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"I don’t care if somebody calls me giraffe, sir, madam, boy, child, binary, non-binary. I couldn’t give a f***. I’m not gonna get offended, because I know what I am. And I feel like that’s the place that we need to work to. Not this place of, ‘I can only be OK with myself if a stranger labels me correctly.’ I’m confused by that."

“I’ve been misgendered. I don’t care. I got called sir three days ago by a delivery guy. And then they look at me for more than two and a half seconds and they’re like, ‘Oh, sorry, I thought it was a bloke then.’ I’m like, ‘It’s fine, I didn’t cut my hair and dress like this so everyone could think I was Gwyneth Paltrow.’ I am making some choices here. I take responsibility for it.”

@messy-complex thank you for bringing this up because it was something I have been wanting to elaborate on. Prostitution and porn being illegal does not mean they are not being supported and sanctioned.

Many countries in the Middle East have the highest rates of watching porn in the world, Mia Khalifa was banned from visiting Lebanon all while they watched her videos the most. This is because the way that the law is structured, it is that women are punished and criminalised for being in porn while not much is done to actually stop men watching it.

There are male bodies and female bodies. Some claim that one's mind spirit, or soul can have a gender (a meaningless concept based on stereotypes) that is different from onevs body. This is not supported by science. One's mind, spirit, or soul contains (or expresses) one's personality, and personality comes in a wide variety of diverse types, none of which must conform to stereotypes about masculinity or femininity."

it’s a new day. things are looking up, uncle

A shoot is not complete and performers not paid until the exit interview, in which performers confirm the acts were consensual. Often, the director who just filmed the scene will interview the performer, asking questions like, “Did you have a good time?” and “Were you raped or abused?” and “Would you shoot with us again?” A performer’s paycheck is held hostage unless they answer “correctly.”

This seems like a great way to ensure all performers are happy and videos are consensual, but it’s common for performers to lie in these interviews. Why? Think about it.

If a performer is honest about the abuse they endured on set, they will not be paid for the day’s work—many live paycheck to paycheck, so this isn’t an option—and the entire day’s shoot will be rendered wasted and unusable. This costs the production companies serious money, which in turn means they won’t hire these performers in the future, and will essentially mark them as difficult to work with.

Just read this response to Raven and Nixon from a fellow porn performer

If you frame abortion as a "people" issue instead of a woman's issue you can't get mad when men have a say in abortion.

Then this shit happened...

Fucking clowns and idiots. You gender shits are not seeing heaven.

I am a 48-year-old transgender man. I was thrilled when the medical community told me six years ago that I could change from a woman to a man. I was informed about all the wonderful things that would happen due to medical transition, but all the negatives were glossed over. Since then, I have suffered tremendously, including seven surgeries, a pulmonary embolism, an induced stress heart attack, sepsis, a 17-month recurring infection, 16 rounds of antibiotics, three weeks of daily IV antibiotics, arm reconstructive surgery, lung, heart and bladder damage, insomnia, hallucinations, PTSD, $1 million in medical expenses, and loss of home, car, career and marriage. All this, and yet I cannot sue the surgeon responsible—in part because there is no structured, tested or widely accepted baseline for transgender health care.

Read that again: There is no structured, tested, or widely accepted baseline for transgender health care. Not for 42-year-olds, and not for the many minors embarking on medical transition in record numbers. It is not transphobic or discriminatory to discuss this—we as a society need to fully understand what we are encouraging our children to do to their bodies.

Throughout transition, I second-guessed my decisions, but each counseling session and doctor’s appointment amounted to one more push convincing me I could be cured of being born in the wrong body. The truth was that I didn’t fit in as a dominant, aggressive, assertive lesbian. The dream of finally fitting in dangled like a carrot: The idea that I could fit in catapulted me to a time much like adolescence, with its drive for acceptance, inclusive peers and the fantasy of being normal.

During my post-operation 17 months of sheer survival, I discovered that transgender health care is experimental and that large swaths of the medical industry encourage minors to transition due, at least in part, to fat profit margins. I was gobsmacked. Each day I researched more and became increasingly appalled. As I jumped from ER to ER desperately seeking help, I realized that nobody knew what to do. Each physician told me to return to the original surgeon. I was trapped like a child with an abusive parent.

My recurring bladder infection not only demolished my body; it started to ravage my mind, too. I stopped being able to problem-solve, and then lost my health insurance when I couldn’t work. I spent many nights in the bathroom in too much pain to even make it to the toilet, forced to urinate on the floor, screaming as what felt like razor blades left my body. Rest came only in 45-minute increments that I induced with four shots of vodka, six Benadryl pills and a handful of melatonin—with only sleep-deprived hallucinations for my trouble.

One night I simply couldn’t take it. I wanted to die. I crawled to bed and had another hallucination. My children’s lives flashed before my eyes, and I saw the devastation my death would cause them. Right then, I made a deal with God, the universe, whatever you call it, that if my life were spared, if I were allowed to be here for my kids, I would help other kids by ensuring people knew what the experimentation of transgender health care really entails. I remember my whimpers: “God, an eye for an eye—in reverse. I will fight with a mother’s passion for others if I can be here for my kids.”

So here I am, a trans man, sifting through my good and bad decisions, and for the first time embracing who I am—what I have created, and the life I now lead. It took me 48 years to realize I transitioned because I never wholeheartedly accepted being a lesbian. Our children don’t have a prayer to embrace the reality of something it takes a lifetime to understand. That’s our job, as parents: to protect them from foolish, lifelong mistakes.

