A Palace for the Fandoms

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Writer: *tears in their eyes* Thank you, go forth my children. Tell your story that I could not... Except for you, sorry dude you die in the next chapter.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

Is

Real

She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.” 

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:

SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.

She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!

I found out that I have policystic ovarian syndrome, a condition that causes multiple cysts in the ovaries to appear. This can be triggered by being overweight, but it’s also genetic. My sister has it, too. Having PCOS meant that it’s extremely difficult, if not impossible, to lose weight. I also have an extremely slow metabolism (so slow that i take two prescribed meds for it and will be doing that for probably my entire lofe) and because of THAT I also can’t lose weight. Add on to this the fact that my muscles aren’t working in sync with each other (yes apparently my body doesn’t know how to move properly? So that’s why moving hurts me a lot) and that my family simply can’t afford amazing healthy food all the time and even when I DO eat I get sick (see: extremely slow metabolism that makes food pile in my stomach like that corner of dirty laundry in your room that you don’t wanna touch) and that literally obesity is also a genetic factor too in my case: I’m like, way overweight. I go to hospitals and they call me obese but I don’t like that word because it makes me feel like I’m less important than thin people, like I’m more of a burden.

My entire life I’ve felt fat. I was in first grade not wanting to wear the school dress because I ‘looked fat’ in it. My mum and grandma would make comments about their own weight in front of me and told me not to be like them, don’t be fat, it’s ugly, it’s bad, nobody will want you if you’re fat.

I was a little girl in grade one - maybe thirty kilos? Probably less. And I thought I was fat.

In grade four I got fat shamed by my crush. He told me his weight and made an offhand comment about how I was massive. I wasn’t massive. He was just a scrawny boy, and I wasn’t short or thin like the other girls my age; he was healthy for his own body proportions, I was healthy for mine. That was the year I decided to start wearing a hijab, and a friend of mine said to my face ‘I only recognised you because you’re fat’

When I say I’m fat, my friends say ‘don’t say that:( ’

they think ‘fat=bad’ and I think ‘fat=bad’ and the whole world thinks ‘fat=bad’

Fat doesn’t equal bad.

It doesn’t equal less worthy or unloveable or burden

In a lot of cases it doesn’t even equal unhealthy. There are lots of ‘fat’ people that are still healthy.

People think I got fat by eating burgers and cake and ice cream.

That’s not how it happened. I got depressed, I got abused, I’ve got a lot of physical and genetic problems that have lead to this.

Fatphobia made my life 100 times harder than it should have been. When I hear someone talk about their weight in front of me I hurt and curl up into a ball inside because I just want to ignore the word and the concept of being fat forever. It’s probably my biggest shame, being fat, and the sad part is I know it’s not even a fault that I am overweight. It’s not like I have control of what food I can buy, we’re not rich enough to buy amazing vegetables and quality meat, it’s not like we even have the time to cook that much in my house.

I eat a lot less than a lot of people I know. I don’t move around much because it’s painful. I love to play sport, I have dreams that I was back in primary school playing soccer with the boys (I NEVER played sport at school. Ever.) and feeling sun on my face and just moving. People think I’m lazy, and they’re surprised when I say I’m into sport because people who play sport are all skinny apparently (not true) but like

I’m not lazy. I’m not someone who doesn’t like moving. I’m just in pain. I don’t eat shit all day. I’m just sick.

And when I go to doctors to ask for help about my pcos or digestion of my foods or my acne or my depression, they say one thing: “you need to lose weight.”

Yeah, I need to lose weight. But it’s a whole lot more complex than that, and nobody seems to realise.

If you’re a parent watch your mouth when you talk about your weight or your kid’s weight-in fact don’t talk about it at all and don’t let other people talk about it in front of your kids. 

(if I said something offensive here pls let me know so I can change it/correct it but also pls explain to me why it’s offensive so I can understand thank you) 

So I’m working on mapping out a sendoff project to give J2M but the concept alone is “not just me,” in fact, it’s all of you.

