#quiosexual

Oml im so sorry it took me so long to get around to these!! Hopefully i did them justice, as i wasnt really sure what to put for the text. I also did two separate flags bc i wasnt sure if you wanted a mash of the two or both apart 😅

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This is my first Tumblr blog. I wrote 2 chapters of something, deleted it and moved to Wattpad. So now we're here.

I am not going to put my name so just call me by @Im_Apathetic22 or E if you're too lazy. My pronouns are He/They, I am Genderfaun, Quiosexual and Omni

I'm going to post fanart\fics and random stuff for my characters. Oh, and if you request a ship or a character I really like, I'll follow you if I'm not already :]

Btw I use Emoticons a lot

Rules for commenting:

Just be nice plz

Will write:

AUs, Headcannons, LGBTQ+

(without knowing requester's age) Character(s) x Reader, Gn!reader, AFAB!Reader, AMAB!Reader, hurt/comfort, anst, fluff, anything SFW

(18+ requester [age in bio]) Smut, BDSM, Urophillia, Humiliation kink, latex fetish, Teratophillia, dacryphillia, (con?)noncon, roleplay, agrexophilia, murder, cannibalism, gore, objectum (for non-human or hybrid/monster-y characters), hierophillia, Anything NSFW (Anything else that isn't mentioned in Wont Write will be researched, thought over and either added to Won't Write and denied or added to Will Write and be [eventually] written)

Won't write:

Scat/vomit/major foot fetishes, homophobic/racist/sexist MC, incest, MAP stuff, beastiality (Teratophilia not included), age play, politics.

Fandoms I Write And Draw For:

TOH-any characters with more then 10 minutes of screen time

MHA-LOV Members, Kai + 8 bullets, Class 1-A (except mineta), class 1-B, Hatsume, Shinso, Big 3, Teachers, pro heroes, rody, eri (Eri is fluff only) (I'm only on season 4 and haven't watched any of the movies but I'll try other characters too)

KNY-Hashira, kamaboko squad, Uppermoons + Enmu + Rui (Rui and Nezuko are SFW only)

Heartstopper-all (except Ben [I'm only on the 4th book idk if he gets better])

Hellaverse-anyone except Mammon, Stella, Adam or lute (Octavia, Egg Bois, Niffty and Emily are SFW only)

PJO-All (I've only read the first series, I'm working on HoO)

ETM- All

Zodiac Academy-all except Lionel, possesed Clara, anyone in K.U.N.T. And Lavinia

The Cruel Prince-Cardan and Jude

Murder Drones-SFW Only

TADC-SFW Only

IHNMaIMS-all (AM + Ted Smut Only)

The Freak Circus (All [begrudgingly including Harlequin])

Sorry, that was really long, but plz request something, I don't only write Robot Smut I swear ToT

happy International Asexuality Day

April 7th is International Asexuality Day

today we honor asexual people, and those under the ace umbrella, such as demisexual and greysexual folks.

some lesser known ace identities include: aceflux, autosexual, fraysexual, quoisexual

Can you help please?

I'm happy to help and I'll do my best but I don't think think that it'll be that short

You're someone that isn't sure if they experience sexual attraction, you experience romantic attraction to people regardless of their gender but only if you have formed a deep emotional connection with them, your gender is fluid but it doesn't encompass female or female-aligned genders and your gender goes beyond human understanding of gender.

Willow & the Family Ace Part I & II

Fun facts: Knightmare (Khalia) is Cupioromantic and Cupiosexual, Loverboy is Quioromantic and Quiosexual (Straight)

Checkout Willow & The Family Ace on WEBTOONS! Like and subscribe to keep up to date

However Ace awareness week got me thinking more about why Quiosexual is a helpful label for me to have when trying to quickly and succinctly explain my sexual attractions. (Yes Bambi is still my preferred label to use within a broad public context but some people have asked for more information than that and if I don’t want want to get into everything, having a rough point they can work with is helpful in my experience.)

Basically for me, for as long as I’ve experienced attraction, my trauma and BPD have made me experience hypersexuality where I felt the need to be and act sexual in situations where another person expected that of me. For YEARS it completely clouded my ability to self reflect on my actual attraction to others and even if traumatic situations I put myself in as a form of self harm related to sex.

However even now that understand that impulse, that doesn’t mean it’s turned off. In a way I’m kind of demisexual because I have to be around a person for awhile before I can fully process where my attraction is coming from. There is no set timeline on that. My “true” genuine I can trust this sexual attraction doesn’t always kick in until this point, but sometimes it is there soon and just hard to read. Demisexual might be part of the picture, but it doesn’t feel like the center of it.

Because it’s largely related to trauma I’ve thought about and questioned if “Caedsexual” was a closer but it’s not that my attraction was “cut away” because there is no distinct before and after. It’s been more like a river of trauma slowly waring away at the river bed of sexual attraction.

So that leads me too, “this is all complicated and confusing and wtf is nuerodivergent brain doing it’s so much to sift through” which feels like the actual core. And that’s exactly what Quiosexual is. “Not really ace, not really not ace, it’s changing and complicated and kinda both and neither.”

It doesn't matter if I experience attraction differently to most people; it doesn't matter whether or not any part of my orientation is influenced by my trauma; it doesn't matter whether or not what I feel is exactly Sexual Attraction TM or something slightly different; and it doesn't matter under what exact circumstances I tend to feel any attraction.

All that matters is what I want and am ready for, and what the other person (or people) wants and is ready for. If I want to kiss someone and I have their consent I'm gonna fucking do it. If I want to have sex with someone and I have their consent then hell yeah. Who cares what attraction I'm technically feeling? If I want to do it that's all I need to know.

I'm grey asexual. I'm weird, I'm queer, I'm different. That doesn't mean I'm not capable of giving consent, no matter what kind of attraction I'm feeling or how much. I don't need to go down ten rabbit holes to figure out exactly which microlabels I fit under in order to decide what I want to do or who with.