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Nonbinary people who are AMAB are allowed to use he/him pronouns and nothing else, by the way. They’re still 100% nonbinary

Nonbinary people who are AMAB are allowed to dress feminine. They’re allowed to dress masculine. 

They’re allowed to start HRT, or choose not to. 

bad blood - bright eyes

black boys on mopeds - sinead o’connor

cowboy take me away - the chicks (w/ boygenius)

everything is free - gillian welch (w/ julien baker)

fake plastic trees - radiohead (w/ arlo parks)

first day of my life - bright eyes

friday i’m in love - the cure

georgia lee - tom waits

girls - the 1975

human - the killers (w/ conor oberst)

i’m on fire - bruce springsteen

if it makes you happy - sheryl crow

iris - goo goo dolls (w/ maggie rogers)

it’ll all work out - tom petty

nothing else matters - metallica

part-time heart - harrison whitford

peek-a-boo - daniel johnston

powerful man - alex g

read my mind - the killers (w/ boygenius)

say yes - elliot smith

shallow - lady gaga & bradley cooper (w/ conor oberst)

summer’s end - john prine

teenage dirtbag - wheatus

the gold - manchester orchestra

the house that heaven built - japandroids

torn - ednaswap

two-headed boy pt. 2 - neutral milk hotel

whatever (folk song in c) - elliot smith

wilt - sloppy jane

hi!!

I'm Charlie! I'm a trans-masculine nonbinary person in need of top surgery!!

I created this gofundme to help cover my top surgery (dual incision,) surgeon's fees, and any other costs associated with top surgery.

the current goal amount is set at $5000 but may change as i learn more about the specific costs.

https://gofund.me/a05de1d5

There is not enough difference in male or female brains to tell them apart

A gender-neutral pronouns other that they/them has existed since 1858, thon 

There are more than 2 genders (tons of sources in the description that if i tried to write them all here i would die of age)

“””Transtrenders””” aren’t actually transitioning and then regretting: 1  2  3 4  5 

Biological binary sex isn’t a thing: 1 2 3 4

in the wikipedia page for social construct of gender category sex and sex category the sources are 7 27 28 

He indeed is

Being trans is not a mental illness/ you don’t need dysphoria to be trans: 1  2  3  4 5 6 7 (this one is massive)  8 (also if you want a living example of a cis person with dysphoria search godflex here on tumblr, careful it’s nsfw)

From here

You can be trans without dysphoria

incomplete list of things we have been saying for the longest time

and another one

cis ppl with dysphoria 1 2 3 4

non-medically transitioning trans ppl speaking

I’m having problems opening this one wlep

ftm maganize on non-dysphoric trans ppl

from here

top surgery is not our top priority

some more ppl talking about not needing to medically transition

another one now on tumblr so if this doesn’t click idk what to do

but really https://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com is all you need

The world health organization says it’s not a mental disorder, there is no reason to say it is and it would only create more transphobia 

The WPATH-SOC Guidelines

“In most children, gender dysphoria will disappear before or early in puberty. However, in some children these feelings will intensify and body aversion will develop or increase as they become adolescents and their secondary sex characteristics develop (Cohen-Kettenis, 2001; Cohen-Kettenis & Pfäfflin, 2003; Drummond et al., 2008; Wallien & Cohen-Kettenis, 2008; Zucker & Bradley, 1995). Data from one study suggest that more extreme gender nonconformity in childhood is associated with persistence of gender dysphoria into late adolescence and early adulthood (Wallien & Cohen Kettenis, 2008). Yet many adolescents and adults presenting with gender dysphoria do not report a history of childhood gender nonconforming behaviors (Docter, 1988; Landén, Wålinder, & Lundström, 1998). Therefore, it may come as a surprise to others (parents, other family members, friends, and community members) when a youth’s gender dysphoria first becomes evident in adolescence.

