buh

*giggles cutely* uhh... i mean tch. -_-

No matter how shitty it might feel in the moment, most of the time when someone comes to you to communicate a boundary or a need or a negative feeling about something you did, it is actually a compliment. They are telling you BECAUSE they care about you and want it to work between you and because they trust you to care to do better. If they didn't care about you, they'd just avoid you. That uncomfortable convo is in fact a declaration of love and trust. Or at least intention of friendship. If they didn't like you, they'd just try to avoid you whenever possible. They wouldn't care to have The Talk (which is often scary and uncomfortable for them also). So try to treat their trust with care, even if it really upsets you to learn that you've accidentally hurt them

listen. if your mutual suddenly starts referring to The Character with different pronouns, you must go along with it. that character is trans now. they’re right.

I don't do "art studies," i draw "wrong" until I get an epiphany from god

put your paw in mine. look directly into my eyes. we are touching snouts now. everything will be okay. i pawmise.

“Living weapon” covers a lot and all of it is hot

”using she/her pronouns for ralsei is misgendering” is functionally the same statement as “you can’t depict that white/light-skinned character brown that’s blackwashing!” And what I mean by this is that the reason whitewashing non-white fictional characters is bad is because you are erasing that character’s marginalized identity in favour of centring whiteness. It harms no one to depict a white character as non-white because whiteness is not a marginalized identity and white people are already centred + widely represented in art and fiction. Now the reason misgendering fictional characters is bad in the case of, say, Kris, is because Kris is non-binary, and misgendering them is erasing their (notably marginalized) identity as a non-binary person. Even in the absence of the incredibly blatant transfeminine coding (if you can even call it coding at this point) of Ralsei particularly in chapter 5, the people referring to Ralsei with she/her pronouns are not erasing any character’s marginalized identity. Men are not marginalized just for being men. This would be one matter if Ralsei was canonically a transgender man like Metatton but that straight up is not the case at all lmao. People on the internet she/her-ing Ralsei is causing zero harm to anyone you just don’t want your blorbo to be a trans girl

*leaves

where are you going

"this is unbecoming of me" is genuinely a useful thing to have in your mental toolbox

pawing sadly at the plexiglass sheet that seperates me from the real world