you learn Ronan called Gansey a faggot for weeks and you think oh Ronans an asshole and then you keep reading and you realise oh he’s manifesting

unrestrained summer fun

cant argue with an older woman who’s even slightly authoritative, like yes ma’am, whatever you say beautiful

the bad thing about having unhealthy habits due to mental illness, is when you DO do something healthy style you can't brag about about it because then people will then know you've been doing it yucky style all along. Like you can't brag you changed your sheets or brushed your teeth because then ppl will be like oh did you not brush your teeth regularly before? Thats yucky disgusting! So you just gotta keep it to yourself. And be proud alone, I suppose.

“Why do straight men act so gay with each other haha” bc they find gayness to be funny and feel the need to emasculate each other even when it’s on a friendly level. Do you have any other stupid fucking questions to ask me

These notes make me so fucking sad dude. Yes, this behavior is rooted in homophobia, but it's also rooted in the fact that men are socialized to never seriously express emotional vulnerability or affection for one another. They must make it into a joke to avoid being taken seriously and therefore made fun of. It's all rooted in homophobia, of course, and the fear of seeming gay, but it is also extremely damaging. The lack of nuance or sympathy in this conversation is highly disappointing.

U can’t use socialization as an excuse for this bullshit when ur a grown ass adult lol we all grow up with things to unlearn

I always loved how back in the day before cellphones, people were unreachable if they weren’t at home. You can call but I won’t be there to answer. You can leave a message but you don’t know how long it’ll be until I hear it. You don’t know if I’m home, but you will have to make the trip to come to my house and knock on the door, hoping I’ll be there. And if I’m not…you can’t reach me!! Now that everyone has a cellphone the expectation of being reachable 24/7 is so disastrous. And let’s not even get into read receipts. I think one of the worst times of my inner peace is when I had an apple watch and suddenly every text and phone call and notification was on my freaking wrist, even if my phone was giving the illusion of distance by being in my pocket or bag or charging in another room. I stopped using it in 2022 and I’d rather eat a jean jacket with no water than ever be so connected again. “oh you can just turn off notifications!” not the point.

Stealing this from twitter but I liked the concept: put in the tags where were your 8 great-grandparents from (given modern borders) ?