also like. talking about how pregnancy fucks your body up should not be taboo

this is a process that permanently changes most people's bodies, and that's even if the pregnancy doesn't do them like. severe illness or injury

and i just think everybody should have a right to KNOW that

When I was pregnant I was in a million forums for pregnant people because (cough adhd hyperfixation) and I had something called SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) (not Sensory Processing Disorder though I also have that) which is where your pubic bones separate early (more or less) because they get all loosey goosey as your body gets ready to crank that baby out.

Except my pubic bone got confused and got misaligned at like 3 months pregnant. I could barely walk. I couldn't roll over in bed. Doing something that required me to shift my weight from one foot to another like opening a door knob was like an excruciatingly painful knife being stabbed into my pubic bone, I can't express how intense and blinding it was.

So I am in one million baby forums like "am I dying what is happening why is there a knife in my pubic bone" and all these people are like "I have that too! my doctor says it's normal and not to worry because it doesn't hurt the baby. I just deal with it by laying in bed for months in excruciating pain and think about how lucky I am to be having a little miracle growing in my body."

So lol nope. I went to my midwife and they are like, "Oh squeeze a can between your knees look up a physical therapy youtube on SPD" and I did that can-squeeze thing and it CURED THE PROBLEM in ONE DAY. I had been SUFFERING, y'all, it felt miraculous.

And I was so full of rage (flames, flames on the side of my face) that people are being told "Oh, it's NORMAL just deal with it" "It doesn't hurt the baby." Like, look, yes it's NORMAL but it's 100% treatable!!! SPD (again, not Sensory processing disorder) affects 1 in 5 pregnant people.

I was lucky to have amazing midwives (need a gender neutral term for that profession, but they see pregnant men and women)(side note highly recommend midwives if you are gender nonconfirming/a man/etc) and I have DOZENS of examples of shit like this.

Some people in moderate car crashes are very lucky, and walk away with zero injury. Some are very unlucky, and die. But most people fall into the third category, where they'll be injured at the time, then heal, and then for the rest of their life they have some minor and liveable complication from the injury. Like a knee that lets you know when the rain is coming, or a back that doesn't like seats without lumbar support, or a shoulder that never quite gets its full range of motion back.

she's been suffering with this since she gave birth to me. I'm 38 years old. she had that surgery last week.

Granted, it still needs to be updated because not just women give birth.

Here is an etymologically equivalent but gender neutral term I just made:

/missstrogen/820863087116779520/hi-just-saw-that-you-reblogged-a-fundraiser-from?source=share

I’ve made plenty of vague-ish posts about it but you caught me at a time where I realized a specific bit sounds. Suspicious . With how isff has been treating her fans and what she’s been in support of recently

“I would not trust you, because you would turn on me in seconds.”

sophie-frm-mars, I’ve only seen the phrase “cancel cops” used exactly once in my entire life and it was from a bit from The Boys this year where their rapist manosphere parody uses the phrase to condemn those who called him out for sexually assaulting women. It’s played for a gag because his entire character is meant to be the most pathetic embodiment of an insecure incel with a podcast and multiple accusations and is meant to mock and deride him for being a rapist.

I’ve literally never seen the phrase used ANYWHERE else. This is a phrase meant to mock rapists, such as yourself. Curious you used it as if it isn’t literally a joke at your expense.

“Cancel cop” joke by the pathetic rapist at 10:35 in the video, immediately followed by him bemoaning you can’t be near women without a lawyer present nowadays.

Honestly perfect reference for you to make because you’re also a pathetic rapist trying to spin themselves as a victim and your detractors as a woke mob.

"but if all trans people are affected by both transmisogyny and transandrophobia, what's even the point of creating these terms?"

like I said, trans women and trans men each have their own unique experiences, but that doesn't mean that these experiences can't overlap. hell, even cisgender people are affected by these things.

"but the difference is that when trans women face transmisogyny, they can't just say they aren't trans!"

1 they literally can it's always ok to lie to transphobic people for your safety

2 what do you think cis women do when they're facing transmisogyny or being transvestigated? pull their pants down to prove it? no they call the person a creep for giving a fuck about what their genitals look like, and many trans women do the same. this doesn't mean the transmisogyny didn't affect the cis woman, as it's fucking creepy to have someone asking what's in your pants!!!

well and the problem with defining a group of people based on inescapable suffering is that the end result is the rhetoric that youre not a True Tranny unless youve been rendered homeless raped and or killed

Everyone wish my husbo a happy birthday today! It's entirely a coincidence this cake idea happened around now lol.

Cake communication based on a suggestion by @anna-neko !

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