Dreams Are Real.

Eowyn wasn't embracing her "femininity" when she became a healer after a war.

Also one of the premises in lotr is that it is honorable to be a good warrior, but a ‚good‘ person will not seek war and violence if it is not necessary. War is only there to protect and to end war eventually.

Whatever the ups and downs of Starfleet Academy, I will die on the hill that actually some people needed to see a leader sitting weird in a chair. Our concept of who makes a "good leader" is actually way too skewed towards body language, how people dress, their vocabulary and other things that don't actually affect the quality of their decision-making. In 2026, we put too much emphasis on whether someone "looks like a leader" - polling companies regularly ask this about politicians - and not enough emphasis on what decisions people are making and why. And of course this bias ends up working against marginalised groups, like all biases eventually do. ("Why is she sitting like a little girl?" is something I've heard more than once)

I have a theory that people who say they're "afraid of clowns" largely are not, in the sense of actually having a phobia, and what they mean is "clowns creep me out," and what they mean by THAT is "clowns make me uncomfortable, because they dress and speak and move and act in ways that I do not necessarily expect or have a social script for so they make me feel wrong-footed and self conscious and confused because the interaction and behavior does not make sense to me,"

Hmm I am scared of clowns because I feel like they often do jokes to humiliate a person (or at least I feel like it) and I have been publicly humiliated enough. And I also feel like they sometimes touch people and have no boundaries. And also their facial expressions are even harder for me to read.