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And I rarely see those same people having that energy towards the abusers being talked about. If anyone is “making the community look bad” it’s 100% the people who choose to be abusive.

Victims and survivors are allowed to tell their stories. For a lot of survivors breaking that silence is a huge part of being able to move on. And it’s absolutely vital that we don’t sweep abuse under the rug because it’s uncomfortable to admit.

Since most people who are going to come across those posts and be convinced of what they're saying are themselves part of the trans community, they're being groomed to accept that abuse is something you let happen and shut up about when it happens within the community.

Which is not something most trans people believe, but it's easy to buy into when you genuinely care about (other) trans people and you've seen queerphobes use accusations of abusive behaviors against us as a group and also individuals.

But think about those cases you heard about on the news of TERFs making accusations, really think about them. How many were sexual assault accusations? Very few.

There have been more credible accusations, usually from other trans and otherwise marginalized people, than false accusations by far. We know this to be true.

Not because trans people are more likely than cis people to be abusers or assault someone, but because this is true across the board. False accusations are rare, even against marginalized people.

Hysterical bigoted white women are not, in masses, falsely accusing BIPoC men and trans women of rape. That's a misogynistic belief that does a great job selling rape culture ideas to progressive people.

If you join a community and are told not to believe victims and that sweeping things under the rug is necessary for the safety of the group, that's an abusive environment steeped in rape culture and you should not be a part of it.

That attitude doesn't protect trans people as a whole, it protects abusers. In the majority of cases, the ones who will get hurt and left carry the pain alone in secret and shame will be other trans people.

A community that protects abusers and expects silence from victims to protect their collective image/reputation is not safe. It can't be. Not when it's the family system you were born into, nor a religious group, friend group or any sort of community.

Please listen to victims. Protect your fellow trans people. Just 1 person being allowed to freely abuse others is enough for an entire community to suffer. Please read this blog post if you still aren't convinced:

There's no shame in being lied to and manipulated, but there is incredible shame in being complicit in covering up cases of abuse. The best time to start believing victims and stop stepping over "missing stairs" in your life is now.

And if anyone tells you that doing so would make you guilty of "socially murdering" the accused, refer to this paragraph from the article:

"Fixing" doesn't always mean throwing someone out. (Although in the case of sex groups I think people are way too timid about that.  Being invited to sex parties should be a positive show of confidence in your character, not some sort of default human right.)   Sometimes a person can be "fixed" by talking with them bluntly about their behavior, giving them specific rules to follow, or putting them on notice that they have one strike left.  You don't always have to get rid of "missing stair" people, but you do have to work with the person, not around them.

The choice isn't between completely ruining someone's life and looking the other way. That's a false dilemma.

Bunnies Quilt

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modern is an ever fluctuating category

The pyramids were built by contemporary workers who received wages and were fed and taken care of during construction

The Dendera “lightbulb” is a representation of the creation myth and has nothing to do with electricity

We didn’t find “““copper wiring””” in the great pyramid either

Hatshepsut wasn’t transgender

The gods didn’t actually have animal heads

Hieroglyphs aren’t mysteriously magical; they’re just a language (seriously we have shopping lists and work rosters and even ancient erotica)

The ancient Egyptian ethnicity wasn’t homogeneous

While the Egyptians were fine-ass astronomers they didn’t align any of their enormous and/or important buildings to modern star constellations, because constellations look very different now than they did ~5000 years ago 

Speaking of that particular sphinx, the Napoleonic expedition is not responsible for its missing nose

Akhenaten was not a “heretic” by contemporary standards

Ramses II appropriated a lot of his predecessors’ buildings/reliefs and isn’t really deserving of the epithet “the Great”

It was not, in fact, practice to shave off eyebrows after cats died; Herodotus lied about that

Here are some vetted Egyptological books/sources (that are by and large appropriate for a lay-audience) you can find most, if not all of the above:

Lehner, M., The Complete Pyramids

Wilkinson, R. H., The Complete Temples of Ancient Egypt

Hornung, E., The One and the Many: Conceptions of God in Ancient Egypt

Dunand, F. & Zivie-Coche, C., Gods and Men in Egypt

Kemp, B., Ancient Egypt: Anatomy of a Civilization

Bard, K., An Introduction to the Archaeology of Ancient Egypt

Stevenson Smith, W., The Art and Architecture of Ancient Egypt

Kitchen, K. A., The Life and Times of Ramesses II, King of Egypt

Sweeney, D., Sex and Gender (in Ancient Egypt)

McDowell, A. G., Village Life in Ancient Egypt:  Laundry Lists and Love Songs

and by “it” haha, well. let’s

just say. mimimi