The Invisible Hand of Your Mom wiping your butt for you so you can pretend like youâre having Important Man Thoughts
This makes me think about how Emily Dickinson was writing her poems and suffering from chronic depression but still somehow found time to contribute to the housekeeping and do all the baking and look after her sick mother. The Brontes sisters too still had to run the house for their elderly father and addict brother (who by all accounts did nothing and slept most of the day) while writing their poems and novels. Women writers have never enjoyed this privilege. .Â
Jane Austen only had a small desk in a public room.
After you learn more about women writers in the past, you really understand A Room of Oneâs Own.
Every single time you learn of a âself made manâ know that there is no such thing. One started the lie and the next simply perpetuated it.
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Iâve written a lot in the past about the importance of Virginia Woolfâs A Room of Oneâs Own and how y'all need to read it. Iâm trying to get out if the habit of writing essays before I get out of bed, so I wonât go into it all again now, but: PLEASE READ A Room of Oneâs Own.
She was asked to speak on âWomen and fictionâ (and God, people still pull this crap, although nowadays itâs genre specific) and her response was one part âWTF kind of topic is that?â and five parts, âLook, if you want to know anything about women and fiction you need to at least give them the same bloody opportunities that men have had to write. Namely:
âA room of oneâs own and ÂŁ500 a yearâ (about ÂŁ35,000 or something now). And shy didnât mean âa well-payimg jobâ she meant a guaranteed income you didnât have to work for. You know, like Mr Darcy had. ÂŁ500 is a lot less than Mr Darcy, but itâs enough that you can pay someone else to clean and never have to worry about rent or bills or food. You know, about what most of the great male authors in history had.
The idea of comparing men and womenâs contributions when they havenât had the same opportunities and saying something intelligible about it, sheâs saying, is nonsense.
Itâs also where Shakespeareâs Sister originates.
She sticks to that one topic, but honestly, the point applies whatever your marginalisation. Do you have a room of your own and enough to live without financial worry? No? Then give yourself some slack.
P.S. you can read it for free online, just run a quick search.



























