Only when i am collared do i feel truly free

people love to be like "oh who cares about therians it's a bunch of kids having fun" and like yeah those kids are having fun but not every therian is that

In 2021 in a relatively large discord server for a relatively fringe fandom, I made a joke about "the server culture" having things it liked and things it disliked. In turn, a moderator of the server reacted angrily. Likely completing the template for an argument she had had a thousand times long before I had joined. But a specific thing she said stood out to me, and I still think about it today.

There we go, let's get these fingers all nice and tucked away, no? Into your mitts. I'll tighten them. You won't be needing these. Now open up. No words now, you don't need words. And there you are, let's strap those legs in, heel to thigh, heel to thigh. No standing for you, isn't that right? That's a good pet, you know I'll take this all off just as soon as you get everything you need.

You wanna know what's fucked?

BE LOUD

I fucking hate when a great bdsm post randomly has "punishment" in it

Nothing is ever apolitical but especially kink, if you're going to recreate situations real people find themselves in for your own pleasure then you have a moral imperative to analyse and understand those situations and to learn what makes them bad so you can avoid doing real psychological damage. Being constantly scared that your mistakes will be met with punishment fucks up your brain real bad, it's not conditions anyone should he living under no matter the circumstances. If you want the catharsis that punishment can bring that's what scenes are for, play out the archaic school teacher x troublesome student or whatever but make sure your sub knows they aren't actually in trouble and that you're not actually upset with them. And if you think for one single moment that punishment is a remotely useful tool for training then put down the whip and pick up a book you pathetic excuse for a dominant

Third rant that ends with me suggesting

I think when a sub says "you can do whatever you want to me" what they're actually wanting is to not make decisions anymore, and they think by saying this they can foist the decision making off on the dom without having to do any of the work beforehand. But unfortunately to get to the Not Making Choices part of kink you do in fact have to make a Lot Of Choices beforehand and communicate those choices to your partner. This is an essential part of the process and skipping it is both unsafe and unfair for whoever you're playing with.

See the thing about the mechsplo stuff usually involving an evil authoritarian military is that I could never be into that. I would be evil domineering handler woman who brainwashes girls into weapons but for the people who want to rip the throats of imperial leaders out with their teeth. Too much rage at the idea of the military brainwashing and dehumanizing people to actually get into the hypnokink / petplay aspects of it properly, y'know? Which is why, to me, the best versions of it involve people brainwashing girls for the explicit purposes of ripping the imperial leaders' throats out. And ideally freeing the girls that have been subjected to that.