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I know what my ultimate goal is. Do you know yours? We often go through life just reacting to and accepting what is. But we have an amazing opportunity to CREATE the life we want. With the power to create comes the great responsibility of knowing WHAT to create. When you are unsure of what you want, you get exactly that – Uncertainty.

I started my journey by deciding on what I truly wanted. To “decide” literally means “to cut off” all other choices. If you are on my blog, then I’m assuming you want to live a Luxe Life. But that doesn’t look exactly the same for everyone. And we won’t all have the exact same paths to get there, either.

Take a minute and really think about the life you want. What would you do every day? Would your days be filled with travel? Would you have frequent shopping sprees in luxury shoppes? Would you dine at Michelin Star restaurants and stay at 5-star hotels? Would you be invited to exclusive events? Would you rub elbows with A-list celebrities? Would you live in a mansion or a luxury high rise condo? Would you have multiple luxury vehicles? Would you have an estate manager? What would you do for a living? Would you be a spoiled wife? Would you be an entrepreneur? Would you be both? Really take the time to think about what every aspect of your life would look like.

Now, think about the amount of money this would require. Would something in the high six figures be enough? Would you need millions? Billions? YOU are the only one who can answer these questions. It is YOUR life. Your parents, family and friends cannot decide for you. And because you are the only one who can determine what enough for you is, you are the only one responsible for making it happen. But it starts with deciding.

Maybe you already know what you want out of life, but you’ve been told that it’s “unrealistic.” That is truly not a word in my vocabulary, because I believe that anything is possible. And to live a Luxe Life, you honestly HAVE to be unrealistic – to an extent. So for the first step in this process, we’re going to focus on all of our goals – realistic or not.

You will need a journal for this. I am someone who prefers to type, but there is just something about writing by hand that helps it manifest. There’s a certain energy it creates.

Write down what a perfect day in your life would look like. Write about your day – start to finish. Include as many details as possible. The point of this exercise is to get you visualizing your dream life. What time would you wake up? Describe how bright (or dim) the sky would be. Describe how the bed sheets feel as you lie there. Describe how you feel with your Wealthy Mate lying next to you. Write about how grateful you are to have them. Would you wake up to breakfast in bed? Who prepared the meal? What does the meal consist of? Go into detail about your Morning, Afternoon, Evening, and Night. After scripting your perfect day, revisit it as many times as necessary. As you go along your journey, edit it as needed. Rewrite it several times. It should feel great to do this because this is your dream!  

Create a Goal List. This list is very similar to a bucket list. Write down every single thing you want to do, be, and have in this lifetime. This list isn’t definitive; you can always come back and add to it. You want to take a trip to Maui? Add it to this list. You want to open a Nail Salon? Add it to this list. You want a Breast Augmentation? Add it to this list. Anything that has to do with the lifestyle you want to create… ADD IT TO THIS LIST! Write down all of your big goals, then break them up into smaller goals. For instance, becoming a doctor would be a “big goal.” Taking the MCAT, getting accepted into Med School, completing residency, etc. would all be “smaller goals.” Add them all to the list! It’s okay if this list takes up several pages in your journal. Later we will come back and prioritize what goals need to be achieved and when they need to be achieved by.

Here is an example of some of the things currently on my Goal List: 

Lose 30 Pounds

Like Minded Best Friend

Financially Free

Louis Vuitton Alma BB

Bruno Mars Concert

Luxury High Rise Condo

Fluent in Spanish

Wine Connoisseur

Travel to Cuba

Create a “Wealthy Mate” List. This list will include everything you want in a partner. Describe everything from their physical appearance, net worth, and personality traits. Do you want someone muscular and fit? Do they have to be tall? Do you want someone with straight, white, teeth? Does he have to have a keen fashion sense? Do you want someone generous? Is he a kind person? Is he religious? Does he know how to dance? Think about EVERYTHING you want in someone. After you have done this, review your list. Now ask yourself, “Am I all of these things?” The reason you will ask yourself this is because we attract what we are. If you want someone one who is physically fit but you haven’t done formal exercise in 5 years, then more than likely you will not attract this type of person. It is possible to attract someone who has qualities that you don’t possess. However, the more you require of others, the more they will require of you. Our whole goal on this journey is to better ourselves and prepare us for this Luxe Life. We want to match it in every way imaginable, including with our desired partners. You don’t have to match every single thing on your Wealthy Mate List. If you want someone with a Net Worth of $5 Million, chances are you won’t have that same Net Worth. But the more changes you can make to match your Wealthy Mate, the better. Once you have identified changes YOU need to make to attract this Wealthy Mate, go back and add those to your goal list. If you want your Wealthy Mate to have a gorgeous smile but your teeth are throwing up gang signs, you know that’s a change you need to add to your list!

