I Only Date Mermaids

1. If you want a kid to clean, first you have to teach them to even see mess. They don’t! But it does stress them out.

“Okay, let’s look for something out of its place. If it’s on the floor, it’s out of place. If it’s on your bed and it’s not a blanket, it’s out of place.”

2. Go by category, it’s easier to find stuff to put away if your search engine has a specific target, and it’s more satisfying and efficient to put away a big chunk of mess at once.

“Got something? Ok, are there other things like it? Let’s find all the BOOKS. I will HELP YOU.”

3. Important!! Don’t walk away from a kid with focus issues expecting them to instantly learn a task and finish it! You are setting them up to fail! The first several times you need to be there for the whole process and demonstrate by helping. That motivates them. They feel less panic that you’ll bail and they’ll be stuck alone not knowing what to do next. Narrate what you’re doing, too. Help and supervise less as they seem to need you less.

“I’ll get the books on the floor, can you help me get the ones under your bed? I can’t fit!”

4. In my experience most kids, but especially kids with ADHD would walk to the fucking moon to help you, they just need a clear plan, keep the criticism light, short, and to the point, and ffs PRAISE THEM when they do things right, cause we’ve all (I hope) seen the statistics on how much more negative interaction they get compared to other kids (and rejection sensitive dysphoria is a motherfucker). But more than praise you need to show them how what they did was good for THEM. Do nooooooooot take this opportunity for an ‘I told you so’ or a ‘finally’ or you will suck out all their accomplishment.

“Hey, great job, you found that horse you were missing because you cleaned! And your room looks so nice! It’s really comfortable to play in now, and you did that.”

5. Emphasize it does not have to be perfect or complete to be worth doing. I don’t want to will my kids my paralysis of inaction because I can’t start part of something unless I can do all of it.

“We don’t have time to do the whole room, but let’s pick up the legos before bed so you don’t hurt your feet. And then it’ll already be done tomorrow!”

Why are we expected to just know?

And, for God’s own sake, why were we never exposed to the idea that being good at something often happens After being bad at something and doing it imperfectly anyway?

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First off, all religious art is symbolic. If you understand what symbols are being used and why then you can instantly identify what kind of God you’re looking at. Christianity is no different, but it does have an interesting twist.

Namely, Jesus is always depicted in a way that the viewer is meant to relate to. Some of the earliest depictions are from when Christianity was still considered a sect of Judaism. In those images we see Christ as a clean shaven, young shepherd figure, reminiscent of King David. Visually calling on a cultural hero like that was no mistake.

Then, as Christianity spreads outward we see the modern image of Christ form. Greeks and Romans often depicted their gods (at least the male ones) with impossibly fit bodies and thick “philosopher style” beards. Images of Christ begin to lean towards this style as he beefs up some and grows a beard.

Here is where it gets interesting to me: they only go halfway into the Greek god style. Jesus is fit, but not in an “I live at the gym and only eat pure protein” way, more of an “everyday Joe” sort of way. He has a beard, but not the long, wild, Zeus beard. Just the modest, “guy from down the street” beard.

This halfway God imagery was deliberate and calculated. The message those early Christian artists (and, by extension, modern ones) were trying to say was this: This is God, and he’s like you.

That’s the whole point of Christianity, isn’t it? That God’s a little like you and you’re a little like God.

So any artists depicting Christ is going to try and find some way to make him visually related to the intended audience. You’re gonna have white Jesus, black Jesus, Mexican Jesus, Chinese Jesus, freaking biker Jesus. And that’s the point.

Demanding an “historically accurate” picture of Jesus is like going to a luxury car dealership and asking which one can haul the most hay. That’s not the point of the thing. Historically accurate Jesus is a crap shoot anyways. Nobody is ever going to get exactly what he looked like, and even if they could, what would we do with it? What? I’m gonna carry around a picture of some middle eastern guy so if I see that guy walking down the street, I know he’s Jesus? Ridiculous.

UNIFORM - a comic about gender

Professors should not be allowed to ban laptops in class. Professors should not be allowed to ban recorders in class. Professors should not be able to ban students from taking pictures of the whiteboard at the end of lectures. Professors should not be allowed to ban ANYTHING that will make the class more accessible for ALL students. I don’t care what the excuse is.

“They might not even be taking notes on their laptop, they’re probably playing games!” So that’s on the student and they’ll have to live with those grades. They’re paying thousands of dollars to be there, if they want to fuck off and waste their money that’s on them.

“I’m uncomfortable with my lectures being recorded!” What EXACTLY are you saying in your lectures that makes you worried about being recorded, hmm?

“I just don’t like the idea of being on camera/recorded at work. How would YOU feel being recorded at work?” Buddy, I work in retail. I’m always being watched. Suck it the fuck up.

And before anyone says “but you can just bypass this by getting permission from accessibility services!” 1. Not all students with disabilities have up-to-date diagnosis to qualify, 2. Not all students with disabilities have had it confirmed by a professional yet and won’t be able to access those services, 3. Not all students who need these accommodations even have a disability! Some people just learn differently and lecture-style learning actually doesn’t work for a lot of people! and 4. This often puts a student on the spot to all their classmates and can make them feel very uncomfortable.