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to be clear you SHOULD buy that cast iron pan and you SHOULD buy that knife set and you SHOULD buy that fancy rice cooker and you SHOULD buy that novelty mug. high quality kitchenware is always worth it you’re literally gonna be using that almost every day
I recently participated in this trans heart health study and they urgently need more participants before their funding runs out this summer (in 2026) as they've had less than 10(!!!) so far (it's crazy).
If you're a trans person in the UK who's been on HRT for 2+ years and can reasonably get to Leicester (they reimbourse travel expenses and buy you lunch), consider participating!
You'd be doing a good thing for our community at large, get a heart check-up while you're at it, and if you do the MRI scan you even get to see a video of your heart beating, it's really cool!
The study is run by some lovely people who are trying to establish normal values for trans people's heart health cause apparently heart size varies by sex, and HRT changes it, so cardiologists currently straight up don't know what is normal for trans patients.
The study involves pedalling on an exercise bike and getting an MRI scan as the two main bits, but all parts are optional if you're not comfortable with any of them. (They're happy to accomodate for any access needs and can give you more detail when you email them.)
Naila, the researcher from the above study, is currently running a short, anonymous survey exploring what stops some transgender people from taking part in research studies.
It takes about 4 minutes to complete, and all responses are confidential!
Literally last week some guy stopped us in the street to tell us we need a license for our walking stick, and then, after trying to influence us to go to a Private Doctor, yelled after us saying he's sorry and he wishes he could heal us 😬???? "If I could make you better I would" dude... Our walking stick makes life better, we're not sad to have it.
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TW mentioning of TBMC, programming
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System mapping can be a really helpful tool when trying to get to know your system and what you experienced. Getting to know your system takes a long time, don't try to rush it. Also don't overwhelm yourself when you first start tracking, try to start with very basic information and add onto it as you learn more about your system. No need for aesthetically pleasing templates and extremely long questionnaires, although feel free to do that if it helps. Maps should be redone frequently to add new information and catch system changes. It's usually recommended to keep them in a binder or otherwise together in an app or journal.
Please evaluate your own environment and how safe you are at the moment. See how much information you can safely track in your specific situation. A safety net may be helpful for system mapping especially later on when it's more about what happened to you.
Don't share sensitive system information with people you can't trust. You don't need to prove anything to anyone. Keep your medical data safe.
What is safety? (link)
Tracking general information:
Tracking alters: tracking alters can be helpful to see how they differ from each other and to get a basic understanding about the members of your system. usually people track information like names, age, pronouns, sexuality, gender, likes, dislikes, how they look in the inner world and what role/job they fulfill in the system. other helpful information can be personality traits, how to tell if fronting and triggers.
Tracking inner relationships: tracking relationships between alters can be helpful for seeing how they are connected to each other and what could be subsystems. it can also help you see on which alter communication you still need to work on. you can do this visually with mind mapping apps or on a piece of paper.
Tracking sub- /sidesystems, layers: this can be a tricky task at first and not every system has subsystems, sidesystems or layers. subsystems refer to some kind of internal alter group that is connected in any way. they may be from the same split, split off from the same alter at different times, front together, hold the same memories, are in one area of the innerworld, etc. sidesystems are systems formed from mind control programming that are extremely separate from other sub- /sidesystems with a very high amnesia and only containing programmed alters. they function similar to subsystems but with higher amnesia and usually no awareness of other sub- /sidesystems. layers are often referred to as vertically stacked and separate parts of the innerworld. they can appear differently than vertically stacked. a sub- /sidesystem may also be a layer or can access multiple layers.
Tracking front changes: this can be helpful for seeing how much who fronts and who may be frequent fronters or hosts. it can also help with recollection of what happened before you where in front. it can be tedious and it isn't helpful for everyone. you can simply track switches on paper in your physical journal, use a plural app or use a community plug in for obsidian tracking.
Tracking the innerworld: tracking the innerworld can be helpful in getting to know your inner structure more. not everyone already has a innerworld and not everyone is able to build one. but it's always good to try and give your alters a safe place to communicate in the innerworld. you can track areas of the innerworld with apps like foretelling or other world building apps, create your own template for another app or a physical journal. you can also make pinterest boards to visualize them better.
Tracking trauma related information:
this should only be done in a private place and probably separate from alter profiles/pages so they do not get triggered while just tracking basic information. please do this with caution and don't dig for more information. only track this when you feel safe and know how to cope with flashbacks and other symptoms that might come up.
