the phrase really should be "eat your cake and have it too" im with the unabomber on this one
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the phrase really should be "eat your cake and have it too" im with the unabomber on this one

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yknow I'm feeling a bit brave so I will venture to say what this blighted essay's pitch actually is: reading project hail mary (novel and film) as a ravishment fantasy. in both main threads of the narrative grace is brought wildly out of his element and pulled into the orbit of a mysterious foreign stranger who is significantly stronger / richer / more powerful than him, forced to accept unsolicited lavish gifts and personal praise despite protests and discomfort, and made to live in isolated locations in extremely close proximity to these people with no say in the matter, all of which are common motifs in ravishment fantasies. on her own, stratt also brings in other common motifs of restraints, drugging, being above the law, multiple kidnappings (I'm doing crazy things with the classical definition of "rape" as in "abduction" and its shared etymology with "rapture" as in "being taken to the heavens"), and the very specific yet still common motif of "otherwise trustworthy partner goes too far and doesn't take 'no' for an answer." rocky on his own brings in the overprotective flavor common to a lot of dark romance novel heroes, i.e. "I make sure you sleep and I like to watch you while you do it, I make sure you eat enough even if you've got baggage about it, I make inhuman displays of strength when you're injured, and as long as I'm around I'll make sure nothing bad ever happens to you ever again."
the issue I was running into with researching this a few weeks ago is that almost all of the scholarly writing on the content of people's forced-sex fantasies focuses solely on women's fantasies and starts with the research question of "why would women enjoy imagining such a horrible misogynistic thing?" despite surveys often showing that men have force-fantasies (where they are the one being forced) at very comparable rates to women. my hypothesis for a bit was "either men's fantasies are exactly the same as women's or they're completely different in [x] way," which was disproven interestingly when I did finally find something about men's force-fantasies: in content they are almost exactly the same as women's fantasies but the emotional motivations are often different in [y] way, which I hadn't expected. and [y] also super applies to my buddy ryland, perhaps even more than my original [x] hypothesis.
my hopes for writing this are twofold: a) to address the question I sometimes see phm audience members come away with of "if grace likes his life by the end and doesn't seem that mad about all of that, is the message supposed to be 'violation of bodily autonomy is good, actually?'", and b) to lightly resist one of the prevailing notions in the study of forced-sex fantasies, that ravishment fantasies are solely abstracted and fantastical and pleasurable and are completely 100% separate from fearful paranoid imaginings of / flashbacks to realistic sexual violence.
oh also: the most common interpretation of why people have ravishment fantasies is that it allows the fantasist to disavow a desire they feel ashamed of because, in the fiction of the forcing, they don't *want* it at all, they're being made to do whatever it is and can't be considered at fault. as I allude to in my final paragraph of the original post, I think it's a tad more nuanced, but there's definitely a lot of truth to that. grace can tell stratt that he's not smart or important or capable or brave or selfless enough to do what she wants, but she'll ignore it, make him do it anyway, and kit him out with skilled staff members and expensive lab equipment and coffee just the way he likes it. it's a fantasy of being respected and heroic and good whether he likes it or not.
with rocky, the fantasy is of being forced to be loved and protected. rocky decides to initiate contact, he decides that he's moving into the hail mary, he decides that he's always going to watch grace sleep even if grace says he doesn't need it, he decides to gift grace the fuel to get home even when grace pretends he doesn't want it, and he decides he's not going to let grace die to save him even when grace says he's made his choice. the two scenarios allow grace to experience the rewards of being selfless without needing to be so gauche as to ever say he thinks he's that good of a person AND to experience the rewards of being selfish without saying he thinks he deserves to be cared for.
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went to my browser to try and do a task, stared blankly and typed in "tired.xom" before remembering what I was going to do. Having a time
why dont you make like a tree and feel the breeze and the sun and the changing of the seasons. and Grow

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they should invent a high ponytail that doesnβt give me a headache and they should invent a low ponytail that doesnβt make me look like a millerβs apprentice going off to enlist in the continental army
pigtails really help with the strain compared to high ponytail imo
This is not a particularly original thought (I've probably made this exact post before myself) but one of the bleaker vast cultural gulfs out there is and likely shall remain the one between 'material children can understand and engage with' and 'material guardians and gatekeepers are comfortable thinking about their children engaging with'.
The beautiful but brief period where video stores just threw every animated movie in the same section and vast numbers of parents just assumed all cartoons were for kids was a little golden age in this regard. We need to come up with a new way to trick middle class helicopter parents into letting their 7-year-olds watch Watership Down again.
And always more raspberries to pick.
When I have no specific plans to use them immediately I find itβs best to freeze them loose in a tray.
Then afterwards put them in a container for storage in the freezer.
All art is on a continuum of preachiness
*experiences joint pain* we are losing the skeleton war

