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the thing about being bullied for being weird as a kid is that even if you've always embraced being weird your brain is still always looking for the line where it's too much. you can be as proudly and intentionally weird as you want and you can love being weird but your mind is still convinced there's a point where you get too weird and people start treating you like a weird looking bug again. also it feels like you reach that point 500 times a day even if everyone you've spoken to today found you pleasant and likable and even if you're completely alone in your house with nobody looking at you at all.
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I know it's more nuanced than this but I think having a hard policy of thinking anyone who genuinely hates one group of queer people for their identity might as well hate all of us and thus I should block any queerphobic queer person I see can do a lot to save you from believing anything exclusionists say.
"bomb that kills all-" "I just don't get bi women bringing their-" "pansexuality isn't a real thing-" "all lesbians-" "trans men really are men bcs they're all misogynistic predators-" "theyfabs-" "pfft aroace people are cringe-" "nonbinary people are actually all-" Instant block. Goodbye. Not listening. It's for both solidarity with your fellow queers AND to protect yourself, because once a person is convinced to hate one group for their immutable traits they can be convinced fairly easily to hate another too, and thus I do not trust them.
Just block these people the second they pop up, they aren't your allies and nothing they have to say is worth listening to.
Having experienced a lot of it in my 20s, I think some of the worst, pettiest, most straight up this-is-just-bullying-you're-passing-off-as-praxis incidences of Queer Infighting endemic to young people can be best understood as attempts to exercise power by people with very little power.
Like you're 22, you're queer, you've just become a Marxist, the scope of World Suck is overwhelming and you have $30 in your bank account. What can you do to feel like you have any power? Well, you can try to get your frenemy cancelled for cosplaying a character from a problematic show. You can write a public callout post over someone's obviously friendly use of a slur you don't think they technically have the right to reclaim. Doing this stuff can make you feel like you have power and your actions have an impact. Unfortunately the impact in question is a negative impact on other marginalized people. But that often takes some maturity and self-reflection to notice.
I'm reminded of this post from 2017. To paraphrase, OP took part in community service via their university and part of that was cleaning the bathrooms at the local homeless community centre, which would frequently get trashed, not because the homeless people using them disrespected the work of the people cleaning them but because they had so little control over other things that happened in their lives, and the bathroom was something they could affect.
This, too, is a trashed bathroom; young queer people living through hell and having precious little control over their circumstances or the world in which they exist can affect something by using the language of social justice as a cudgel on their would-be allies, as well as getting a brief feeling of power over someone else by doing it.
It's not worth it. Don't trash your community bathrooms.
in more pleasant news: this year is seeing the biggest humpback migration in Australian history, bigger than it was PRE whaling. That's right, there are more humpbacks migrating off the coast of Australia than there were BEFORE industrial whaling started.
A huge, fat W for environmentalists and Greenies. what an achievement
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Working with different business cultures all over the globe, my biggest surprise is that while the USA is bad, it's not actually the very absolute worst I've ever worked with.
The key is business culture is like its own weird separate culture with rules and structures, but most places have a fairly comprehensible set of expectations. So most of the time, it's just remembering perceived differences in expectations. Some places it's polite to be what feels really overly friendly to me. Some places it's polite to be what feels obsequious and formal to me. It's like, whatever. A secondary form of language kinda. It's not even social cues, it's just mechanics of language really. Places with that stuff, those are all fine and wonderful to deal with because there's a framework to communicate and all that.
Part of why the USA shits the bed trying to talk with is because every business person here has like zero framework, it's all lies and bullshit, and everyone wants to be the smartest bestest boy. It's not business culture as much as daycare for toddlers who have millions of dollars and hate human rights. Not the worst though, not by far.
What's key to understand is this is all separate from things like the real people in different places. Business brain people don't have any relevance to real human behavior, it's this whole other structure of make believe which controls everyone's well being. It's important to know because I know how to email a business guy in South Korea using language that will feel appropriate enough after translation, but that's completely irrelevant to the real people living there. It's easy to talk to business guys in China or India or whatever. Germany, Nigeria, Mexico.
UK business guys are pretty bad too. Still not the worst but you have to put a lot of extra work in because business culture in the UK still thinks the Brittish empire exists. The majority of business dudes in the UK see no difference between selling something that has their company name on it, and making it themselves. It's like how all the stuff that says "made in the USA" is 99% made somewhere else, and then one staple is put into it and it's made in the USA, but if you talk to business guys here, they never confuse where things are made, just like... more basic realities like linear time and physics. UK guys go the opposite way, and always say they own everything. But that's all relatively navigable. It's like, okay, you all live in an imaginary world, but I can still get everyone to understand time and logistics and stuff enough to get everyone understanding the same information. I can translate imagination land to reality and back, they get it.
