Queer cishets/allocishets exist.
Been seeing a lot of queer people be exclusionary lately towards cishet queers, not just here on Tumblr, but on other spaces (like Reddit) and we are getting tired of it.
Cishet isn't the opposite of queer. Neither is allocishet. The opposite of queer is conformant.
Being cisgender, allosexual, alloromantic, and heterosexual does not negate other queer identities/experiences that may be in place. Here are some examples of cishet/allocishet queers:
A person that is cishet asexual/greysexual/ace-spec.
A person that is cishet aromantic/greyromantic/aro-spec.
A person that is allocishet and on the auto spectrum.
A person is allocishet and intersex (PLEASE reblog the linked guide, by the way, it is SO IMPORTANT to share information about intersex health and bodies.)
A person that is allocishet and altersex.
A person that is allocishet and non-binary. Being cisgender & transgender are not mutually exclusive. If a person was unassigned at birth/UAB or assigned X at birth/AXAB, and later discover they are non-binary, they might consider themselves cisgender non-binary.
A person that is allocishet and gender non-conforming or pronoun non-conforming.
An allocishet person in a queer relationship with a person on the non-binary spectrum.
A person can be allocishet and in an alterous relationship, queerplatonic relationship, or wavership.
A allocishet person that personally feels as though their ambiamory/polyamory is queer.
A person that is allocishet cupiohex (meaning they engage in a sexual or romantic manner with the same/similar genders, despite experiencing no gay attraction.)
An allocishet sysmate within a queer shared-body (ie; a transgender body, an altersex body, an intersex body, etc).
When a person says "allocishets/cishets aren't welcome at pride", they end up excluding a large portion of our community. They often give off the same vibes as people who exclude queer people that are in straight-passing relationships (such as a bisexual in a "hetero" relationship, a woman dating a non-binary person that appears very masculinely, etc.)
Many people are well-meaning when they say these things, unaware of the implications and harm it can have on other queer people. But many people genuinely are exclusionists, and stand by it, despite all the examples we listed. And you never know which one you are going to get if you engage with someone who heavily monitors what people are/aren't welcome at pride.