Tracking splitting dates and causes: again not everyone is able to do this but it can help with understanding how your splits are connected to real life events. this is a heavy map to do and takes a long time, feel free to take as many breaks as you need, don't rush this. you can start with doing a map of traumatic or other big events that happened throughout your life, a timeline would be helpful for this. don't write too many details just big events that help you connect the years to memories. then you can connect the alter who split during that time period with the events that caused them to split. later on you can also track who split from who or merged with who.
Tracking flashbacks: this is helpful for understanding what happened to you and so you do not forget the flashbacks you have. tracking reoccurring themes in dreams/nightmares, bodily flashbacks, phobias without known cause, emotional flashbacks and memory flashbacks all can help you figure out the connection of those events.
Other sources to check out:
Mapping for DID/OSDD systems (link)
System mapping isn't easy (link)
System Work in a Sand tray (link)
With what to track?
every method will have very personal pros and cons, this is something you need to try for yourself and evaluate what helps you best.
physical journal
plural apps like hivemind, ourcana, pluralspace, plural log, ampersand, Lighthouse etc.
note apps like notion or obsidian (there are some templates online to help you set it up)
System mapping is the process of making a model of your system in some way.
Many systems make system maps. A system list is a system map in one of its simplest forms, but there are a lot of other kinds of system maps that people might make to get more information. Some system maps might show internal structure and lines of communication. Some show relationships or opinions. Some show common themes and differences between system members. Etc.
There's really no wrong way to make a map. What matters is that the map is useful to you- it should give you information that helps you work with your system better. It might give you a better understanding of why your system works the way it does, or it might tell you who might need support or who might need to work on establishing communication.
Communication
Sometimes, it can be useful to map out who in your system can talk to whom. This is a very simple kind of map to make, and it gives you useful information about your system that ranges from "huh, these two can't reach each other" to "there's a gap here- are we missing someone?"
Lay out every known system member on a piece of paper. If two people can talk to each other, draw a line between them. If the communication is one-way only, draw an arrow. If two people can't reach each other, don't connect them. If two people can reach each other indirectly but you don't know who's linking them together like that, draw a line with a gap in it.
You might also add dotted lines for weak or unreliable communication, or other kinds of lines for other special cases.
Relationship
It can be helpful to know how different system members get along (or don't). Relationships in a system can be mapped with something similar to a shipping diagram, and looking at the resulting map can make it very obvious if someone is overall liked, disliked, rejected, etc. It can also point out interesting patterns in who gets along and who doesn't.
Draw your system members arranged in a circle. Then, draw color-coded (or otherwise coded- make a key) lines between members that like each other, dislike each other, or have other important opinions about each other.
Structure
Sometimes, drawing the arrangement of your system can teach you how to work with it better.
If two people feel close to each other (e.g. they may have unusually easy communication, common interests or themes, common issues, etc.), then draw them close together. If two people feel far apart (e.g. poor communication, lots of differences and disagreements, don't really understand each other), then draw them far apart.
By the end of this, you have a map that shows you which people are clustered together and which people are disconnected, rejected, or otherwise pushed away. This can be very useful when trying to bring any cast-out people closer to the rest of your group, as it can make isolation very obvious.
You can also map other aspects of system structure. For example, you might consider mapping the relationship between the different places that people can occupy in your system (front, back, etc.):
This kind of map can be very abstract sometimes. We have a few structure maps that we've made over the years, and they probably don't make a ton of sense to people that aren't in our group, but they've helped us a lot.
You might also consider mapping associations. What colors are associated with your system members? Do they have common themes or imagery? Does everyone associated with the color green have a hard time talking to people associated with blue? Are powerful people usually associated with certain species?
Timeline
Sometimes, it can be helpful to make a timeline of important life events that happened to your group. If you have guesses about when some people showed up or changed, then putting those dates on the timeline can give you insight into what those people might be dealing with.
Content warning for trauma, suicide and egocide, and general unpleasantry if you read this one. We censored the most sensitive parts (and those we'd simply prefer to keep private), but it's still heavier than the other maps in this post.
Headspace
If your headspace is possible to map, then sometimes mapping it can teach you something about your system. It doesn't have to be very detailed to help, nor does it have to be entirely logical.
We don't have the one headspace map we've made in easy reach, unfortunately, and it's out of date. That said, conventional land mapping tricks will often work for places in headspace. Recreating headspace in a game like The Sims or Minecraft is also an option.
