Paper Cranes and Pride

I've probably mentioned making my own little microlabel once or twice but now I actually made a vector for the flag I designed so lol

Uniattraction is supposed to be an aspec identity where one feels equally attracted to everyone applicable to their orientation. Whether that's very, a little, or not at all. I coined this because I identify as aroace and that works for me but nothing ever seemed to describe this specific experience??

Even if I find out it's been coined before I think my flag is cute!

And nonbinary people, right?

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You Have to show the same level of passion and interest that you show to future technologies and treatments that will allow people who can’t get pregnant to finally do so to future technologies and treatments that will allow people who can’t impregnate others to finally do so, btw. You simply Have To. One is not more worthy/morally virtuous than the other, one is not an easier burden to bear for those dysphoric about their current anatomy. You Must show the same level of compassion for people who grieve that their only current way to have a biological child with their partner would be to carry it themselves that you do to for people who grieve that their only current way to have a biological child with their partner would be to get them pregnant.

Asexual people getting to be open and talk about not wanting sex and never having sex is important in a world that tries constantly to sell sex to us as an inevitable activity

Disabled people fighting for the right to marry is important in a world that holds life-saving benefits hostage and prevents one from marrying

Women fighting for the right to divorce or to never marry is important in a world that pushes women into a subordinate role of "wife"

Ex-Religious people fighting for the right to leave a religion or not be forced to convert to a religion is important in a world that subjects everyone to predatory missionary work

Religious people fighting for the right to practice their religion and do so openly is important in a world that prioritized religions over one another--often Christianity but not always

And you could substitute many more things into this. Young people fight to not be infantilized by authority, but they also in some areas fight to not be adultified. Some people have to fight so hard for a variety of reasons to be able to grow out their hair. Some people have to fight so hard to be able to cut it. Some fight to be allowed to wear coverings, some fight to be allowed to wear nothing. Some fight to be left alone, some fight to get the care they need. Some fight to be able to leave, some fight to be able to stay.

None of these comparable fights are opposed to one another, because the fight isn't about the specific thing, it is all about the same thing: autonomy.

Someone's fight to wear a dress is someone's fight to wear pants is someone's fight to live alone is someone's fight to live with someone is someone's fight to be left alone by medical institutions is someone's fight to be able to medically alter their body.

It is the same fight. People who want the opposite for themselves that I want for me are my siblings. We want the exact same thing: the choice to be who we want, how we want, on our terms.

Trans activist Jamison Green's passport photos before and after HRT. Left he's age 32 (1980) Right age 41 (1989) after being on testosterone for one year (x)

Just because I don't consider someone my "friend" doesn't mean that I don't like that person, or I don't enjoy their company.

There are lots of people I like, and enjoy the company of, who I do not consider my "friends".

"Friend" is a relationship.

A friend is someone who you

make an effort to spend time with on a continuing basis

make an effort to know on a personal and emotional level

would want to continue spending time with them even if you didn't have a current shared interest/hobby

would go at least somewhat out of your way to assist when having difficulty. Would lend $5 to. Would stay up late and listen to them cry.

It is okay and normal to have people that you like and spend time with who are not your "friends". "

Friendship" comes with duties and expectations. It is a relationship.

It is a legitimate tactic for defusing a situation that could otherwise escalate to become quite nasty.

"This is why I try so hard to protect my trans sister, she has to deal with so much of this all of the time."

"And this is why I will never learn how to swim"

"I never go swimming, unless it's an event that explicitely mention that Trans Women are welcome"

Part of why it isn't talked about is because of the method of detransition isn't always so black and white and it gives prisons a way to hide what they're doing. A devious and immoral slight of hand with the beurocracy.

When trans men are OFFERED to be put into the mens section, it's specifically as a threat. It's "Hey, we CAN put you with the other "men" but you know how men are....right? You KNOW how MEN ARE...right?"

There is a threat of rape and exploitation there far above what other inmates experience.

My pod mates were super chill with me being trans. Rules are different and you can't get offended easily, but it was the guards who kept touching me up, it was a guard who stabbed my hand with a pencil and gave me a scar there, and it was a guard who raped me.

So it's not just that trans men are being denied hrt and forcibly detransitioned.

It's that they are being told they have to pick between forced detransition in an environment where it will be AFAB bodied people exploiting them or they stick to their hrt and are in an environment where AMAB bodied people will be exploiting them.

These kinds of threats are big for trans people who are incarcerated. Many prisons and jails avoid it by just putting the person into lock down their entire stay (like me. My cell was 16 hand by 12 hands wide. I could walk my cell wirh 3 large steps. Sucked)

needed to peer review these tags because what you said is so based and real. "people are nonbinary because they just are & i don't feel the need to interrogate it further" is EXACTLY how i feel.

I just don't like the word valid. It feels like it requires outside input and approval. You don't. You don't need it.

You are resonating with butch for a reason. You are deciding to transition for a reason. These reasons are personal even if you share your experiences with others. You only need to justify butch with yourself and that requires honesty with yourself.

All of us struggle with telling ourselves the truth when it is often way easier to ignore or lie to our heart and brain in order to not have to really think about our actions and emotions.

At the end of each day you are with yourself and you are responsible for your own health, comfort and happiness. Don't give that power to others.

I strongly believe butches and Trans mascs share a common history and many experiences. If people want you to pretend you don't feel a connection or tell you that the connection is not real find other people in your life. You are listening to yourself and I encourage you to continue to do that. Push out the noise coming from the outside, especially when those voices have either no attachment to butch OR have a personal reason (ie need the reactions of others to the word butch to reflect or support their own) for others to think exactly as they think.