"how can m/f ships be good-" first of all through the power of bisexuality anything is possible so write that down. second of all if we start othering ships based on gender and nothing else we're no better than the opposition. third of all you need to watch more addams family
there's nothing intrinsically More Interesting or More Genuine or More Functional about queer relationships.
the difference here is that queer people, in general, are more strongly incentivised to try stuff that's outside the tiny little box of shit that's acceptable to society. and that little box has all kinds of stupid shit in it about relationships. stuff that's hard to see at first because we all grew up in that box and it looked normal.
queer people need to step out of that box at least a bit just to have sex or romance at all. straight people don't.
but, and this is a big but, that doesn't mean that all straight people ever have stayed in the box re how they do sex and romance. there's always gonna be some who realise that they can leave and that outside is better.
and that's a good thing and we should encourage it.
also, m/f relationships are not necessarily straight. bisexuality is a thing. asexuality is a thing. aromanticism is a thing. trans people are a thing.
some people would have led with that but i wanted to make a different point. there's too much snobbery in queer spaces on this site, and not only is it obnoxious, it's got knock-on effects that are actually pretty bad for queer people. exalting our relationships as intrinsically special and holy denies the experiences of people who have been in or still are in shitty queer relationships, whether those are abusive or dysfunctional and unsatisfying in other ways. exalting non-m/f relationships specifically contributes to biphobia and aphobia, and often to a kind of anti-masculinity that is tied in with transandrophobia.
(and yeah I know the original post was talking about fictional ships but those are just the tip of the iceberg here.)
