#consent

“You okay with this?” You can kinda whisper this. Give him ‘fuck me’ eyes, press your body against his. Tut at him when he whines and nods. Remind him; “Use your words, baby. Tell me what you want.”

Keep asking; “Is this okay?” “How’s this?” “You like this?” And when he hums a yes, ask him how much he likes it. Keep him talking. Give yourself the challenge to make him feel so good he starts blabbering about how good you feel.

Again, whisper it. Use your sexiest voice to check in. Look him in the eyes. Check in again when you’re both done and sweaty. When you’re all fucked out so he says it with a tired smile. Watch his eyes twinkle when he tells you how much he liked it. Kiss him and tell him how well he did, thank him for being so honest.

While that is true, a lot of parents will do that and fail to see how their own actions are the problem.

If you've spanked him, he's less likely to understand consent.

If you've forced him to sit on Santa's lap, he's less likely to understand consent.

If you've forced him to give hugs and kisses to family members, he's less likely to understand consent.

If you've grabbed him in order to force him to sit still, he's less likely to understand consent.

If you've labeled him as "too sensitive" for not wanting to be touched, he's less likely to understand consent.

If you've assumed he's okay with something because he technically allowed it even though he felt pressured, he's less likely to understand consent.

G...is Hannah a virgin?