indigo casson

because nate is SO REPRESSED that for the entire first season his entire background is Dead Son, Bitter Alcoholic, and Worked At IYS. you dont even find out about his wife until the season finale. this man is not giving ANYTHING away. you learn more about *elliot goddamn spencer* than nate in season 1, and elliot is a fucking government black ops spook

but then in the first episode hes like "we need a new face, we need somebody the mark doesnt know... omg lets go get sophie <3 shes so wonderful and amazing shes the best criminal youve ever seen" just bragging about his Not-Wife to anybody who will listen

and sophies like No No I'm Honest Now

and nate says I'm Not

and sophie has this little headtilt of like. holy shit he wants to break the law i HAVE to fuck him now. and the conversation goes on and nate asks if shes in and sophies head fucking VIBRATES from how hard shes nodding her agreement

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

I’m gonna say this point blank— you’re a tar pit if you think this way

Your suffering does not make you special, you are not granted brand new permissions to be belligerent and cruel because you have been treated poorly, straight people aren’t an oppressed class, no, but they’re people who are entitled to the same amount of basic decency that you, yourself, are entitled to