I have been seeing your posts all over the internet for a while now. I recently made an account here on Tumblr and thought I would come say hi. You seem like a really nice person and it makes me happy as a teenager to know that not all adults are sad and have given away their lives to having kids. I worry a lot about ending up like my mom. She loves me but seems so... un-personlike or something?? I'm not really sure how to put it, but it seems like both my parents gave away pursuing their own interests and years of their lives just to have the tittle of a parent. But I don't really want that, so seeing you talk is really cool. It's nice to know that even if it seems like every adult is telling me, "Well, yes, but you could still change your mind about kids later" there is still one adult out there who knows that's not all I could be. I will still get to be so much of someone without kids or a wife or anyone but my friends. I still get to grow up and stay queer and have a cat like you if I want, and I'm allowed to let that be all I ever want. I hope we both get all that we ever want someday, even if it is the tiniest thing in the world to someone else. I hope you are happy forever and that we do not have to die for our queerness.
Thank you for talking about everything and anything, Mr. T. You made me happy tonight and for that, I wish you well on the journey of life! ♡
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Oh my god
Okay full disclosure when I started this blog I had no idea anything I ever said or did would have any impact on anyone ever, but now every so often I get to hear about someone who feels the way I felt and feels seen or someone tells me I helped them in some way and it makes me feel this wonderful warm light in my chest and so I really, really wanna say thank you back???
And hell yes, you're right, you can do whatever you want with your life! It's YOUR life!!! Everyone always told ME "ohhh, you'll want to start dating eventually" or "your feelings will change later" or "it'll be different when you're older" and you know what??? It ISN'T
Getting older and becoming an adult..... some things slow down a bit, but you don't stop being YOU! You learn to appreciate stuff like good quality baking pans and good-smelling dish soap and getting your tax return back on time, but you'll STILL love dinosaurs and action movies and swimming and making paintings!! That doesn't dissolve into thin air!!
Life has been complicated, and not always happy, but I can tell you right now that the number one difference I've found between being an adult and being a kid is that now that I'm an adult, *I* make up the rules! And after I do all the responsible stuff that keeps me alive and healthy I can spend all day in my pajamas pants eating jellybeans, hot-gluing together a cardboard fort in my living room for my beautiful cat son!
IMO, the only REAL 'losing' in life is the time you waste trying to fit into a mold that doesn't make you happy Just to kep up the appearances of being "normal and successful".
Which means if you're already aiming for "happy", you're ahead of the curve!
You've fucking got this!!!!
