Luthien

of COURSE they're not disgustingly in love, have you seen what they look like texting each other?

HEATED RIVALRY (2025−) 1.05 "I'll Believe in Anything" // 1.06 "The cottage"

please. go.

Parenting in the 80's Part 1 with Jenn Marsala

I couldn't reblog without the tags because the context is hilarious

Yes, he is more than twice her size. Yes, he is five times her age. Yes, he cries like a big baby until she kills Unacceptable Scary Things (earwigs) for him.

Here’s the Facebook post if anyone wants to read a lot of comments about very dumb horses! It’s public so no log in is needed

shane hollander and his american british car

We’ve all heard the “should you use modern queer labels or not” argument but honestly even when people go “true, they wouldn’t use the labels ‘aromantic’ or ‘asexual,’” so often the characters describe their experiences as “I never felt romantic attraction” or “I don’t feel attracted to anyone” in ways that makes me go. You are stilllllll thinking about this in an extraordinarily modern online way. That 19th century steampunk detective man will NOT be angsting about having never felt romantic attraction, he would be angsting about being unable to feel moved by the beauty or charm of a woman, or something. And I do think that “attractiveness” language is different from the identity-level idea of experiencing attraction—Sherlock Holmes does not talk about not experiencing attraction, but when Watson says “What a very attractive woman!” Holmes responds “Is she? I did not observe.” (And then Watson calls him an inhuman automaton and calculating-machine and Holmes calls Watson’s judgement biased). Never swayed by the attractiveness of a man or woman, never desirous of marriage, never charmed by the delights of love, all of these feel like some of the variety of ways that someone in this milieu might describe an ace- or aro-spectrum identity more than “never felt attraction” does. Mostly because, like the terms for aromantic and asexual themselves, nailing down an exclusively attraction-based definition of a-spec identities is a relatively new and extremely post-AVEN thing. And yet in fiction everybody knows to articulate their experience as feeling sexual/romantic attraction. And I always want to go nooo how would THIS character think about it?? Not how you think this character SHOULD think about it, how would THIS person in THIS context articulate their feelings?

Of course people have always been people, but the way we think about ourselves, the conceptual framework, has changed a lot over time. As OP says, in the past people thought about themselves more in terms of what they did rather than who they were. Not identity, but experience.

Man notices an Eagle eyeing the fish he just caught