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Try reflecting on your expectations of yourself and your children. Just “trying harder” and “doing better” may never help you to overcome this challenge because the issue is not with you and your ability to complete tasks. It’s an issue of self-doubt and self-worth. No amount of “getting it right” can “fix” those deeply embedded beliefs of inadequacy. Take a moment to reflect on these questions… 1. What are you saying to yourself when you feel overwhelmed? Write down 2-5 phrases 2. Is that what you would want to say to your child if you wanted them to feel supported? 3. Can you think of anyone who may have said these things to you as a child? 4. How did it make you feel then? Did it motivate and inspire you? 5. What do you wish was said to you instead? Now try to say that to yourself next time, instead. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting Read more about this in my latest e-book 👇 Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation This 186 page e-book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your healing and learning journey. Link in bio @responsive_parenting www.responsiveparentinginspirations.com #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #goodenoughparenting #goodenoughmother #perfectparenting #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #innerchildhealing #internalvoice #healingjourney #parenthood #parentlife #childhood #coregulation #attachmenttheory #toddlerlife #selfregulation #toddlers #attachmentparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #shareyourcalm #findingyourcalm #vagusnerve #parentingsupport #goodenoughmother #fatherhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ4MhpBrTlR/?utm_medium=tumblr

Try reflecting on your expectations of yourself and your children. Just “trying harder” and “doing better” may never help you to overcome this challenge because the issue is not with you and your ability to complete tasks. It’s an issue of self-doubt and self-worth. No amount of “getting it right” can “fix” those deeply embedded beliefs of inadequacy. Take a moment to reflect on these questions… 1. What are you saying to yourself when you feel overwhelmed? Write down 2-5 phrases 2. Is that what you would want to say to your child if you wanted them to feel supported? 3. Can you think of anyone who may have said these things to you as a child? 4. How did it make you feel then? Did it motivate and inspire you? 5. What do you wish was said to you instead? Now try to say that to yourself next time, instead. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting Want to learn how reflection practice can help you process emotions and change your internal narrative? Get the Guide to Survival Mode Plans where we learn about how reflection, personal boundaries and inner child healing are the keys to changing how our brain responds to stress. Go to the link in my bio or just go to the website www.responsiveparentinginspirations.com #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #goodenoughparenting #goodenoughmother #perfectparenting #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #innerchildhealing #internalvoice #healingjourney https://www.instagram.com/p/CVDMGs9gjWQ/?utm_medium=tumblr

Give yourself grace ❤️❤️❤️ thanks for this insight @tracycasselsphd Too often parents worry that they need to be perfect when raising an orchid because of the intense needs and the way in which they can respond to the less-than-ideal moments. But please - you don't! You can be yourself and make mistakes, but how you handle those mistakes will be what your orchid needs you to work on. Be open about making mistakes so they know it's okay to err too. Apologize and try to make amends so they know you're taking their emotional reactions seriously. And work towards finding longer term solutions if you see patterns repeating. These are all important for your orchid to know. Coming soon as a freebie: 5 Things Your Orchid Needs You To Know (link in Bio). #evolutionaryparenting #responsiveparenting #respectfulparenting #perfectparenting #perfectionism #perfectparent #mistakesarelessons #mistakeshappen #orchidchildren #raisingorchids #gentleparenting #orchidkids https://www.instagram.com/p/CJEo18FH8GV/?igshid=16xteutc325q8

(via Social Media Self Esteem) As Seen On TV: Parents, don't beat yourself up over parenting, by comparing your not so great projects to the picture perfect post on Social Media.