Australia business guys are the worst. Uncontested. I keep minutely detailed notes on every interaction I have with any business brained Australian. I don't want to do this. I have to. Working with business guys in Australia is like being stuck in a marriage with an emotionally abusice pickup artist. Their favorite way to communicate is using work appropriate language to imply you're stupid and your work is worthless. Luckily, there's also no way to explain what you do, because I think when you get a corporate executive level position in an Australian business, they surgically remove the part of your brain that takes in new information.
My average verbal or email exchange with an Australian business guy goes something like this:
"Okay, this is going to take around a month. We need so and so dollars to start. Also, the Earth orbits the Sun."
"Great, just to confirm, we're ready to deliver tomorrow, and the giant hamster rolls the sunball across the sky. Sounds good, have you started?"
It's infuriating in some ways, fascinating in others. Information simply vanishes into an Australian business person as if you hurled it into space, but something in space might theoretically end up somewhere and everything I say to Australian business guys doesn't. I've tried every way around it, and nothing works. And they become enraged when the things they imagined, which no one ever actually said, don't happen. Like you know those clips from Alex Jones in court being read his own words? Imagine that instead of blustering denial he demanded to know how the lawyer was so incompetent at lawyering because words don't exist and he was told this was a carnival cruise not lawsuit. And they have both of the worst traits of USA and UK business guys on top of all that. And I've never heard anyone even close to the same level of casual racism as business guys in Australia. I mean, business guys as a rules aren't great people, but nowhere I've ever worked with has been so consistently terrible to deal with. It would be one thing if it was an outlier, I've had one or two USA companies that were rough, sometimes companies in South Korea can be a real pain, navigating business culture in France if you're from the USA is a labyrinth. But Australia. Those business guys are on another level. Every other company with dodgy practices knows what theyâre doing that's questionable. I don't know if business guys in Australia have the ability to understand... like... language. Do they understand laws, money, logistics, anything? Impossible to say! They walk and talk like people but they have discovered some means by which they never intake any information ever. It's like plausible deniability evolved into a new part of the brain specifically to make it easier to be as unethical as the manifest physical reality permits. The regular people in Australia all seem fine, just more people, but the business operators are like night and day. I can find ways to communicate with non-English speakers fairly well, knowing how to work language to adapt to translation is fun. I can't make fucking heads or tails of English speaking Australian corporate execs. If you speak any second language, any at all, know that you are doing better at it than these guys are in their first one. It's literally impossible to overstate how uniformly unpleasant it is to work with business guys from Australia. They are, without question, the worst.
@elodieunderglass Those look really interesting, do you have a link to a sharper version? (Or is there a joke about communication difficulties and you're not supposed to see what it says?)
Ha, yeah, I hadnât expected Tumblr to compress it like that - âdo you love the colour of business communication around the world?â
The body of work is called âCommunication Patterns Around the World,â by Richard Lewis. The main book theyâre from is at the bottom of the image, but theyâre widely spread. Googling will lead to many articles and many images.
AO3 team will NEVER contact you via your ficâs comments section!!!!!!!!
if you get a comment from someone claiming to be from AO3 in any way, shape or form, IT IS A SCAM.
if you get a comment from someone claiming they work with AO3 and that your AO3 account has been compromised or restricted somehow and that you must contact xyz or open a link they give, IT IS A SCAM.
they want to hack your account and/or steal your credit card/personal information (because the link they want you to click on will require your login info and/or your other sensitive information!!!!)
*the same scam tactic can be seen on tumblr where these scammers claim to be someone from tumblr team too
DO. NOT. FALL. FOR. IT!!!!!!
hereâs AO3âs official statement about it
hereâs the post I made that covered other types of bots
Okay for those of you living in pitiful ignorance, take a raw ear of corn with the husk on and cut all the way around the base (as pictured: above the point where the husk meets the cob, so that the entire husk is severed but still wrapped around the corn. Do not cut through the cob.) Then, with the husk still on, microwave it for 5-7 minutes. It'll basically steam it inside the husk. Remove from microwave --it will be hot, so use a mitt or a towel--and firmly pull the top of the husk/silk, which should come off easily in one piece, unsheathing a flawless corn on the cob. If it doesn't, you probably need to cut a little higher around the base, so all the leaves are severed. No picking off silk!