Some of y’all know I make videos. I’m not a huge channel or anything but it’s what I do. And so the idea struck me and the wife, similar to the Fanfiction episode choir: Carry On My Wayward Son

NOTE: THIS IS A LONG TERM GOAL AND NOT AN IMMEDIATE DEADLINE SO IF YOU CAN’T RIGHT AWAY, THAT’S FINE.

But the CONCEPT is getting as many of us as possible to sing “Carry On My Wayward Son” to collab into a choir video with a few special flares.

I’d also love to get:

A few people willing to get together to re-create the music for the song. No lyrics. Just the music. We want the original style at original time signature, peppy and upbeat. I KNOW this fandom has musical talent, we’ve seen it before. If you know someone who can do this PLEASE tag them to check this post.

Next, we’ll need as many people as possible to sing to the music. Requirements for recording for the video are as follows:

You must record in a quiet room and have no music audible, but you may wear head phones or whatever you need to be able to hear the song so you can keep up. We only want YOUR voice!  Record in the quietest room you can with your best audio available but if the quality suffers I CAN try to fix it. 

We would like at least one, preferably 2 or 3 people to sign the song in ASL.

IMPORTANT NOTES

You do NOT need to have a perfect singing voice, it will be presented choir style once I can shuffle edit it around to harmonize. If you feel like you sing like a banshee that’s OKAY because only my ears will bleed and I’m fine with that.

When you record, dress like you’re about to meet J2M at a con. Try to look like, nice ish.  Cosplay is more than welcome. Do not record your video looking like you just crawled out of bed, please.

This is a goal to do long term by the series finale so we have time to get traction, so if you feel like you can input AT ALL in the next YEAR, please sign on so I can tag you.

If you don’t want to sing, you are welcome to submit a blurb to J2M, cast, and crew to thank them for the 15 years they have given us. This blurb must be 250 characters or less, as it will only appear briefly on screen. Fanart is also welcome. Absolutely NOTHING shippy if you are going to submit fanart or dialogue, and you must thank the ENTIRE cast and crew in your submission.

I’ll also make a discord server to help stay in contact. It won’t be MANDATORY to join the server but it will be HIGHLY ENCOURAGED. It will not be a HIGHLY ACTIVE server (probably unless you guys are chatterboxes) but will be used for pings to remind people of deadlines as time starts creeping up on us. I have a feeling this year will go by quicker than we think.

I’m considering opening said discord server to also help support other projects “going out”, such as participants in AO3 Season 16 or @destielfanficseason16 wherein we can bundle artists, authors, editors, betas, etc into groups to help ping people for more live time engagement than hoping everybody gets active notifs on this storm of a hellsite. If managers from such projects join the discord they will be granted admin privileges etc to also help moderate their respective teams.

Please leave a comment-note that you are interested or a reblog note to match, please reblog to signal boost. There’s a few steps along the way before anybody starts recording their singing.

We have a year. Let’s make the most of it.

THE FIRST ORDER OF BUSINESS: JOIN THE DISCORD SERVER (LINK) <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

When you join, go to #project-assignments and select your role(s). YOU CAN BE MORE THAN ONE. This sets you on a ping-relay when related assignments to your task come up.

Managers: People working with teams. Examples would be the head of a GISH choir, or if project managers for related fanfiction projects come in.

Musicians: To coordinate how to play out and record our own recording of it

Dev Team: Sound, video, or other development experts that we can all sort of refine and master our work over the next year.

Sign Team: DO U EVEN SIGN BRO. We’ll contact you later to know what form of signing you know (ASL, BSL, AUSLAN, etc). Absolutely 100% preferred to be actual deaf-person representation so please don’t just sign on because you learned it

Contributors: For people that can’t or don’t want to do any of the other roles but want to submit related art, blurbs of gratitude, etc.

