monsters, trees, bears, and spock

- sneezed wrong

- turned your neck a little too fast

- slept weird

- took the trash out to the curb and stepped at a slightly different angle than usual

- breathed

- failed to breathe properly

- breathed in the wrong stuff. Allergy time

- looked too hard at something too far away

Merry Clickmas 2023!

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Tolerance takes time to build, bad days happen, and we all have our limits. Even as an adult. Even after self-reflection. And yes, even after years of building DBT skills, or proper medication, or talk therapy, or staying hydrated and taking mental health walks. Understanding your stress signals and your thresholds are necessary to start building tolerance. In addition, there's considerations like...

How can you tell eustress and distress in yourself apart?

Where's the limit when you're tired? Or sick

Do you know what it feels like when you're being unreasonable rather than somebody else is pushing your boundaries?

When are the appropriate times to walk away or rest?