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Finally a hand sewing tutorial on a hemline that isn't just the ladder stitch! the ladder stitch disappears when you tighten it, but it's not meant for hemlines because it breaks really easily! The overlock stitch is more stable, so it holds much longer, and it won't pucker or warp the fabric!
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OH HELL THE FUCK YES
yknow I'm feeling a bit brave so I will venture to say what this blighted essay's pitch actually is: reading project hail mary (novel and film) as a ravishment fantasy. in both main threads of the narrative grace is brought wildly out of his element and pulled into the orbit of a mysterious foreign stranger who is significantly stronger / richer / more powerful than him, forced to accept unsolicited lavish gifts and personal praise despite protests and discomfort, and made to live in isolated locations in extremely close proximity to these people with no say in the matter, all of which are common motifs in ravishment fantasies. on her own, stratt also brings in other common motifs of restraints, drugging, being above the law, multiple kidnappings (I'm doing crazy things with the classical definition of "rape" as in "abduction" and its shared etymology with "rapture" as in "being taken to the heavens"), and the very specific yet still common motif of "otherwise trustworthy partner goes too far and doesn't take 'no' for an answer." rocky on his own brings in the overprotective flavor common to a lot of dark romance novel heroes, i.e. "I make sure you sleep and I like to watch you while you do it, I make sure you eat enough even if you've got baggage about it, I make inhuman displays of strength when you're injured, and as long as I'm around I'll make sure nothing bad ever happens to you ever again."
the issue I was running into with researching this a few weeks ago is that almost all of the scholarly writing on the content of people's forced-sex fantasies focuses solely on women's fantasies and starts with the research question of "why would women enjoy imagining such a horrible misogynistic thing?" despite surveys often showing that men have force-fantasies (where they are the one being forced) at very comparable rates to women. my hypothesis for a bit was "either men's fantasies are exactly the same as women's or they're completely different in [x] way," which was disproven interestingly when I did finally find something about men's force-fantasies: in content they are almost exactly the same as women's fantasies but the emotional motivations are often different in [y] way, which I hadn't expected. and [y] also super applies to my buddy ryland, perhaps even more than my original [x] hypothesis.
my hopes for writing this are twofold: a) to address the question I sometimes see phm audience members come away with of "if grace likes his life by the end and doesn't seem that mad about all of that, is the message supposed to be 'violation of bodily autonomy is good, actually?'", and b) to lightly resist one of the prevailing notions in the study of forced-sex fantasies, that ravishment fantasies are solely abstracted and fantastical and pleasurable and are completely 100% separate from fearful paranoid imaginings of / flashbacks to realistic sexual violence.
#i am seated at the table i am SEATED at the table#phm#i was not in fact kidding when i said phm was a STEM bodice ripper
I love people using music notes and symbols to indicate words spoken in Eridian, but everytime the notation is wrong it makes me FERAL
CLEFS GO IN FRONT OF NOTES!!!! ACCIDENTALS (the little # and b symbols) GO IN FRONT OF NOTES!!!! STOP PUTTING THEM ON THE END!!!!!
op I understand your objection. however I am now imagining you as a character in my brand new headcanon where eridians learn about music notes from Grace (knows nothing about music) and technically they have access to Wikipedia and can learn how to construct them correctly but. They don't care. They use them in a way that seems ~*aesthetic*~ (like westerners do with Chinese characters or Japanese people do with English letters) and do not bother to check if this is at all Correct before forming some random set of conventions about how musical notation is to be used to denote Eridian (completely unrelated to how it's used on Earth) and decades later a team of ambassadors comes to Erid and one (you) happens to have a musical education and is completely tearing their hair out about But It's All Fucking Wrong
That's a side quest. You're supposed to go find him.
Or at least find his environmental storytelling skeleton along with a unique weapon or piece of armor.

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a hot tip you may not know about tumblr desktop: you can use the j/k keys to go back and forth by one post! it's like vim!
crucially, it doesn't matter how big the post is!
it's a shame that housing supply is a cause that only seems to appeal to policy wonks when it's like. at a society-killing level of bad in most of the Anglosphere. anyone with any level of passion just doesn't seem to be interested, or is actively on the NIMBY side
i think this is much less true now than 10 years ago and also depends a lot on where you are-- eg I live in a DC suburb and afaict more than half of the local candidates in recent primaries were at least trying to pitch themselves as being pro-supply (even if they secretly weren't -- there's so little actual local journalism that I trust, sometimes the only way to find out is basically by watching city council meetings yourself and seeing what people actually say). For some reason the YIMBY narrative seems to be mostly #winning even though the actual candidates aren't sweeping yet (but winning a substantial fraction of the seats!)