Pardon the dust. I’ve got some backup on the way while we sort out channels, right now we’re kind of getting an estimated head count of what magnitude we’re about to have to work on this with. In the next couple of days we’ll be refining things like posting permissions in channels and designing designated channels for each type of creator in.

We will NOT be actively delegating tasks until after the season 14 finale, with the exact date to be determined. I’ll @ everyone with announcements as they come and @ role types with designated responses. But for now we need to just get a raw vat of bodies to consider who is available for what before we even START assigning collaboration.

IF YOU ARE A CREATOR AND THINK YOU CAN HELP, YOU PROBABLY CAN. Discord is available on most phones and computers, so even if you aren’t a big user, load it up so we can ping things better than spam tagging on tumblr, please. For my sanity. Omg.

Interested parties as under the notes to tag: 

@fishstip @nickelkeep @cryptomoon @sapphysapph @lillithgotswag @growningupgeek @quillquiver @inudana @shannyncandycat @themoonandotherslikeit @carrieosity @7faerielights @kinvgslayer  @olympianbeagles @team-free-will-you-idjits-67 @twdoverload @naudtsk @tabrown2021 @justawaywardwinchester @emilyisapwopermusertbsphan @angelandhunter1 @insomniac-with-a-juice-pouch @super-powerful-queen-slayyna @marveldivergentouatdctvfangirl @foreverwayward @nurnwasburned-nowimhomeless @cheese-and-chaos @xmas-with-the-winchesters @teamfreewill-girl @lovedestieljaiseilove @elfwriter1088 @lokiandhisknife @janbrxx @harrypotternerdprincess @girl-lost-in-fandoms @serenitygeist @nyanppo @superwholockandbooks-art @tumbler-tidbits @winged-angel-bird @casistooadorableandithurts @fraurabenstein @1000roughdrafts @weef22

DISCORD SERVER LINK

Please keep in mind we’re currently sizing out WHAT all skills and numbers we have available, so advanced voice assignments, etc, will wait until after the S14 finale. Musicians are of various instruments and origins and any kind of musical talent is welcome at current, even if you don’t think it fits right now. And that same goes for general Contributor until that settles – art, baton twirler, face-cross-stitcher, whatever. Help make sure everybody has the link to the discord.

We’ll start assigning actual project dates once traffic on sign ups and role setting settles down.

Please MAKE SURE YOU ARE FOLLOWING THIS BLOG, like you should do it anyway but EXTRA ESPECIALLY if you can not, for some reason, use the discord at-all-ever (we’ll really only need like once a week for most folks) so I can help organize tumblr side. I also know a few of you already made it to the server but a lot haven’t yet, and it never hurts to reblog the most current version.

@ask-theother-bobbyaboutit @fandom-apocalypse-42 @imsosupernatural @a-broken-halo @rebelminxy @saxxxology @erins-culinary-service @avocados26 @archangelgabriellives @emilyshurley @siriusly-elvendork @deiyingburd @givedeanhisangel @itsausernamenotafobsong @wtfguysstoptakingalltheusernames @follow-the-dogstar @follow-the-dogstar @friedlieb-ferdinand-runge @ghostshadow1312 @flowercrowns4jandj @aoitrinity @spn-reaction-pics @blakie00 @completewitchpigforfanfic @letswarriorfangirl @lyselkatzreblogs @samwinchesterrs @fibbunny @gouinetteparletrop @sneakysnekysnak @uselesstwink @separateentity @mysteriouslyme221b @make-your-peace-fudgenuggets @sistervertigo @tooshookbyfandoms @mistressofallthingsgeeky @castiel-saved-me-from-myself @naitia @when-in-doubt-sing @superwholock-addicted-sharky @larrem88 @thewinchesterbros8 @hypatias-sister @sonicscrewed @babyinthetrench @mackiemcb @artemis099 @paperwhitenarcissus @fandomaccount5 @theperksofbeingafangirl2 @supernatural-bellawinchester @youre-too-klaus-to-dean @the1unwanted1one @spnfamily-alwayskeepfighting @tittypasta @delicatelymagicalpanda @lilyfig @snifftheglitterglue @susieq3406spnfan @deanandcastrash @cr-noble-main @bekahlovesfanart @srgtmarshmallow @bekah-basically @quiet-purple-panda @anglefish72 @im-gabriels-bitch @opheliathefluffyunicorn @self-harmony @ladywinchester1967 @nerdstrings @callboxkat @bamboozled-rainbow-cheesecake @jdawnh12 @charlene-bradbury @bylillian @messy-random-bitch @cutelittlekittykorner @maybe-i-wont 

Sonic the freaking Hedgehog.

