bi, fly, and ready to cry

the jacob wysocki tulpa manifesting inside my brain:

generally, hold 30 to 60 seconds

🦒 stuck standing?

spread legs a comfortable distance apart and clasp hands behind back, then slowly bend forward (arms are free to move with shoulders going forward; our focus is on hips)

similar leg spread but hands pressed together in front, then squat down as far as comfortable

🌉 free to use floor?

from belly, place hands under shoulders then slowly push your torso up while keeping hips planted on ground; adjust as needed to feel stretch in hips and remember to not strain the spine/neck

from back with knees bent, engage your butt muscles to assist lifting hips up until there is a "ramp" from knees to shoulders (held bridge pose helps stretch muscles while repeating bridge pose helps build muscles. probably)

from back with knees to chest, clasp hands around the middle of one thigh and let legs fall back til arms are comfortably straight, then bring the other leg up to fold so ankle crosses over held thigh (makes a 4-like shape, where top of number is hips and pointed leg is the side of the hip you'll feel The Stretch in). repeat for other side!

🦋 butterfly seating?

like if you are marginalized it is in your own self-interest to interrogate and deconstruct the cultural narratives that position you as subnormal. this is what starts a lot of queer people on wanting to reform the world into something more compassionate and egalitarian.

Misogyny is not just prejudice experienced by a woman. It is not simply something that happens TO a woman. It has nothing to do with the woman. It’s about the misogynist.

Bigotry is not determined or defined by the target of that bigotry. The bigotry is stored in the bigot.

Misogynists will be misogynistic towards any person they associate with femininity, including cisgender men.

When a misogynist cis man tears another man down for liking something he thinks is girly, he is still being misogynistic.

A cis male coach telling his cis male student he runs like a girl is being misogynistic.

A cis woman punishing her son for wanting a “girl” toy or policing her boyfriend’s hygiene habits and interests for anything she considers emasculating, is being misogynistic!

When a woman gets in a car accident and is injured more severely because the safety testing on that car was only done using crash test dummies and models based on men, she’s experiencing misogyny.

When the medication she takes for her injuries doesn’t work right or has unexpected side effects because it was only tested on men, she’s experiencing misogyny.

When the tools she uses at work that are the wrong shape for her hands, and the jumpsuit that’s part of her uniform which she has to take off completely to use the bathroom, and all the spaces she moves through and everything within them are designed with the assumption that an average male body is the only body that matters— she is experiencing misogyny.

Misogyny is the belief that women are inherently inferior, and the systems and institutions built around that belief. It can be experienced by anyone, and anyone is capable of having misogynistic beliefs and doing misogynistic things.

Bigotry is not about the target. It’s about the bigot, and what the bigot believes, and the way those bigoted beliefs have shaped our world.

I don’t care what race gender or sexuality you are, you were raised with racist, sexist, homophobic beliefs. Because it’s literally impossible not to be.

it's not just "that doctor has internalized misogyny" it's that western medicine is, as in so many parts of our culture, deeply authoritarian. the patient is meant to be a passive problem to be solved by the active doctor. there is meant to be a stark harsh line between you and the doctor, where you are pure of any medical knowledge and simply report the raw data & let the doctor interpret it. this is how the system works. it fucks over marginalized groups the most because that's how marginalization works, but even a thin white abled cis man could get fucked over by this shit if he's unlucky.

I've worked medical for over a decade (10 years as OR Attendant, 4 years as Anesthesia Supply Tech, 3 years BHA)

I agree fully with the above post that so much of what makes medical terrible is the fact that patients are seen problems to be solved and that if your problem isn't easily solved it's because YOU, THE PATIENT, have fucked up in some way.

The constant assumption that if you can't be "cured" it's because you're actually just lying and it's not really that bad.

The constant assumption that if you aren't cis, het, and white then the medical workers have to be on egg shells around you or risk a lawsuit.

The constant attempts to just speak at the patient and expect that patient to believe, understand, and go along with everything you say.

This all comes down to a fundemental interpretation of the medical team being at odds with the patient.

Good medical care, the medical care we should be expecting and moving towards, is always going to be collaborative. A patient is a PART of the care team, always.

I've had patients tell me things that they never would have told the Dr. just because I sat with them for a bit and let them be very vulnerable about their thoughts and ideas.

I've had small break throughs with some of my psych patients where they literally just told me "I think it might be X based on what I read online." and we discussed why they think this and what exploring this possability would look like for them. "Yes, I can see where you're coming from. Let's explore that together and create a care plan and see what happens. Worst case scenario, we get some data to use together."