Some people experience gender dysphoria at such a level that the distress meets criteria for a formal diagnosis that might be classified as a mental disorder. Such a diagnosis is not a license for stigmatization or for the deprivation of civil and human rights. Existing classification systems such as the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) (American Psychiatric Association, 2000) and the International Classification of Diseases (ICD) (World Health Organization, 2007) define hundreds of mental disorders that vary in onset, duration, pathogenesis, functional disability, and treatability. All of these systems attempt to classify clusters of symptoms and conditions, not the individuals themselves. A disorder is a description of something with which a person might struggle, not a description of the person or the person’s identity.

Thus, transsexual, transgender, and gender nonconforming individuals are not inherently disordered. Rather, the distress of gender dysphoria, when present, is the concern that might be diagnosable and for which various treatment options are available. The existence of a diagnosis for such dysphoria often facilitates access to health care and can guide further research into effective treatments.

Adolescents who experience their primary and/or secondary sex characteristics and their sex assigned at birth as inconsistent with their gender identity may be intensely distressed about it. Many, but not all, gender dysphoric adolescents have a strong wish for hormones and surgery. Increasing numbers of adolescents have already started living in their desired gender role upon entering high school (Cohen-Kettenis & Pfäfflin, 2003).

Inexperienced clinicians may mistake indications of gender dysphoria for delusions. Phenomenologically, there is a qualitative difference between the presentation of gender dysphoria and the presentation of delusions or other psychotic symptoms. The vast majority of children and adolescents with gender dysphoria are not suffering from underlying severe psychiatric illness such as psychotic disorders (Steensma, Biemond, de Boer, & Cohen-Kettenis, published online ahead of print January 7, 2011).

It is more common for adolescents with gender dysphoria to have co-existing internalizing disorders such as anxiety and depression, and/or externalizing disorders such as oppositional defiant disorder (de Vries et al., 2010). As in children, there seems to be a higher prevalence of autistic spectrum disorders in clinically referred, gender dysphoric adolescents than in the general adolescent population (de Vries et al., 2010).

When patients with gender dysphoria are also diagnosed with severe psychiatric disorders and impaired reality testing (e.g., psychotic episodes, bipolar disorder, dissociative identity disorder, borderline personality disorder), an effort must be made to improve these conditions with psychotropic medications and/or psychotherapy before surgery is contemplated. Reevaluation by a mental health professional qualified to assess and manage psychotic conditions should be conducted prior to surgery, describing the patient’s mental status and readiness for surgery. It is preferable that this mental health professional be familiar with the patient. No surgery should be performed while a patient is actively psychotic (De Cuypere & Vercruysse, 2009).”

i have yet to read a post on relief of sex dysphoria that was ACTUALLY helpful, and if you have moderate to severe sex dysphoria reading a book or dancing isnt really gonna do jack shit so here’s some cheap/free ways to actually help you

for FTMs

tutorials for making packers: [tumblr post] [video] [wikihow]

diy packer harness: [pouch] [pouch] [for underwear] [easy]

tutorials for making STPs: [super easy] [realistic] [semi-realistic]

binders: [diy tips] [In A Bind (U.S. only)] [Replace The Ace (U.S. only)] [MORF (worldwide)]

exercises to make you look more masculine: [hips and thighs] [chest] [biceps] [abs]

miscellaneous: [tumblr post for fake beards] [foods that lower estrogen] [foods that heighten testosterone] [masculine makeup] [lowering your voice] [passing tips]

for MTFs

tutorials for tucking: [video] [video] [wikihow] [tumblr post]

making breast forms: [very easy] [easy] [video]

bras/panties: [Cheap Undies] [bras and sports bras] [for trans women]

makeup: [All Cosmetics Wholesale] [Bang Good] [elf] [BH Cosmetics] [basic makeup tutorial]

exercises to make you look more feminine: [hips and thighs] [chest] [legs]

miscellaneous: [how to cover up stubble] [foods that heighten estrogen] [foods that lower testosterone] [making your voice higher] [passing tips] [advice for pre-e trans women] [get cleavage with makeup]

resources for all trans people

Trans Housing Network

Trans Clothing Exchange

Trans Lifeline: U.S. (877) 565-8860 and Canada (877) 330-6366

Trans Supplies