#willogenic help

of course anon!

how to form headmates

i used to be a mixed origin sys but it kinda went away due to my meds taking away the need for them (theyre still in there, just kinda hibernating) now though i just kinda have a weird thing where i have kinda like 3 distinct personalities that do often mix with eachother but can also stand alone. theyre kinda modelled off fan, paintbrush, and lightbulb, fan just being a bit weird bc hes kind of a pretentious asshole and carries most of my "less desirable" traits while still retaining some of his source identity. think like if fan and silver spoon had a stupid baby ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 which makes sense bc i like silver spoon a lot too, and ship him with fan and paintbrush kind of.

theyre not exactly sentient.... i think.....???? i just kind of act like each of them and it switches fairly often. sometimes i just wake up like one of them, like im in their "mindset" in a way and other times if smth happens to me and i change emotionally than one of them can take over. sometimes its rlly intense, i can just be talking or smth as lightbulb and then i get reminded of smth that sets me off and then suddenly fan is here going on a rant 💔 and i have to be like "SORRY just got a bit out of control" and reel him back in 🥲

(btw yes i do 100000% take all accountability for outbursts and stuff!!! i am still at least partially in control i just kinda let go of the reins sometimes yk. or like the switching just makes me lose grip for a second. again this isnt very much of an issue, just kind of an odd quirk imo lol.)

Does anyone have tips for helping a headmate form... we requested a few new guys from BAHs but oh my gosh. Я не знаю, как это сделать.

Are endos valid or not? Because I see a lot of arguments about it, and both sides of it seem good. I'm thinking about creating headmates to help with irl stress but idk, everything I see online scares me, I dont want to be problematic!

Thanks for ur time and again, I'm sorry if this is rude!!!

it's completely valid, dear anon!

our system is willogenic as well. being a system has helped us cope with trauma and current stress, as well as being lonely in general. it is perfectly fine.

(idk if this is needed but we know something that might work because we accidentally became a system, by doing it. but just like. if anyone does do this make sure youre actually like ready for if it works because being a system isnt often something that just happens for a week or two. if it is for some people, thats okay and we dont think theres anything wrong with that! we're just saying this as in only do this if you are okay with and can handle the chance that it wont be temporary. we've been plural for around a year now and will probably stay that way. personally we never had any issues getting along but its pretty common that things wont be that way, so be sure you can deal with any issues like that if they happen, basically just be aware of what youre getting yourself into if you actually have the chance to think about it first! also try to find a way to keep track of system members because this helps prevent forgetting members and stuff)

first, write or type out as much information about the headmate you want to create (idk if i phrased that right). appearance, personality, likes, dislikes, labels, whatever you find necessary. theres like templates and stuff for writers to map out the details of the character theyre writing and those can be used for this. additionally, you can use templates meant to keep track of information about headmates for this. also, the most important thing we would say is MAKE SURE YOU NAME THEM. even just a placeholder will do. this makes it way easier for them to actually exist and not just disappear after a little bit but that still might happen

then, maybe draw them or do a picrew of them or make them in a character customizer or something like that as we notice this can help someone stay more stable in how much they exist? like when we dont know what someone looks like its harder for them to have much of a preference.

next, try to get into their mind?? idk if that makes sense the way we became a system was we were making ocs and to better understand and write about them, we did this thing that was kind of like the writing version of method acting, but then we couldnt get back to the way we were before and started feeling like things we owned belonged to someone else and like this wasnt our body and stuff until eventually after a few days, we realized we were plural, which was pretty stressful, mostly because we didnt MEAN for that to happen and because it also happened at school that we realized what happened. we really were not prepared and it and suddenly becoming multiple people was pretty scary, but once we understood what was happening and were able to calm down, we got used to it and it stopped being scary, and we imagine that if someone did that on purpose it would be maybe less scary to them? also to do like the getting into their mind one thing we find works a lot is personality tests and stuff? a lot of them are pseudo scientific junk but for this theyre pretty helpful we find because its not about whatever answer they spit out at you and more that answering the questions as the headmate youre trying to create is a pretty easy was to get into their mind until it feels like instead of talking about someone else, you ARE that someone else and are just talking about yourself, and maybe at that point add more details to what you wrote about yourself previously.

sorry if this was weirdly phrased or made no sense! we just thought it might be useful? sorry if not