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Nesta: *tends to her every need and risks all potential relationships to defend and protect her*

Nesta: *doesn't bother anyone by dealing with her trauma her own way*

she then proceeded to gaslight Nesta when she then visited her two weeks later saying "feyre warned me this might happen,,,," and then when nesta was rightfully upset with this, elain then went crying to rhysand, saying nesta wasn't even trying to get better.

this is after she refused to meet with nesta because she doesnt go to "those places" and wouldn't spend genuine time with her unless it was on her terms

I don't regret extending my empathy for someone who I witnessed get publicly bullied multiple times, because that's who I am. I extend empathy to others while their intentions is their own.

And because I don't wish it upon anyone. I know what that feels like from firsthand experience in the past 5+ years. I always tried to have my friends' back and supported people who were treated unfairly and cruelly, because it can fuck you up if you didn't have a support system. Because let's not forget people receive death threats in this community and there are people that find absolute joy in harming others.

What I will not do, not now or ever, is excuse someone who screwed over co-commissioners (my friends included) and artists by not paying or treating them unfairly based on what has been shared (because I was not in spaces where those issues took place or addressed). I will never forgive her for it. As someone who has been commissioning for a long time and has wonderful friendships with artists, my stance is known so I don't even need to say this. Again, we all had different experiences with the same person and we were not aware of the issues other people have picked up on (not until it was brought up just a day ago).

Instead of supporting the commissioners who were affected by this, what I'm seeing is blame. "Guilty by association" is not a fair verdict to throw around when some of those commissioners covered the costs of someone who screwed them over. Those commissioners spent time and money wanting to give something beautiful to the community. It's human to give someone the benefit of the doubt or hope they'll do better so are you going to blame people for showing an ounce of decency and humanity? Again, it depends on your experience with that person. The topic is shifting into harassment and blame rather than focusing on how we protect those artists and commissioners and that is unfair to me.

I realized something that's been irking me about the way [Insert a certain ship name here] talks about Azriel.

I'm not sure if this is their intent, but the way they always emphasize Azriel's kindness towards Elain and attach a special meaning to it makes it seem like Azriel isn't a kind person in general?

Like it's giving "Doberman boyfriend who's only nice to her". Which is just... inaccurate.

Azriel is canonically kind to many characters, especially females, in the series. This is a non-exhaustive list off the top of my head:

He's so encouraging and understanding when teaching Feyre to fly in WAR. He gets her rare paint from the Continent.

He's so gentle and caring with Nesta in HOFAS when he's trying to get her to take off the Mask. And in the HOFAS bonus chapter, he reassures her that she would be a good mother despite her own upbringing. He gets her a reading light for Solstice.

He's mindful and considerate with the priestesses during Valkyrie training. The fact that he even agrees to train them despite everything else that he has going on is kind. He's very aware of their boundaries and respects them.

He's kind and supportive to Gwyn when he agrees to give her extra dagger lessons.

AND he is kind to Elain. Of course, I get wanting to emphasize the kind moments of your ship as romantic, but then denying any other kindness could also be romantic feels... Off. Kindness from a kind character isn't inherently romantic.

Azriel is someone who is kind with those he cares for. Romantically or otherwise.

He specifically is said to be sensitive to the treatment of females because of his mother.

𝒲𝑒 𝒸𝒶𝓃’𝓉 𝓌𝒶𝒾𝓉!! 💖

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You might argue that her story wrapped up in ACOSF, but Sarah made the choice to put that plotline in her hands.

My first conversation about PCOS with my new endocrine/OBGYN was about weight management and how that could improve my fertility when I eventually wanted kids. It wasn't asked what my goals were for my health or if I wanted kids, just assumed.

I was a hormonal, depressed mess. I hated my body. My body dysmorphia was so bad that I cloistered myself away from so much. I wore hoodies and jeans in the 90°F, 80% humidity summers. This was considered fine. I was given metformin and birth control pills and told this was all that could be done. That PCOS wouldn't affect my life until I wanted to be pregnant. I wasn't asked if I wanted to be pregnant, just assumed.

I don't know how many PCOS groups I joined on my early 20s hoping to find community and commonality for body dysmorphia and symptom management, only to be bombarded with fertility treatments and tips and 'inspirational conception' anecdotes. They never asked if I was attempting to conceive, just assumed.