#rq friendly

normalize treating yourself like your own oc !! Create lore for yourself !! design yourself in art !! write fanfics about yourself !! HAVE FUN FOREVER

I AM THE INCLUSIVE WOKER…. WHY SO RADQUEERIOUS??

hey yall!!! so, radq is trending on tiktok rn, yes, TRENDING. people are taking screenshots of TRANSID.org and posting them to tiktok and their going viral.

some things to note:

this is causing normies to rope xenogenders and neopronouns into it, and claiming they are radq identities. the tale old as time, people try to exclude people from their own communities and only get lumped into the things their excluding by outsiders.

this is gonna cause a spike in fakerads who are pretending as a "joke", the community may become hostile or unsafe to be in. (even more than we seen with jessicur, it is getting HUGE on tiktok)

please keep ur accounts SAFE and ur personal information OFF THE INTERNET.

this is not to fear monger, radqueer is slowly becoming mainstream, we need to be ready

I think nobody in this community acknowledges some ARE groomed into this community, and thats because this community does not post about safety, risk awareness, what consent REALLY is (being fully aware of what is happening, being able to say no after saying yes, having safe words, ect), nor educational pieces on safety half enough - making it very easy for manipulators to thrive in this community

Which does not make this community nor its ideals inherently evil like antis say, nor does it inherently mean every aspect should be thrown out the window, thats the exact same as anti-kink anti-bdsm mentality honestly

It's simply that its very easy to lead an uneducated person, or even an educated person who feels trapped into this community, giving them a hundred labels that makes them feel tied to their abuser, and then labelling the relationship as con-abuse

cause nobody seriously dives into the risks of con-abuse, how such a relationship should have breaks and aftercare, outside of anti-rhetoric

I'm talking from experience, It happened to my system, and we are, on a labels and identities level, entangled with our abuser, and still spiral into "well originally i consented, even if I said no later and tried to set up boundaries, maybe he just thought it was all part of the game"

And I am not the only one!!! I've talked to other!!! People in the radqueer space who admit they wouldn't be here without their abusers!!! When people say they were groomed into it, it is NOT just anti rhetoric, theres more substance in these claims

We need awareness, pdfs filled with safety tips, when to take breaks, how to abuse someone safely, how you can hurt someone safely, I want a world where the first thing you see after looking up conabuse is "here's a article on how to do such safely" "heres a class on how to do such safely" "heres a book on the ethics and how to do such safely"

I want a world where we acknowledge the grooming, how identities can be manipulated, twisted, this isn't just a radqueer issue, my otherkin identities were twisted too, so intertwined with theirs it felt like even if I escaped they'd still be who I am.

I just want more safety highkey