#bluntness

I find your bluntness quite distasteful, Mrs. Richards.

Selective Approval & Devotion

The Unseelie attitude will constantly and unconsciously pinge their emotional register for how they feel about everything, responding with affection or acute repulsion reactions. They will be disgust-sensitive, carrying a specific emotional and aesthetic palate, registering things as tasteful or "gross." They will not be afraid to call something unethical or revolting by its rightful name and will make their opinion known without apologizing. Unlike the Seelie attitude, who is willing to be generous towards people and situations --seeking to highlight the beauty beneath things-- the Unseelie person feels there is no excuse for something unseemly, amoral, or cruel that does not deserve to be excused. However, this may cause them to appear highly selective and difficult to please. They may develop a reputation as being standoffish or cold. They may be misunderstood as being ill-willed when they are instead merely standing for what they value and consider good. While initially guarded, the Unseelie attitude will be a very gentle and sweet presence to all who can get past their initial barriers, revealing themselves to be loyal and ever-honest friends.

Self-Focus & Idiosyncrasy

The Unseelie person will be self-possessed, righteously independent and exhibit that through unusual habits and appearances. They will dress in ways that encapsulate their individuality, having little regard for how aligned it is to the cultural norm. Unafraid to be seen as bizarre, the Unseelie person is eccentric, idiosyncratic, and bold. Focusing on their own needs and values first, these adamant non-conformists will fight for their right to their body, their gender, and their expression. Like a rose behind glass --poised, elegant but protected-- they may elicit the feeling of being ever out of reach. Moreover, while the Unseelie individual may enjoy this adulation, they are not primarily motivated by it. Their conscious goal may be to allow their existing nature --or nature itself-- to speak through them, becoming a vessel or vehicle for what is already inside. If they take a liking for theatre, music, or dance, their illustrations will be dramatic, carrying themes of sexuality, primal displays, and romance.

Bluntness

The Unseelie type is notoriously blunt in their verbal delivery. Not beating around the bush, they will convey their opinion with a deadpan face. Wonderful or bad news may be relayed with the same monotone voice or with a glimmer of sarcasm. They may have no problem telling someone they are fired, telling a lover their relationship is over, or negatively criticizing people's works or art. However, this can eventually expand into a highly calloused view of life where any appreciation for sensitivity is omitted. They may respond to the tragedies or hardships of others with "get over it" and lack sympathy for themselves or anyone else. Over time, this habit may excommunicate them from friend groups- a causality they may feel indifferent to initially but personally weighed by later. They may be branded the local "asshole," shrugging it off or biting back in equal measure. Hiding behind this rebellious front, the Unseelie person may have lost the ability to convey their transparent feelings to others when it truly matters to them. They will struggle with vulnerability and the opening of their heart. Coming off as guarded even when they intend to appear sincere, the Unseelie person may be forced to show their affection for others through indirect means, being highly generous with their time, money, or resources and hoping their feelings can somehow reach the other person.

-Under Stress

Vanity & Self-Obsession

When highly distressed, the Unseelie attitude becomes obsessed with their appearance, social status, and personal value. As hardships cause devastation to their self-esteem, it starts to matter terribly that others think them beautiful and valuable. What was once genuine self-expression becomes a necessary channel for attention. Their self-focus deteriorates into vanity. Their desire to embody beauty becomes an obsession to receive external approval and to fill an emotional abyss. They may come to feel they only matter if they are beautiful and can embody elegance in the world. They may become exhibitionists, raising the stakes higher and more revealing than most in their attire and words. Narcissism grows in them, which can progress into a desire to be exalted and adored as royalty. However, unfortunately, one is never enough: never beautiful enough, rich enough, or important enough, which eventually devolves into jealousy, bitterness, and petty hatred towards others who sit higher than them in any competing domain.

Bitchiness

This pettiness degrades over time into a foul character marked by passive-aggressiveness, slandering, and prejudice. Here, the stressed individual exemplifies genuine malicious intent towards others, coordinating underhanded tactics to sabotage relationships and defame their enemies. They may gossip behind their backs, distorting people's opinions and setting people up for public humiliation. The Unseelie type under stress comes to be known as a "bitch" or snob, rejecting people based on lower status and power. They will use these tactics to secure their position in power, simultaneously validating their opinion of themselves. However, this power dynamic may just as easily backfire and cause the Unseelie type to become the subject of ridicule and excommunication when their ill-willed motivations are known. They play a dangerous game of fraud and fame, risking love and reputation. However, deep down, they may be indifferent to these outcomes, motivated not just by a desire for status but just as much by a misanthropic view and resentment towards people.

Morbidity & Macabre

Most of the time flowers don’t really care about gender, regardless of what society wants to say. They don’t change meaning regardless of whether of man or a woman holds them. Neither does gender have an influence on the meaning when people stand next to each other. However, the relationship of the characters does more than often, as it can influence how the meaning of the flower is perceived. That being said, of course there are exceptions. There are always exceptions to everything.

Victorian

borage – bluntness, rudeness

edelweiss – noble courage, daring, courage, noble purity

lily (white) – purity, sweetness, purity and sweetness, virginity, majesty, it’s heaven to be with you, youth

mullein – take courage, good natured

poplar (black) – courage

protea – courage

Hanakotoba

edelweiss – courage, power, important memories

lily (white) – purity, chastity

plantanus orientalis – curiosity, genius

White lilies are generally associated with funerals in western societies, however in China lilies (in general) are supposed to bring sons to a family (the rapid sequence of flowers is a symbol for childbearing). Which is why they are often given to women on their wedding days or birthdays. The name of the flower sounds like part of a saying that translates to “happy union for a hundred years”. So they are popular gifts for any occasion since lilies are believed to help people forget their troubles.

– Mod Jana

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