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So! I mentioned an announcement earlier today and here it is: Me and My Husband are moving from North Carolina with our good friend so we can live a more independent life. We'll be driving cross-country later this month as well.
We're waiting on his disability payments to come in so we can buy a camper to make our big move, but while we wait, my husband is offering writing commissions!
Money would go to bills, moving costs, feeding our very fluffy cat, getting our car's AC fixed, and finally replacing our 12 year old hybrid battery!
Info here: https://kofi.com/wizardquill/commissions
If you're interested in helping out a nonbinary trans dude and his legally blind husband, or just want a piece of writing of your own, we'd really appreciate it. And if you can't help out, a reblog always helps, but there's no pressure.
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I'm obsessed with gardening systems that utilize rainwater without the use of barrels or cisterns. My ultimate fav is using bioswales to catch and filter stormwater on the street.
Fun addition: Dams that utilize trees to catch dirt/ stop erosion, and prevent disaster that can come from broken dams.
Also, using these to reduce stormwater loads in storm events, particularly in places with combined stormwater and sewage systems, could/would be helpful at reducing river discharges of raw sewage. (If climate change is factored in at system level cos more rain in less time needs to be accouted for at rhe large scale designs...)
Plus using constructed wetlands to retain these discharges and treat them before rivers too!
never be good at your job. it's a trap. they'll just give you more and harder stuff to do and it'll pull you away from your true passion of writing gay fanfiction for people on the internet
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Every day I handle more money than I will ever make. Every day.
At the start of my employment, my boss showed me videos of people stealing, and we both had a chuckle about it. How silly they were! There was a camera overhead, and it’s not to watch the shoppers. See, we can’t actually stop shoplifters. They get away with it maybe nine out of ten times. But we, who are watched and tallied and witnessed? We are always caught.
At first it was hard to hold one hundred dollars bills. An amount I had never seen before. An amount that didn’t exist in my household. It’s normal now. Here is something that is not for me.
“What the hell, I’ll take another,” says the man, pondering our 200 dollar watches. What the hell. Total comes to 580 and not even a flinch in his face. I have been working for 11 hours today and made only 110 dollars. It will go to my rent. Today I work for free, it feels. When I get my check, I will have 35 dollars left for food and saving.
The six hundreds he hands me go into the cash register. For a moment, I imagine having money. Then I put it away, counting out his change.
I know for a fact we sell our products for double what they are worth. That I could be making commission. That they could hand me those 580 dollars and change my life and not even mark the difference in their checkbooks. He’s not the only sale they make today, but I am the reason they made it. He’s not the only one spending 600 dollars, but if I hadn’t spent two hours with him telling me about his life, he wouldn’t have spent any. I go home. I don’t own a watch.
I have watched and rewatched a video on how to make salmon four ways. My shopping list is always the same. Pasta. Rice. Tuna. If I can afford butter it was a good week. I dream of the world I will never walk in, where I can throw the best fish fillet in the cart with a shrug. I hold hundreds in my hand and look up at the camera. I put them under the cash drawer.
I go to work. I scrap together my savings. I eat my bowl of rice slowly. My manager takes a paid week off from work just for his birthday. He owns a yacht.
i wrote this while i was working at orlando’s walt disney world parks.
i was part of their college program. i moved to the state for it. they legally owned the building i was living in and still charged me rent. i ostensibly was being charged to work for them. it was a 2 bedroom apartment and they placed 6 adult women in it in forced triples.
as many as one in ten disney employees have experienced homelessness while working for the company. despite huge efforts to unionize, strike, or otherwise demand fair treatment; disney has refused to increase employee quality of life.
disney admits publicly that a good portion of their success is because the employees (“cast members”) are dedicated, passionate, and selfless. this is never reflected in pay. even “face” characters (ie those that are princesses etc) make barely above a minimum wage.
at the time that i worked there, i made $8.50 an hour. at one point i was asked to create a human shield around a bag because a bomb dog had alerted to it. for eight fucking dollars an hour.
i now work a very cushy office job. i have bought the salmon and cooked it all four ways.
i go to the store. i am nice to the person behind the counter. she looks up at the camera while she counts out my change. there is nothing fundamentally different about her and i.
Honestly it boils down to reparenting yourself & rewiring your own neuronal pathways & telling yourself a firm “stop” when you notice your mind slipping down negative loopholes & being present in the moment & enjoying being mid task rather than waiting for it to end & not thinking of inertia as your baseline and natural way of living
So tempting to keep embarking on the same self destructive cycle over & over & over again . But at some point you have to put ur foot down w ur own behaviors & be the thing that truly saves u
It is true that people in fandom equate top bottom with dom sub and probably mean the latter when they "headcanon" the former but I also think people need to be more open to the idea that D/s doesn't necessarily get indicated from personality either. Like for example a shy person who gets pushed around easily very well might enjoy having a dominant role with a partner they trust. That can even be affirming. Like BECAUSE of this issue you have in your real life to feel like someone will submit to YOU and defer to YOU is special for example. I think the idea that you just play the role that suits your personality in real life is part of why these same people seem to genuinely think being a Dom is like, kind of bad and scary
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I saw this video about a doctor who performed an MRI on a 5 year old and discovered she essentially had “brain damage” from excessive iPad use, as the white matter in her brain couldn’t form properly due to an understimulated environment.
