Expanding off of "it feels like the nonbinary project failed":
It feels like "nonbinary" caused the definitions of "man" and "woman" to get more restrictive and rigid, like if you're the slightest bit GNC in an urban center, you suddenly get theythem'd all over the place by anxious liberals, or if you express the slightest feelings of genderweirdness, you're expected to slot yourself obediently into the "nonbinary" box.
"Man" and "woman" as categories will always exist, and will always include the vast majority of humans on Earth, so "nonbinary" feels like this little quarantine zone where we put anyone slightly gender-nonconforming, to make sure that the "man" and "woman" categories remain unsullied by transgression.
I would probably be a lot more comfortable referring to myself as a "man" if man and woman were the only options, and I suspect I'll reach a point (and am sort of there already) where I comfortably refer to myself as a gay man when I'm around cis gay men, but awkwardly have to drop the word "man" when I'm around other types of queers.
(I saw a comment from some girl on my previous post like "I feel bad whenever I kneejerk refer to a short-haired woman as they" and yes lol, I do that too sometimes, and I also feel bad.)
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