Paper Cranes and Pride

edit: people are reblogging without the addition so im putting the extra versions in the base post too

So, in spanish (so almost a fourth of the world, cause all Latín américa speaks it) we don't have "gramatacly correct" neutral pronouns, we literally use gendered pronouns for objects for crying out loud.

So, back during the post pandemic years (I think 2023? I don't remember) there was a movement to push the pronouns "elle" for nb pronouns, the most remembers installment being a person saying to their Google meet class "I'm not Your classmate [femenine], I'm Your classmate [neutral]" in a voice most people deemed obnoxious

This led to a complete smear campaing, with people citing reasone why the pronouns were not "gramatacly valid", stitching that one Rick puking clip with the "compañere" audio and people talking about how adding e at the end of words was gonna confuse kids. It all culminated (at least in Argentina) with a governor making it ilegal to have the pronoun in oficial documents and making it completly invalid in legal settings. Some people (incluiding myself) still use it in prívate, but is almost imposible to actually use it in public, having most people simply choosing to use "any/all" to avoid ridicule

This is without Even mentioning that people were scandalizing over xenogendered just a month or two ago (incluiding almost all of the few people that were actually in support with the neutral pronouns thing), but I won't be diving into it as i'm not xenogender and I feel it would be unfair since I havent seen or lived Even close to half of it

I'm sharing this all here Even if is in English cause i feel is incredible important to show the blatant exorsexim that is still present in the grabd majority of the south continent

So, in spanish (so almost a fourth of the world, cause all Latín américa speaks it) we don't have "gramatacly correct" neutral pronouns, we literally use gendered pronouns for objects for crying out loud.

So, back during the post pandemic years (I think 2023? I don't remember) there was a movement to push the pronouns "elle" for nb pronouns, the most remembers installment being a person saying to their Google meet class "I'm not Your classmate [femenine], I'm Your classmate [neutral]" in a voice most people deemed obnoxious

This led to a complete smear campaing, with people citing reasone why the pronouns were not "gramatacly valid", stitching that one Rick puking clip with the "compañere" audio and people talking about how adding e at the end of words was gonna confuse kids. It all culminated (at least in Argentina) with a governor making it ilegal to have the pronoun in oficial documents and making it completly invalid in legal settings. Some people (incluiding myself) still use it in prívate, but is almost imposible to actually use it in public, having most people simply choosing to use "any/all" to avoid ridicule

This is without Even mentioning that people were scandalizing over xenogendered just a month or two ago (incluiding almost all of the few people that were actually in support with the neutral pronouns thing), but I won't be diving into it as i'm not xenogender and I feel it would be unfair since I havent seen or lived Even close to half of it

I'm sharing this all here Even if is in English cause i feel is incredible important to show the blatant exorsexim that is still present in the grabd majority of the south continent

Especially considering transgender men and mascs have some of the most egregiously high sexual assault statistics out of any gender identity, due to it being used as punishment for our deviation in an attempt to force us back into womanhood.

So no saying transgender men look like predators isn't the #feminist move these mfs think it is

people act like masculinity, unless otherwise specified, is cismasculinity. like pericismasculinity is "true" masculinity. if you say "masculinity," "pericismasculinity" is implied.

transmasculinity and pericismasculinity aren't seen as equal expressions of masculinity. transmasculinity is seen as being modeled after pericismasculinity. trans men are men but trans. intersex men are men but intersex. pericis men are just men. if you deviate from cismasculinity, then you deviate from masculinity as a whole.

if you want to call yourself a man you have to be a pericis man, because obviously that's what a REAL man is. a REAL man can't get pregnant. if you talk about being pregnant, you are either a confused woman or a lying man. because pericis men can't get pregnant. therefore men can't get pregnant

it's why trans men and intersex men are told to shut up on account of being men. pericis men have privilege. therefore all men have privilege. because pericis men are the default man and all other men are modeled after them. either you are a man and shut up because you have privilege, or you don't have privilege and admit to not being a man

Either you're having sex for love, or you're a wh*re

So aroallo people struggle to proudly exist because we're labeled "shallow" or "unavailable" when we don't fit into the lines drawn for us, without us.