Goes around, dropping pumice into bottles: Splish, Splish, Splish, clink.

Teacher:….

And yeah, for validation too. Because you know what? Writing is hard - despite commonly held misconceptions, it takes a shit-ton of effort to take some blank, empty void of a page and fill it with something that lives and breathes and touches the minds and hearts of others. 

And don’t you dare wave that “you should be writing for yourself” bullshit in my face. It’s been a long, long time since I’ve been able to do that, and honestly I’m glad managed to recover as much as I have and write as much as I do. Having an audience is an integral part of the writing process.

Let me repeat that.

HAVING AN AUDIENCE IS AN INTEGRAL PART OF THE WRITING PROCESS.

We fanfic authors don’t ask for much. As someone who is a published author, who has been published in a Real Physical Book™ and was paid hundreds of dollars in Honest-to-God cold-hard cash for less work than I put into my fanfic, let me tell you, a few comments will not pay my tuition or buy my groceries or put clothes on my back. Compared to the hours of labor that went into earning the money I was paid with, comments take substantially less time to create.

And yet, to us, they are priceless. Authors will create entire worlds for the sake of making a single person smile. YOU CAN BE THAT PERSON. WE WILL WRITE FOR YOU HAPPILY.

You just have to let us know you care.

And you’d better do it soon. I’ve heard too many authors all too willing to pull their tumblrs and erase or abandon their fics on AO3 because they have grown weary of screaming into the void. That fanfic you love? Gone. That chapter you’re waiting for? Never gonna happen. How many of you have bookmark lists with fics already missing? I bet you won’t even remember which one it is.

This so fucking much!! Writers write to be read!

It’s me.

support fic writers! 

Wow! I recently reached 5K followers! Thank you everyone! Your support means so incredible much to me ❤

I have been planning on doing a giveaway for quite some time now, so I am excited to do this!

Being a multifandom blog, I will have 4 different giveaways.

This one will be for Loki from the MCU.

Here is what you can win: 1 Loki Badge Collection, 1 Loki Movie Art Poster, 1 Loki Movie Art Keyring (same image) and 1 Loki Quote Necklace.

RULES FOR ENTERING:

1. You have to be following me.

2. Only reblogs counts as an entry. You have to reblog THIS post to enter the competition.

3. Please keep your message/ask box open so I can contact you if you are the winner.

4. Winners will be selected by a random generator. If the winner does not respond to me within 48 hours, I will pick a new winner.

5. The Giveaway ends on August 4th 2018! I will announce the winner within a week.

Wow! I recently reached 5K followers! Thank you everyone! Your support means so incredible much to me ❤

I have been planning on doing a giveaway for quite some time now, so I am excited to do this!

Being a multifandom blog, I will have 4 different giveaways.

This one will be for Merle Dixon from The Walking Dead.

Here is what you can win: 1 Merle Dixon Poster, 1 Merle Dixon sticker with Quote, 1 Keyring with Quote, and 2 Chibi Merle Dixon Stickers.

RULES FOR ENTERING:

1. You have to be following me.

2. Only reblogs counts as an entry. You have to reblog THIS post to enter the competition.

3. Please keep your message/ask box open so I can contact you if you are the winner.

4. Winners will be selected by a random generator. If the winner does not respond to me within 48 hours, I will pick a new winner.

5. The Giveaway ends on August 4th 2018! I will announce the winner within a week.