#large system

Will update this later i am lazy

we have had this blog for like nearly 2 years and are finally making an intro- (sobs)

We are the Lost Atlantis system!

we have over 300 confirmed alters and over a 1000 potential alters!

I'm jukebox (they/it/he/she + any neos) and i mainly run this blog!

Along with:

Krit (none)

Quill (he/they/it)

Marsh (she/her)

Hitch (he/they/it)

Art Kid! (they/any neos)

What we post:

general questions on things we would like to understand more

art

opinions

random thoughts

(link to our request boundaries)

(link to our agere blog)

might add more to this later anyways bye bye

The anti astro user box is by @ghosting-plural-userboxes all credits go to them!!

Have you heard of headmate packs/build a headmate stuff? Recently our system has gotten pretty into them. We've used them to form... two headmates fully from scratch (of that makes sense) and help three others define themselves after forming initially.

But in the past few days our system has come into a newfound guilt about this. Eg "why do we want our system to get bigger","why do we want so many new members", etc.

I'm not gonna lie, the new members have been immensely helpful to our system as we can form them to have specific roles that are needed for the system (eg, forming a headmate with the role of anti-depressant to help out our depression holder headmate, if that makes sense.)

I think I am the only one who hasn't been influenced or formed by a headmate pack in a while. I just showed up not too long ago. I have some... not amazing roles (isolator, persecutor, protescutor/prosecutor) and honestly, it kind of makes me feel a bit guilty for not having better roles. I'm not sure why. Does any of this make sense?

But yeah, I think we may just need some affirmation that it's alright to make new headmates, even if we don't "need" them. It's kind of nice having a bigger system, especially because recently we learned we lost our core to dormancy. We've sort of been struggling with that fact because it kind of throws any semblance of ideas of "what if im faking" out the window because the guy who was the before the system is gone now. Thay doesnt make any sense foes it. New members might help us cope with that a bit better. If that makes sense.

Apologies if there are any spelling errors in this, there's a bandaid on my finger and I can't type quite normally with it.

-🗝Charlotte (via @cloverstarsys )

Hello - we have indeed heard of headmate packs. Personally the concept makes us feel uneasy. We’re not certain what to say regarding them.

However, as for having a large system, wanting a large system, or gaining lots of members… all of these things are fine ways of being plural and normal goals to strive for. Some systems are more comfortable with sprawling member lists and multitudes of headmates. There is nothing wrong with this.

There is no wrong way to be a system or go about your own plurality. Your (collective) multiplicity is a personal journey that is dependent on your own system, not the opinions of outsiders. If forming new headmates helps you all cope, we don’t see them as not being needed. In fact, it’s alright for headmates to not be needed, or to not have roles, or to have formed without a specific purpose. What matters more is that they are wanted, and have the opportunity to feel loved, accepted, and supported by their system.

It is alright to create new headmates for fun, out of boredom, or in order to see your system size grow. There’s no wrong reason for new headmates to exist. It is all about how that headmate is treated in life. Individual origins are, in our opinion, far less important than how headmates are treated in the present.

As for feeling guilt about your role specifically… many headmates in other systems may find themselves in your shoes. One persecutor in our system regularly goes through similar bouts of guilt because of their role. For us, it is important to remind our parts with “negative” roles that they formed for a reason, and that their roles functioned by protecting us in ways that were necessary in the past. They may continue to bear these roles in the future, they may not, but what matters more is that we show them unwavering kindness and love, and treat them the same way that we treat even our most vulnerable parts.

We are uncertain if that mindset could help you. But please try to refrain from being harsh with yourself for having a role which is outside of your control. If being persecutory or isolating yourself and others is bothering you, it may be better to focus on trying to change your behaviors than hating yourself for having the role you formed with. Roles are not always set in stone, and it is quite possible for them to change with conscious choices and effort.

shout out to huge systems. systems who have hundreds or even thousands of members!! you guys get fake claimed a lot because of your system size, and just know that you are amazing and your system is so cool!! have a nice day