We're just as real and just as normal as anyone else, but the constant shame surrounding sex pushes us to label ourselves wrong.

I cannot be the only person who labelled myself aroace despite knowing it wasn't true because I was scared of what others may think of me, even in my own communities.

Well that's bullshit. I'm not going to live in the closet because of others' ignorance. I want to be loud and honest and maybe if I'm lucky, I can help someone else feel just a little bit less alone.

You don't have to be afraid of who you are. Who you are is cool as fuck.

Either you're having sex for love, or you're a wh*re

So aroallo people struggle to proudly exist because we're labeled "shallow" or "unavailable" when we don't fit into the lines drawn for us, without us.

We're just as real and just as normal as anyone else, but the constant shame surrounding sex pushes us to label ourselves wrong.

I cannot be the only person who labelled myself aroace despite knowing it wasn't true because I was scared of what others may think of me, even in my own communities.

Well that's bullshit. I'm not going to live in the closet because of others' ignorance. I want to be loud and honest and maybe if I'm lucky, I can help someone else feel just a little bit less alone.

You don't have to be afraid of who you are. Who you are is cool as fuck.

its a take from the perspective that trans men are "vulnerable" is some vague abstract generalized way, not in a way which would behoove anyone to adjust their behavior or take action on their behalf. its the erasure of erasure; the assumption is that trans men probably have enough resources and support anyways, which could not be farther from the truth. some local communities may have more transmasc-focused resources, but many others do not. transmasculine people are left out of vital conversations, are excluded from vital resources, are ignored and forgotten when they are abused and killed.

it treats transmasc erasure as something which is passive in itself and which can be solved passively. which is erasure itself in action. i do not really give a fuck about "who has it worse," it is not about that. it is about the fact that if YOU do not make an ACTIVE EFFORT to advocate for transmascs, to make transmasc suffering and oppression visible and legible, it will not happen. it simply will not happen.

erasure is an active force. we all internalize transmasculine erasure and we can all easily contribute to it; we are expected to contribute to it. trans men&mascs cannot afford the model of "well we only need to raise awareness for the most vulnerable" because our vulnerability is defined by being ignored.

or trans men like Sophie Lederer, who was only 19 when he was arrested for "talking silly and claiming to be a boy" in the early 20th century, and the only other thing I know about him is that he spent the rest of his life, over a decade, institutionalized for his transmasculinity. god only fucking knows what was done to him in those years by his wardens.

shout out to all the trans men on this site that are normal about trans women

shout out to all the binary (+non GNC) trans folks on this site that are normal about nonbinary/genderfluid/multigender/GNC/etc trans people

shout out to all the perisex trans people on this site that are normal about intersex (and intertrans) people

your identity, your dignity and your worth as a woman have absolutely nothing to do with how or why abusive people lash out at you. the insidious narrative that survivors should feel special on some level for having been worthy of their abuse is battered wife rhetoric. it's the perpetrator-system of violence grooming you to accept, and even shamefully yearn for, violence it always intended to inflict. and women are so often complicit in repeating the narrative back to each other. sometimes it's very well meaning and springs up out of the solidarity of shared experience, trying to reclaim power from situations where power was wielded against you, but sometimes it's lana del rey sadgirl coquette I need a man who'll slap me around so I know he cares. sometimes it's eating disorders and self harm. the twinning of femininity and female worthiness with suffering, associating the scars of misogynistic violence with acceptance of one's femininity by somebody who hates you, is profoundly unhealthy and profoundly unfair.

bottom line: trans women have never needed to be identifiable by their abusers at a glance to be subject to misogynistic violence. they have never even needed to be out. remember the early days of the internet when online culture was so outspokenly misogynistic as a baseline that most women just never disclosed their gender, never went on mic, never posted pictures? would anyone ever seriously argue that women weren't subject to misogynistic abuse online until they broke anonymity? and that being the case, would it ever ever seem appropriate to hear someone had been doxxed or sexually harassed for disclosing her gender and respond "heh, proves you really are a woman"?