"Stepping outside the box and inside your life."
With certain people there is an instant connection, recognition, even a devotion to each other in an almost spiritual way. The physical attraction is even more difficult to explain, let alone control. There are simply no rules, there is no importance in the differences between the two, whether it is nationality, age or race. They're only two people who completely desire each other and who wish to be in each other's presence, in each other's arms, in each other's souls at all times. The kisses are electric, the embraces reach to every cell in one's body, releasing an incredible sense of immense pleasure, complete peace and true passion. Sometimes the feelings are too strong, too difficult to handle and to control in everyday life, in an environment where we are surrounded by what is right or wrong, accepted by society, family or friends. We are afraid to step outside the box that has been built around us or that we ourselves have built, afraid to fully live out our passions, our feelings, our true inner desires. We're afraid of losing the mundaneness, the comfort of the old, the routine, afraid of what following our heart would mean to our present life.
We can't see what there is to gain, only what there is to lose, even though part of the present is already in the past but we deny to see it, accept it and instead embrace the change, the passion that has come into one's life. We hold on tight to the past even though we don't realise it's gone already, we're just keeping on to the memory of it or the perfect picture that we have of it in our mind. We're only staying there, in this twilight zone of the present and the past because others are holding tight to you, together with a whole team, people who don't know your true self, your passions, your life and who don't even care, except for their own satisfaction and life agenda in wich you play a role, not your own authentic role, but the one they have chosen for you, in their box, specially made for you.
Situations arise in our lives for a reason and people come into our lives for the same one. Most often it takes the shape of the corssroads, and we are terrified to make a change, because we know deep inside that it will make an impact, that our life will make a new turn. Nevertheless, these situations arise exactly for that reason, for the reason of change, to the better, to something that is congruent with who you are and what you most need at that time in your life in order to grow, to develop, to become more of who you are. Things happen in such an incredible way, at such perfect timing, that it simply cannot be a mistake, but we don't trust a higher power, we don't go with the flow, with what is placed on our life's path. Instead we become obstinate of what is not meant to be or to continue, trying to control our lives in the most detailed of ways, insisting with what we had planned and the outcome of it.
The general belief is that we can create anything we want, have anything we want, when we want it and where we want it; that if we work hard enough the outcome will be what we expect it to be. My belief is different, since I know from my own experience that no amount of time, work or insistence can create something that is not meant to be, or at least whose time has not yet come. One has a special path to follow, and when we deny it or we deny making the changes that we are supposed to do, life will most certainly do it for us, and not in a pleasant way. It is therefore preferable to make the choices oneself, when the time arises, when the signs are there and we stand at the crossroads, in order to avoid the not-so-nice "grand finale" of a situation that life will ultimately throw upon us if we deny to do so ourselves.
Love is one of those special emotions that we simply need to trust, to believe in, to follow at any cost, whether we are afraid of losing everything that has anything to do with our past or present. Love is what gives us strength, to give and to receive, and to simply be loving not only towards our loved ones, but to all that surrounds us; loving towards ourselves and what makes us authentic, peaceful, joyful, simply happy and content, because these emotions can only be present if you yourself are present in yourself, in what you feel, in what your heart's desire is and fully follow it.
Therefore, all of you out there who are still in your boxes, afraid of the light outside of it, afraid of the unknown, trust it, because the rewards are immense when one gives oneself fully to life, to the right people, to love, to a new life, to the true you! Just trust it!
(January 2014 Copyright Teodora Pasca)
