#pluralphobia

Any of your friends or family members could be part of a system. Any of your classmates or coworkers could, too. Even your partner could be a system.

Plural systems usually do not announce our plurality. Because of the massive stigma around plurality, we try to pass as singlets. My system does this every day. My headmates have friends they've known for a decade who don't know we're plural.

It's said that dissociative disorders are very rare, but they're not. Trauma can and does happen to anyone. And many systems don't have dissociative disorders at all.

not striclty true, plurality presents in a variety of ways, many of which are undetectable from the outside

you did, you just called me inconsistent or a liar or dramatic or crazy or

maybe i didnt want to show openly all the signs of my plurality. because you and everyone else treated me like garbage for them.

Anti-endogenics are ableist. I do not welcome ableists on my account.

[ID: Anti-endogenics are ableist. I do not welcome ableists on my account.]

I am a mixed origin system. Specifically protogenic-traumagenic-stressgenic, meaning we were plural for as long as we can remember, far before any trauma happened, and when trauma did occur our plurality skyrocketed and dissociation grew worse.

And before y'all come here saying "oh so you're faking" - I'm literally diagnosed with DID.

Being endogenic =/= not having a dissociative disorder, and being traumagenic =/= having a dissociative disorder.

Even the DSM agrees (and although I don't think the DSM should be considered gospel, many of you anti-endos use it like one.) See my breakdown of that here [link.]

I am so disappointed if you felt comfortable coming onto my account while believing I'm not real. My headmates existence are not a "debate." We are not a fucking "stance point." You're either for our existence or you're not.

Why is it that every dissociative disorder can occur without trauma except for plural dissociation in y'all's minds?

DPDR can occur without trauma. Maladaptive daydreaming disorder can occur without trauma. Dissociation is not trauma exclusive and never has been.

Fuck right off with that total bullshit, and fuck right off with the idea of plurality being inherently dissociative anyways.

Like firstly that is requiring me to know exactly who and what I am at all times so that I don't "invade" the space, which is difficult to impossible because I get blurry, I dissociate, I experience identity confusion, or I literally just guess wrong sometimes.

And then it's a question of cooties. Am I disallowed if I have any alters of an unacceptable gender? If over half of my alters are of an unacceptable gender? If they're bleeding over into me? If they're co-conscious as I front? If we're co-fronting? How much presence is too much presence – how much of the reality of being plural is too much?

And then even if I'm allowed to some degree I have to out myself as a system or lie, lie, lie, because if I switch to someone of an unacceptable gender I've got to leave lest I break the core rule of being there (and haha even supposedly progressive and accepting people get maaaaad at you for "invading" a space "not meant for you"), perhaps in the middle of a conversation, and people tend to want explanations about that.

Or. You know. They could always just erase those of us that complicate their neat little acceptable/unacceptable binary, misgendering those alters based on the fact that other alters have different (acceptable) genders. That's another hurtful option they could take.

"x folks can't be in y space" is soooo ridiculous to me because if you're a system with both x and y alters, the best you're gonna get is x being far away from the front when y is hanging out there. Like I just do not feel safe in any space that might suddenly turn on me and tell me to gtfo just for switching (something I cannot always control). We are a package deal, and any exclusionism acting like everyone's identities are neat and tidy and thus everyone can be directed to specific, "appropriate" spaces is going to hurt systems – even systems whose members are all of a specific, acceptable gender, because 1) more folks = more chance someone discovers they have some complicated gender stuff going on, and 2) they could always end up gaining a new member with an "unacceptable" gender for that space, as such see point number two.

Oh no, what a horrible fate it would be to not be yourself.

Wouldnt it be just awful to wake up and not know who you are.

Wouldnt it just suck if you had voices in your head, just watching you live.

God, you people couldn't possibly imagine being plural, couldn't you? It's almost like all the terrible movies you've watched about systems had something against us, almost like they were demonizing us. Wow, interesting that you see this benign human experience as horrifying and institutional and you haven't bothered to actually look for and talk to people who have those experiences and realize that they're just normal fucking people. It's almost like systems really do exist and we're not freaks of nature just for having multiple identities and maybe some trauma. It's almost like this has happened time and time before and you people still don't seem to understand that being mentally ill isn't a nightmare!

What a fucking zinger!