Hmm it’s almost like there’s supposed to be adult figures responsible for monitoring her screen time and making sure she develops properly… certainly this isn’t the result of neglect at the hands of her parents…
“This 5 year old is brain damaged by excessive iPad use”
Translation: This 5 year old is developmentally impaired by neglectful parents who used an iPad as a stand-in for social and environmental stimulation / interaction for hours at a time during critical early stages of child development. The iPad is the cop-out.
“Children don’t have the strength to hold pencils anymore because they only use screens.”
Translation: Parents aren’t making the conscious effort to help their children develop necessary skills and letting iPads raise them.
When are people going to realize the iPads and whatnot are the instruments through which the neglect is happening through and not the cause? How the fuck do you let your child have such a severe lack of physical strength in their hands that they can’t hold a pencil properly?
People will see a study suggesting children with higher screen times have poorer or negative developmental outcomes and immediately say it’s the screens causing this, and not the more likely fact that higher screen time = less engagement time with their environment, physical exercise, parents, family, and their peers, all of which are NECESSARY for a healthy upbringing as a social species.
It’s like saying a dog who was kept in a cage all its life and left with atrophied muscles was damaged by the cage, and not by the fact its owners were too lazy to play or walk their dog in order for its muscles to build properly. The cage is the instrument of neglect and the owners are the perpetrators, in the same way parents are the perpetrators and weaponizing screen time as an excuse and painting themselves as helpless bystanders.
I used to be told I was addicted to screens as a child, so my folks made a no games policy during Monday to Thursday. It worked, which given how “hooked” I was, you’d think it wouldn’t. However, Friday to Sunday I would spend all day playing games because those were the only days I really could. This stopped when I moved for college. In college I could do what I wanted with my time, and turns out that was mostly studying and hanging out with friends. Turns out it was a case of “not having much else to do” and “having my time tightly controlled” contributed to my forming unhealthy habits around screens.
It is however easier to blame kids and teenagers for failing to overcome what’s perceived as their unhealthy behavior and not the factors that tend to lead to the behavior. Parents will come up with all sorts of excuses to justify why they can’t pay attention to their kids, some may be legitimate, but legitimate excuses don’t somehow erase neglect.
I saw this video about a doctor who performed an MRI on a 5 year old and discovered she essentially had “brain damage” from excessive iPad use, as the white matter in her brain couldn’t form properly due to an understimulated environment.
Hmm it’s almost like there’s supposed to be adult figures responsible for monitoring her screen time and making sure she develops properly… certainly this isn’t the result of neglect at the hands of her parents…
sometimes i wonder if we have forgotten that sharing creative work is, fundamentally, a bid for human connection. like I'm not posting art or fic for 'engagement' i'm posting it looking for other sickos to play with! i'd be making it anyway for my own gratification because there's something wrong with me, i'm sharing it hoping we can have something wrong with us together <3
so hard not to become the most annoying person on earth if you're a little excitable and just learned a little about a topic literally no one around you has any interest in
I straight-up made cc for this. That's how much it means to me.
This started life as a 'share your favorite Sim' tag game, but it got deep when we realized we couldn't just present them without explaining them. Largely for @morrigan-sims , who both tagged us, and inspired us to talk about the characters we owe everything. Morrigan recently went through something we've been through, so it felt right.
This is our equivalent of "it gets better", but for characters. And it's longer than it has any right to be, so buckle up. There's a reason we don't talk about our kids much. This is what happens.
Frederick Duncan and Henry Christophe Abernathy started their lives as Frederick Du Con and Helvah Sei'Dist. These two have appeared before, but not in their "true" forms. And the reason for that is...that their world died, and we had to move them elsewhere. Then, we sorta moved them back? More on that below, along with the questions.
Before that, cc credits here: @subtles4stubble @joliebean @simandy @shandir @strangestorytellersims @daylifesims @trillyke and @tzuhu [1][2][3][4][5][6][7][8] Poses by @helgatisha @herecirmsims and @atashi77.
Survivors of World-Death:
Frederick and Helvah started life in a slightly kinky, comical fantasy RPG, where Dez and I met in 2006. In a world of cat-boys, maid costumes and magic, we found each other through common ground: we both made complex characters, with books-worth of backstory, and could not wait to challenge them. Dez's enthusiastic comment on my concept art started a friendship that would change both our lives. Our characters later fell in love--10 years before we realized that we had fallen in love, too. We just hadn't known it yet. Because we're dumb af.