Here’s what I could not comprehend before transitioning and what I honestly believe no child is capable of consenting to:

Decreased life expectancy

Increased risk of premature death from heart attacks and pulmonary embolisms

Bone damage

Possible liver damage

Increased mental health complications

Increased chances of mood-syndrome symptoms

Higher suicide rates than non-trans population

12 percent higher chance than non-trans population to develop symptoms of psychosis

Chance of stunted brain development

Much reduced chance for lifelong sexual pleasure

Higher chance of sterility and infertility

No improved mental health outcomes

Not completely reversible

Trans activists tout studies that say medically transitioning gender-questioning children improves mental health. But those studies have often been retracted (and those retractions underreported by the media).

Moreover, no long-term studies have been conducted on children who grow up without the benefit of natural puberty. No studies at all have been done on de-transitioners (people who return to identifying as their natal sex). What are the psychological effects? No one has a clue, and researchers are too often shut down by cancel culture for even raising the questions.

Peer-reviewed studies show a shocking correlation between gender dysphoria and autism, depression, anxiety, eating disorders and other co-morbidities. Additionally, it seems that many of these children are simply gay. Could pushing people on a one-way path to medical transition be a different form of “conversion therapy?” We need to ask and study these hard questions—for the good of all children. But we’re not—not in the mainstream media, and certainly not in President Joe Biden’s new administration.

America is proceeding down its path of total affirmation just as other countries are restoring greater balance. This past December, the U.K. High Court of Justice ruled that puberty blockers for minors are both experimental and a one-way ticket to permanent transition. Finland in 2020 completely overhauled its approach to treating minors with gender dysphoria, prioritizing psychotherapeutic non-invasive interventions and recognizing adolescence as a time of major identity exploration. Sweden is conducting a systematic literature review of the scientific basis of the long-term effects on physical and mental health of puberty blockers and hormones. The researcher who championed the “Dutch protocol” recently called for a rethink, while other research is beginning to show that the current one-size-fits-all status quo is too limited.

So if we are now waking up to the fact that gender dysphoria is over-simplistically conflated with transgenderism, medical treatments have understudied long-term consequences, some are getting rich off transgender medicine and de-transitioners are speaking up in skyrocketing numbers, why are we only making it easier for children to unquestioningly transition?

We now have the obligation to work together to slow trans medicalization of minors until they are adults and have the capacity to truly understand the lifelong consequences of transitioning. As a former lesbian and current trans man, I maintain this is not transphobic. It is actually sensitive and caring to recognize that not just one treatment or pathway is right for all kids.

Therefore, I am currently building a bipartisan army to protect our children, hold the medical industry accountable and educate our president and the rest of society about the dangers of transgender extremism. We must throw our differences aside for a moment; I promise you, once children are safe, we can resume fighting. But until children are safe, nothing else matters.

So, endocrinologists and pediatricians, moderate Democrats and moderate Republicans, radical feminists and evangelicals, lawyers and psychologists, parents and teachers: My hand is out. I will grab yours and turn down no one. Together, we can build a circle around our most precious resource: our children. Help me fulfill the promise I made on the night I almost gave up, to be here for my children—and now yours. Who’s with me?

what can be proven is that in no situation under united states law is an individual legally obligated to lend their body or organs for the sake of another life. 

4.5 million people each year are in need of blood transfusion, the entire process of donating blood takes a little over an hour, it’s free, and a single pint of blood can save up to 3 peoples lives, but there is no legal obligation or requirement to donate blood in place. 

it is illegal to take organs from deceased peoples’ bodies without permission. CORPSES. bodily integrity is prioritized by law, even after death.

it doesn’t fucking matter whether a fetus is a person, whether a fetus is alive, whether a fetus has a soul. it literally doesn’t matter. pro-lifers set up the argument through that lens (hence their name) to evoke empathy and pity and take the focus away from the actual process of pregnancy, which changes a person’s body FOREVER. that is not an exaggeration. whether the pregnancy is complicated and high-risk or totally smooth sailing, the birthing person will physically never be the same. if they’re lucky, they’ll come out of it with weight gain, differently shaped breasts, and changes to the cervix/vagina. if they aren’t, there’s a fucking laundry list of potential complications that could arise, that may eventually fix themselves, need surgical or therapeutic intervention, or never go away, like varicose veins, separation of the abdominal muscles, incontinence, prolapse, diabetes, postpartum depression, and chronic pain, just off the top of my head. and this makes no mention of the very real possibility of income disruption, as well as the financial cost of giving birth, and the chance of fucking death, which is even higher for underserved communities like black women.

Femininity ruins little girl’s childhoods. It kills our curiosity and tells us there are certain things boys will always be better at. It polices our behavior so we don’t get dirty and explore the way boys are allowed to. It restricts our movement and denies us play, as any girl who has been stuck in a dress while her brothers get to play can attest to.

Femininity breaks girls’ spirits. It teaches us that whatever boys do to us is our own fault for provoking it. It teaches us to view our own selves in relationship to male judgment.

Femininity teaches girls to diminish ourselves. Pride is a masculine quality and women who display it are bitches and cunts–a feminine woman does her work quietly and does not ask for a reward. 

Femininity teaches girls to be endlessly giving, endlessly selfless. To prioritize others and sacrifice yourself is what is expected. A woman who has an abortion is evil, selfish, for not sacrificing her body the way femininity obligates her to do.

“Consent violation”, “scene gone wrong”

Too much words for blatant rape. They really likened it to a mundane boundary crossing.

Pilots freeze and crash their plane and it's a tragedy. Armed police panic and shoot the wrong person and it's the stress of the job. Doctors get overtired and prescribe the wrong meds, and it's the pressure and the hours.

But women who stupidly believe their man loves them and cares for them and has their best interests at heart and who go blank, forget the safe word or even cry and beg for him to stop? Entirely their own fault. No benefit of the doubt. Definitely not his fault for prioritising his orgasm over her bodily integrity, physical and mental health.