Here is an example of some of the things currently on my Wealthy Mate List:

Tall, Dark, and Handsome

Beautiful, Straight, White Teeth

Generous & Romantic

Shares Similar Beliefs

Well Endowed & Great in Bed

Net Worth of $10 – 25 Million

Deciding on the life you want to have requires you knowing exactly what it looks like. However, you don’t have to know every little step that needs to be taken right now. That will be revealed to you over time. As you go on your journey, your vision might even change. You may require more or less. These lists give you a solid starting point to return to. I have experienced great power in lists that I have created. Some things happened almost immediately while some things took a few years. But creating a list is like literally putting in your order with the universe. You might be thinking, “What does this have to do with being a Spoiled Girlfriend or Marrying Wealthy?” But it has EVERYTHING to do with it. This might be one of the most important steps you’ll make in this process. Most women who married up had a plan. But that plan couldn’t be developed without the dream, first. So dream up the best life you can imagine. And we’ll work to make it reality.

Check out this video to get a better idea of what I’m talking about. I watch this video periodically to reiterate the power of planting seeds and writing my goals down.

Below are a few books that have great goal setting tips:

How to Marry the Rich – Ginie Sayles

Get Rich, Lucky Bitch – Denise Duffield Thomas

1. Don’t waste time being fearful: go for that job that you’re certain you’re not gonna get. What’s the worse that can happen? You are rejected, but you gain interview experience. Self-doubt is really a waste of time.

2. Live in the present. Yes, it is important to plan for the future, but it is easy to put off living until it is too late. Make sure that you have no regrets about what you should have done. Do one exciting thing per year.

3. Know your worth. This applies to both work and relationships; never sell yourself short. No job or romance is more important than your self respect. Also, charge for any unique skills/services that you can offer. 

4. Don’t be afraid to leave bad situations. I left a stable but draining teaching job in order to protect my mental health. Even though this was a big risk, it was the best decision I ever made. NOTHING is more important than your mental health. 

5. Most 20 somethings feel that they are underachieving. This is normal - especially in today’s financial climate. Don’t feel bad if you are still living at home and cannot afford to rent/buy. I’m 30 and still living at home, saving to buy.

6. People will disappoint you, but most of the time, it’s not about you. Everybody has their own demons and traumas that make them behave in certain ways. If somebody disrespects you, assert your boundaries and keep it moving. Also, examine if there was anything you could have done to avoid the situation. But DO NOT let it eat away at you.

7. In love, nobody owes you anything. Even if they made a promise, they are their own person…Everybody has the right to change their mind and to leave a situation which is not beneficial for them. This is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is the truth.

8. Learn to enjoy your own company. Your 20s can be a lonely time as your social sphere narrows, due to employment, finances and exhaustion. Use this time to find out more about yourself and do the things that you enjoy. There is something liberating about eating at a restaurant alone. 

9. Be kind, don’t gossip or overshare. I am still working on this one. It is really difficult to be kind and positive in a world full of annoying people. However, your attitude will influence how you are being perceived. If you are unkind, people will laugh at your jokes but they will never trust you. They will never trust you not to treat them as you treat other people. Remove yourself from toxic people, and only share negativity (sadness/anger/depression) with a therapist and one other person that you trust. If you overshare negative feelings, you may be stereotyped as being full of drama. Furthermore, people will want you to stay in a negative place because it’s entertaining and makes them feel better about their own lives. Just don’t do it.

Also, since most girls avoid physical contact with men they’re not related to, please do not hug them, but rather shoo the offender away if you can, or at least escort the girl to a safe place. You can still offer words of encouragement and support. Furthermore, understand that the victim may not be very welcoming towards you because she’ll obviously be shaken, and won’t know where you are coming from. If that’s the case, please still give her something to cover herself (hijab is very important, think of it as someone ripping your shirt off) and stand some distance away until you are sure she’s in safe hands.

Here are 100 scholarships to choose from:

Unless otherwise stated, all minority scholarships are applicable to women from underserved ethnic groups, including African Americans, Hispanics, Native Americans and Asians.

Arts Scholarships

Girls* Who Illustrate Awesomeness Scholarship 

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Blanche E. Coleman Foundation Scholarship 

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National Society of Arts and Letters Scholarships

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Bev Sellers Scholarship

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BMI Foundation: John Lennon Scholarship 

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Worldstudio Foundation AIGA Scholarship

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Women in Film Foundation Scholarship Learn more here.

Education Scholarships

Nancy Larson Foundation College Scholarship Apply here.

Minority Doctoral Loan For Service Apply here.

National Academy of Education Spencer Dissertation Fellows Apply here.

STEM Scholarships

Mickey Leland Energy Fellowship Apply here.