Then, the worst happened. In 2009, the RPG group fell apart, and the site that hosted it was suddenly shut down. We were crushed. It was like their world had disappeared, threatening to take them with it. The setting belonged to someone else. What could we do with characters that had nowhere to go?
We did other things, for a while--but we kept them in our minds. They showed up as cameos in modern worlds, and we played with their dynamic. The answer to the problem came suddenly in 2017. We didn't own the world they came from, but we owned their origins. As they came from the same kingdom, a neighbor of the original setting, we simply moved them home. That is how our series, KINGDOM, got started. Their part of the world has been revised, through an event that reset their timeline, but it's better for them both. And, they get to be together. That's all that matters.
The moral here is this: you may share your characters' lives and worlds with other people--but in the end, they are yours, and they remain with you. You just have to find where they belong. It may take some time, but they'll be ready when you are.
(Also, save everything you make. Or you'll end up like me and Dez, spending a week digging for 20-year-old character references.)
Now that we've lost 95% of you: the actual prompts lmao
Helvah: Helvah is a workaholic. He spends more time researching than he does sleeping. As Henry, he works for an intelligence agency--a nod to his role in KINGDOM, where he serves as Royal Inquisitor to the Queen of Achillea. (Much more fun than it sounds.) When he's not working, he goes on long people-watching walks. His hobbies include reading, languages, yoga, contortionism, knot-tying, journaling, and giving unasked-for advice.
Frederick: Aside from the time period, the major difference between settings is that in KINGDOM, Frederick has his life figured out, and in the modern world, he doesn't. (Relatable.) At home, he spends his days reading and giving asked-for advice as court counselor. In the modern day, he has a few more challenges, including deciding what he wants to do with his life. Tea cups stack up on his desk in both places. Only one has servants to collect them before they go weird. The other one has a bemused Henry instead.
A Bit About Their Family:
Helvah: It's complicated. His noble/rich parents were distant growing up, leaving him in the care of a nanny and their head servant, who are more like his parents. His older brother, V, is equal parts his closest ally and worst enemy. Despite this, he often runs interference between his brother and parents (and other people), mediating to keep personalities from boiling over. He grew to understand his father as he aged, and they have a subtle bond. His mother is present, but the brilliance he inherited reflects more coldly from her. They don't see eye to eye; she's too much like her older son.
Frederick: Freddie is the youngest adopted son of a soldier who does not like other people. His older sibling, Fred--also adopted--is the bad one, and encourages freethinking (and often destructive behavior). Freddie learned most of his counseling skill negotiating between Fred and their father, Reginald. He loves them, but if being an adult is having your shit figured out, he's fairly sure they aren't adults. Reginald is protective of him, being the baby, but his sibling's interference prevented him being too smothered. Despite Dad's best efforts.
A Bit About Their Close Relationships/Friends:
Helvah is generally too busy to keep close friends, but he was on good terms with most of the court. His older brother is a constant source of frustration, and they share a somewhat unhealthy rivalry. Helvah would back him in a fight without question, but he'd also fight him in the dirt, and definitely lose. V's overt athleticism and brutality inspired Helvah to favor strategy over force, using him as an example to avoid. Even in a modern setting, the dynamic remains: Henry is the peacekeeper, and V is the problem. Both are fine with this.
Freddie gets along well with his father's partner, Jasper, who partly helped to raise him and is also a bad influence, and with his older sibling Fred. Frederick looks up to Fred for all the wrong reasons, inspired by their daring, if not their poor choices. Fred spent their childhood looking out for him. His father dotes on him, though his workload prevents them spending much time together. He has a friendly relationship with the entire castle staff, largely because he grew up with few servants and views everyone fairly equally.
Their Goals In Life:
Having a life is about all they can hope for, considering their backgrounds, and they are enjoying it as much as they can. Their current focus is raising their kids and keeping their siblings out of trouble. And they're happy to have the chance.
Tagging:
If you're actually reading this, you're tagged. Don't take our example; we had to go overboard. Thanks for coming to our TED talk. If you read this far, you get free cc. Both for male frame. (Don't snitch. Thank you for reading.)
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It will leave you happier and more at peace if you stop trying to monitor and control other people's behaviour online. In an indefinitely large open space like Tumblr, it is simply not possible to have community standards, because you are, in fact, not in a real community with almost any of the people you encounter on this website. There are potentially upwards of a million people on Tumblr alone, and it is a completely porous space, the idea that we are any kind of coherent group is nonsense. On the same point, the idea that any random selection of people who happen to share an interest, fandom, or hobby in a large open space like this make up any kind of real community is also nonsense. The more you can focus on the actual, individual people you interact with online, the people it is possible for you to know and care about, and not trouble yourself with the behaviour of strangers, the more mentally free you'll be (by all means study other people like bugs, though.)
Does anyone have that screen shot where its like "being nonbinary means to me" and then a bunch of corporate words and then it ends with the word phone
