#aroawareness

Some Aro Songs! I had fun with the graphic design :) 

Will Jay - Never Been In Love

This song is pretty popular amongst the aro community, I think. Will Jay is a really talented singer and I listen to him normally but I appreciate this catchy up beat denial of romantic culture. There’s a lot of sadness caused by others and culture when we identify as aro, but he presents a happiness in not falling in love. 

bülow - Not A Love Song

This song describes the perspective of an aroallo. Not every aro is asexual by default. I also feel this song is good beyond aromantic culture. Because fuck thinking sex is a sin. People both shame sex and then call people broken for not wanting sex or feeling sexual attraction. And at the end of the day, fuck off. It’s not your business whether people have sex or not.

Danko Jones - Don’t Fall In Love

This song is an upbeat and loud song, calling love bullshit. 

Dearlie - For Me

This song is about asexuality, but works as an aromantic, or aroace song! 

Jetty Bones - No Lover

Not everyone needs a lover, sometimes a friend is more than enough. 

Mike FonzaRelli Roberts - Aromantic 

This aro song is a good description of what aromanticism is. 

NIIC - I Don’t Need Love 

Just another cool song discussing how we don’t need love :) !

Stealth - I Don’t Need Your Love 

This song feels very aro coded to me. I think a lot of aro coded things can be seen as romance repulsed alloromantics or people who talk about the heartbreaks of love. Though we aren’t the same as them and the distinction is important, it’s nice to have those aro vibes.

The Avett Brothers - Pretend Love

What it feels like to be an aro and be in a relationship, but you’re faking the love.

Mother Mother - Alone and Sublime

My favorite band :))) The song is aro coded, especially the line “I wonder, did they make me right? Aren't I supposed to wanna fight for love”

Max Lizanich - Aromantic Moodboard

A lovely aro song about what it feels to be aro.

FluffyEnderBug - Can We Just Be Friends?

This one is real obscure so I linked it :) ! It’s an aromantic version of the phrase “can we just be friends?”.

Aromantic - Lee Porteous

Also slightly unknown. Just a soft and gentle song about someone discovering they’re aro.

This playlist was fun for me to make! I hope you liked it and feel free to share more songs below :)

-being told you’ll one day figure it out 

- being told you’re broken 

 - constantly asked if you love your parents/friends 

 - forcing you into romantic/sexual environments when you show uncomfortableness

 - “you’re too young to know”

 - “you’ll like it when you try”

- “are you sure you’re not just ill/sick?” 

- “i’m celibate too!!” (this could be very harmful since it is participating in the erasure of ace identities) 

 - “how can you not fall in love?”

 - “i can change you” 

- “aro/ace identities are caused by trauma”

-saying someone isn’t ace for being cupio/positive 4 sex/romance 

 -“You just haven’t met the right person” 

-“ace/aro are not queer” -“ace/aro arent discriminated against “ 

-“ace/aro isn’t LGBTQ+” 

-“are you sureeeee you’re asexual?/aromantic?” 

- “i think you’re confused”

In one word: fuck

I've figured I don't feel romantic attraction much at all, when I do its rare, and usually for someone I really shouldn't like.

I'm great at confusing kinds of attraction too. But I think I've only ever liked one person romantically, and even after a while it felt like maybe it was am excuse not to like anyone else.

Sorry too busy pining after my straight friend to like poeple.

Aka too busy not feeling attraction to people.

What's even worse is like.... I'll think I like someone, but its usually just the idea of them, and I usually loose feelings fast.

There's also the case of this other person...we'll call them Iz, who I went back and forth between thinking I liked them and not.

Then we broke up, and I was fine. Until about a week later when it hit me like a shit ton of bricks.

I'm not sure if I was lonely, or just numb and depressed when we broke up???

And maybe my lack of romantic attraction is just depression numbness and shit.