póg mo thóin

Jimothy, Beloved Cryptid

via Seattle Times:

Local Ballard raccoon has been spotted thriving in a remarkably unique and charming body

Talk to them first.

Reasoning:

“If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest one first.” Mark Twain. This person is your frog; get it over with!

You will fulfill any obligation to talk to this person and you will have taken the initiative. They cannot complain you “never talk to them” or that you are mean/rude if you cordially approach them first.

Maybe I hate Great-aunt Bertha but I really want to attend family Christmas to see my cousins. Maybe I have coworkers or clients or classmates I don’t like, but am not interested in quitting my job or dropping a class for a couple of unpleasant people. Maybe I am in the same social circle as somebody I dislike, so there’s a chance they make an appearance at a party or event.

I want to boost everything this person has said and add on.

The reason I call myself a tomboy now, despite it being seen as a childish word and having had someone swear at me over it because ‘tHeRe’S nO suCh thInG as BoY thInGs anD giRL thIngS sHut uP’ is because I couldn’t call myself that or be like that when I was a kid. It was seen as a negative thing and I was already bullied enough. “Looking like a boy” was the worst thing that could happen to a girl.

And I’m not even 26 yet. We aren’t talking 30+ years ago, we are talking 2000s and even 2010s. It’s only since trans people have become more accepted in the past few years that gender nonconformity has too.

And the people who helped me accept my gender nonconformity more than anyone else? Were trans people. They taught me, “there’s nothing wrong with how you feel. You’re still a valid woman no matter what you wear, how you have your hair or what you’re into ❤️”

And don’t even get me started on how people treat gender nonconforming men. JK Rowling has a lot of nerve to be like “uwu boys can wear dresses and only us gendercrits accept that!” when she has, even in recent works, made femininity in men a negative trait, as well as making masculinity in women a negative trait also.

A lot of people still don’t accept gnc people even now. Just last year I had someone tell me they’d never let their daughter “dress like a boy”, and I’m always terrified to walk into a bathroom in case the next JK Rowling is in there, sees my gender expression and pepper sprays me or worse.