Software Testing Scholarship Apply here.

ASM Undergraduate Research Fellowship Apply here.

Dr. Nancy Foster Scholarship Apply here.

AWG Minority Scholarship Apply here.

National Institutes of Health Undergraduate Scholarship Program Apply here.

Stan Beck Fellowship Apply here.

APS Minority Scholarship Apply here.

AICPA Minority Accounting Students Scholarships Apply here.

Mae & Mary Scholarship Learn more here.

The Generation Google Scholarship Apply here.

Microsoft Minority Scholarship Learn more.

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Brown and Caldwell Minority Scholarship Apply here.

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Elliott C. Roberts Scholarship Apply here.

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Society of Hispanic Professional Engineers Scholarships Apply here.

Gates Millennium Scholars Program Apply here.

National Medical Fellowship Scholarships Program Apply here.

SanDisk Scholars Fund Apply here.

Hispanic Scholarship Fund Apply here.

General Merit Scholarships

Udall Undergraduate Scholarships Apply here.

Fulbright Scholars Program Learn more here.

Courage to Grow Scholarship Apply here.

BUICK Achievers Scholarships Apply here.

Coca-Cola Scholars Apply here.

Xerox Technical Minority Scholarship Apply here.

Burger King Scholars Apply here.

Roothbert Fund Scholarship Apply here.

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State Farm Good Neighbor Scholarship Apply here.

LPGA Foundation Scholarship Apply here.

NCAA Minority and Women’s Enhancement Graduate Scholarship Apply here.

Discover Student Loans Scholarship Apply here.

Scholarship America Dream Award Apply here.

AXA Achievement Community Award Apply here.

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Marine Corps Scholarships Apply here.

La Unidad Latina Foundation Scholarships Apply here.

Jack Kent Cooke Foundation Scholarships Learn more here.

GE – Reagan Foundation Scholarship Learn more here.

Fundación Kinesis Scholarships Learn more here.

Jackie Robinson Foundation Scholarship Apply here.

National Association for the Advancement of Colored People Apply here.

Ronald McDonald House Charities African American Future Achievers Apply here.

The Paul & Daisy Soros Fellowships for New Americans Apply here.

Omega Phi Beta – Reach for the Gold Scholarships Apply here.

Questbridge Scholarship Learn more here.

Ron Brown Scholar Program Apply here.

United Negro College Fund Learn more here.

DAR American Indian Scholarship Learn more here.

Frances Crawford Marvin American Indian Scholarship Learn more here.

Business Scholarships

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Les Dames d’Escoffier International Scholarship Apply here.

AICPA Minority Accounting Students Scholarships Apply here.

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National Society of Hispanic MBAs Scholarship Program Apply here.

Herman J. Neal Scholarship Apply here.

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National Black MBA Association Scholarships Apply here.

Surety & Fidelity Industry Intern and Scholarship Program Apply here.

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Minorities in Hospitality Scholars Program Learn more here.

RICOH Scholarship Program Learn more here.

Consortium for Graduate Study in Management Learn more here.

Social Science Scholarships

ASA Minority Fellowship Program Apply here.

Ronald E. McNair Scholars Program Apply here.

Harry S. Truman Scholarship Amount: $30,000 | Application Deadline: February Apply here.

American Library Association Spectrum Scholarship Apply here.

Fellowship on Women and Public Policy Amount: $31,000 | Application Deadline: September Apply here.

Jennings Randolph Peace Scholarship Dissertation Program Amount: $20,000 | Application Deadline: November Apply here.

Judith McManus Price Scholarship Apply here.

Thomas R. Pickering Undergraduate & Graduate Foreign Affairs Fellowship Amount: Up to $37,500 | Application Deadline: December Apply here.

Martin Luther King, Jr. Scholarship Award Learn more here.

Congressional Hispanic Caucus Institute Scholarship Learn more here.

Law Scholarships

American Bar Association Jeanne P. Gray Diversity Scholarship Learn more here.

Backfire & Backfire, P.C. Law School Diversity Scholarship Apply here.

NALP Diversity Scholarships Amount: Up to $30,000| Application Deadline: Varies here.

Sidney B. Williams Scholarship Apply here.

Communications Scholarships

The Jacqueline Woodson Fellowship for a Young People’s Writer of African or Caribbean Descent Learn more here.

Proofreading.com Scholarship Apply here.

The LAGRANT Foundation Scholarships Apply here.

Leonard M. Perryman Communications Scholarship for Racial Ethnic Minority Students Apply here.

National Press Club Scholarship for Journalism Diversity Apply here.

Chips Quinn Scholars Program Apply here.

Allison E. Fisher Scholarship Apply here.

Emma Bowen Foundation Fellowship Learn more here.

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