dominant and infertile

Send me an ask with the emojis for the questions you want me to answer, or reblog this post for others to ask you!

🌿- How has your understanding of your identity grown? Did you identify another way before you came to the virago or mollis label?

🐾 - Were there any "signs" you were virago/mollis before you realized you were? If so, what were they?

🦚 - What's something very virago/mollis of you to find attractive in the opposite gender?

🪻 - What Role Reversal romance tropes do you wish you saw more of in het/wlm romance media?

🌹 - What's your dream date?

🦋 - What's something that gives you butterflies?

🦅 - Do you think you've ever met another virago or mollis offline?

🦢 - What's one thing you hope for in a potential GNC romantic relationship (or one thing you enjoy about the one you're in currently?)

🐆 - Was there ever a part of your identity that scared you at first, or that was hard to accept? Have you overcome it, or is it something you're still working on?

🐅 - How did you find this community?

🐓- Do you know of any songs that other viragos or mollis/calicos might relate to?

🪺 - If you have one, share a story from your childhood that you attribute to your virago/mollis identity. This could be a funny anecdote or a frustrating experience, or anything in between!

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

Women are actually capable of doing anything they set their minds to, intellectual or physical, everything is a skill that can be learned. Men create myths of women’s inferiority including physical to justify their secondary status, “they need someone strong to protect (read: privately abuse) them.”

They’ve convinced women we cannot learn the skill of muscle building and fighting so not only that we don’t physically compete with them and potentially win but also to subjugate us. They don’t want you fighting back, in the private sphere or in the public sphere of politics. Women have been the leaders of guerrilla movements the world over - China, Vietnam, El Salvador, Palestine, the Philippines (ongoing). Would you say they were weaker than their male counterparts? Obviously not, because those male opponents died trying to fight them. Look at Lyudmila Pavlichenko.

Women should actually be demanding participation in physical training spaces and widespread knowledge of self-defense skills including firearms training. We need to create collective parity with men and their monopoly on violence is in our disfavor.

Who else has a monopoly on violence? The capitalists and the imperialists. Patriarchy is a division created by class society and endless expansion by empire leaves behind so many particular issues for women. Sudden loss of health services and martyrdom of family members being just one of them.

These are issues that women should be collectively focusing on and drawing connections to but it seems some are willing to concede the ground of women not being lesser than men physically or intellectually just to affirm other bigotries.

And you'll be like, "That sounds bad." And she'll be like, "No no. It's totally not that bad. It's just a meme. Men say it too. Like if a man does something silly he'll be like, 'I am like those women who do not deserve to vote.'" And you'll be like, "Does that make it better?" And she'll be like, "Well there was one guy who tried to make 'Men shouldn't vote' a popular meme. But it never caught on and also he got yelled at a lot."

Society somehow pressures you don't like they being"too feminine" Or perhaps, as women, people think it's a passing fancy, then you'll like "real men" Over time (masculine men)

meanwhile most masculine men either treat me like my very existence is a threat that emasculates them, or they have a fetish for "conquering" me

when i dont bend, they can get belligerent, sometimes violent

and then i am expected to make up with them, submit, cook their meals and bear their children. i am expected to love them and let them fuck me after the lifetime of shit they have put me through

theres next to no books, shows, or movies with male love interests that i... would actually be interested in. most feminine men cant even go out in public dressed the way they want because they risk harassment or beatings for it

i cant even really talk about my preferences out loud, because people dont believe me. according to them, im always in denial- either about liking men, or about not finding masc men attractive. they think i cant know myself or my feelings or my body, because theyve never seen my body as belonging to me.

Where do you guys find the words?

Haha, there are a lot of long posts here! But I promise that’s not any sort of expectation or requirement at all. For me I think it’s because I’ve been stuck with these thoughts for so long with no one to say them to, so now that I have this blog to voice them, my posts end up being really long 😂

Remember when Lil Nas X beautifully explored his sexuality, seduced and killed the devil to the banger of all time, and instead of cheering on this openly gay and proud Black artist for his artistry and fighting back against respectability politics, suddenly said respectability politics was all the Queerest Place on the Internet cared about? Hm. Wonder what happened there.

They want buckskin and face paint, drumming, songs in languages they can’t understand recorded for them but with English subtitles, of course. They want educated, well spoken, but not too smart. Christian, well behaved, never question. They want to learn the history of the people, but not the ones that are here now, waving signs in their faces, asking them for clean drinking water, asking them why their women are going missing, asking them why their land is being ruined.

They want fantastical stories of Indians that used to roam this land. They want my culture behind glass in a museum.