If multiple places overlap, then consider making a pop-up map or otherwise representing that overlap- it can be useful information. Likewise, if parts of headspace correspond to parts of your body or parts of your system, then it can be helpful to make a note about that.
Adapting for Large and Complex Systems
Larger systems may not all fit on one piece of paper. Complex systems may not fit on a 2D surface at all- there might be layers involved that need a 3D surface. System mapping still works for these cases, but you may need to approach it a little differently.
Try mapping your system's subgroups instead of individual people.
Try making multiple maps for different "regions" of the system. Consider including information on how those maps connect together.
Make good use of color coding and keys to pack more information into a smaller space.
Try mapping by using digital drawing programs and tools. A digital canvas can be much larger than a physical one.
Try mapping in 3D. Make a sculpture, stack sheets of paper, fold the paper, use the back side, draw a 3D shape, and experiment with other ways of arranging the map to better reflect your situation.
Use multiple kinds of map. Each map is likely to have part of the overall picture, and looking at them together is likely to give you useful information about how it all fits together.
Finally: system mapping is not required. It can be helpful for some systems, but it won't work for everyone, and some systems find that it harms them or makes their lives harder to live. If mapping doesn't work for you, then that's okay- there are plenty of other ways to get to know your system better. Do what works.
I think one of the gentlest things in the world is when a friend just gets your weird little brain. like you say half a sentence and they finish it. you reference something incredibly niche from seven years ago and they’re already nodding. they understand your strange vocabulary for emotions that don’t have real words yet. it’s being seen and known and still loved. maybe especially because you’re known. god. what a gift.
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>The nature of fictionkin is that quite often someone will not awaken until their source or world or whatever you would like exists and is shown to them in this world_
>And that's a big if it's shown too_
>It's not dissimilar to a therian needing to know their species exists before they can identify it_
>I have an identity that's neither fiction nor fact and if one day something similar to it comes to this world I might call it that new thing instead_
>No matter what, being negative towards those whose kintypes align purely with current pop media is ridiculous_
>In five years that thing won't be as popular but that fictionkin will still persist_
>Believing it won't is to believe that the fictionkin experience is flimsy and less legitimate than other nonhumanity_
>Which makes you an antikin even if you support other kinds of otherkinity_
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A high quality “expensive” pair of shoes is one of the thriftiest ways to spend over $100 because if you have good shoes it reduces stress on literally every joint in your body. Please do not ever thrift-OCD yourself into wearing bad shoes
I have to give the hardest possible plug for Orthofeet here. My fiancée introduced me to this company when I was lamenting the fact that it feels difficult to find orthopedic shoes that aren’t kinda fugly and unfashionable. These are some of the most comfortable shoes I’ve ever worn and for both pairs I own there was very minimal breaking-in needed, they were just comfortable right out of the box. I walked around a ren faire with hills and uneven terrain for several hours in these ankle boots and I felt about the same level of tired I’ve felt after walking around in sneakers all day.
They’re not cheap shoes, but almost all of them are under $150 and it’s 100% a worthwhile investment. They have a pretty generous wear testing policy—you can wear them up to 60 days and still get a full refund if you don’t like them. There’s also lots of different styles so there’s kinda something for everyone.
it's also worth looking into Morton's Foot! And if you have it, then I definitely recommend purchasing some of the ProKinetics insoles, which you can put into Literally Any Pair Of Shoes, and/or swap between multiple pairs of shoes depending on which pair you feel like wearing that day
bonus info
1) the ProKinetic insoles might not play well with those Orthofeet shoes, so be wary of that!
2) ProKinetics actually swears by shoes like Converse being the best shoes for their Insoles! just saying
3) if you don't want to pay 80$ for some insoles (that you can then put in shoes you already own, btw,) you can just get some moleskin (like a 5$ purchase) to put on your shoes' Already Present insole like so and see if that helps - if it does, then consider making the purchase
4) definitely poke around the Morton's Foot site (mortonsfoot.com) so they can explain some of the science to you on why the insoles help. I like this page.
I like Aetrex shoes and insoles similarly, and I always get the green Superfeet insoles for hiking boots.
Also, once you've gone and spent money on good, supportive shoes, take good care of them! Shoe polish is cheap and a tin of it lasts forever and will keep your leather shoes looking nice longer when they inevitably acquire scuffs. And use a shoe horn!!! It's just a cheap piece of plastic, but it will save the heel ends of your shoes from getting smashed into uselessness. I've been wearing my favorite boots near daily for four years so far and they still look good and fit well.