Lots of video games are affordable. Even new. Just not AAA games (and I've been used to them being unaffordable all my life).
Try looking for indie games or what are sometimes known as "AA" games (smaller studios rather than the larger ones that dominate the high-priced gaming environment), which are often far cheaper than the AAA games and are a lot of fun. Special shoutout to interactive fiction and visual novels; due to the tech involved being relatively well understood, these are usually much more affordable than the AAA games (many are free, and a lot of others cost less than a third of AAA games when new), and there are many different types of game within those genres to enjoy.
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one of the hardest things to learn as a depressed former Gifted Kid⢠is that half-assed is better than nothing. take the 50%, 40%, even 20% job. scrubbing your face is better than not taking a shower at all. picking up your clothes is better than never cleaning. nibbling on some bread is better than starving.
DO THINGS HALFWAY. NOW YOUâRE 100% BETTER OFF THAN YOU WERE BEFORE.
One of my college professors used to say âanything worth doing is worth doing poorly.â I didnât understand that for years because I didnât do anything poorly, I couldnât do anything poorly, I had to Do Everything Perfectly.
But brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing them at all when that 2 minutes seems exhausting. Doing ten minutes of yoga is better than 10 minutes of sitting when 30 minutes of cardio sounds impossible. Changing my clothes is good when a whole shower is impossible. Standing on the porch for a few minutes is worth it after being in the house for three straight days because I donât have the energy to go anywhere.
Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly⌠because doing it poorly is better than not doing it.
You must understand that perfectionism isnât striving for excellence, itâs a crippling fear of being flawed and therefore worth abandonment or punishment. Itâs a kind of psychological avoidance. Youâre avoiding fear and failure , not embracing the thing you want to do bc if it was about the thing you want to do youâd be fine with partial victory.
I would like to add food to this too. Woke up late and donât have time for cereal or toast or what have you? A bag of crisps and a coke is better than nothing. Donât have time or energy for dinner? A bag of chips is better than nothing. âEmptyâ calories are still calories and you need them to function
The Golden Wolf and the Silver Shepherd is an interactive text novel set in medieval Spain, blending fantasy and romance.
Disclaimer: Some places, culture, and gastronomy are based on reality (mostly food). The links take you to the related Wikipedia page.
The Golden Wolf and the Silver Shepherd
Once upon a time, there was a wolf who fell in love with a sheep.
But their love made everything bleed, even the sky.
Betrayed.
Stabbed.
They could do nothing in that life.
But...
And in this life?
FEATURES
Play as male, female, or nonbinary; cis or trans; gay, straight, or bisexual; asexual.
One main romance, five secondary romances and some flings.
Take your flock of nine with you.
Some choices have consequences, affecting not only you but also others.
Meet your past lives.
At the end of some chapters, see through the eyes of other characters. (They will be implemented over time.)
WARNINGS
The contents include blood, death, and gore.
This is not suitable for people who are adverse to touch.
Stalking and obsession with the main character.
Religious themes, racism and mention of conquest.
Some characters show signs of jealousy, however one in particular is toxic.
ROMANCE OPTIONS
[MAIN] Raorne (M/W), a god who can transform into a wolf. And, of course, your soulmate through all your lives.
On the surface, they appear stoic, but beneath lies a warm and protective nature, driven to do what is right. Popular for their divine beauty, they make people's hearts flutter, becoming something good and useful(until it isn't so anymore).
[SECONDARY] Felipe (M), your childhood friend, neighbor and twin of Carlos (the older one).
His personality can only be described as fake. Despite his calm and submissive nature, he hides someone who wants to protect something for once in his life; unfortunately, that means going to a very dangerous extreme.
Careful.
[SECONDARY] Carlos (M), your childhood friend, neighbor and twin of Felipe (the younger one).
Willing to help and, at times, a bit of a show-off. He adores his family and friends, especially his brother, despite being aware of what his little brother truly harbors in his heart.
Sadly, the future that awaits him seems full of shackles.
[SECONDARY] Aisha (W), merchant from Muqadish and an artisan, who travel around Terra.
A woman who has explored much of the world and is eager to learn more. An artist with her hands, and creator of some of the most exquisite pieces in her country, thanks to her creative and charismatic mind.
[SECONDARY] ?? (W/M), someone who appears in your memories and sometimes takes over someone else's body.
They are nothing but pain and lies, they who once poisoned the world. Who says they won't do it again to win the heart of the one they love most?
[SECONDARY] ?? (W/M/NB), romance is in the air, as is their music. Some call them bard, others harbinger of misfortune.
People crowd around them to listen to them, to feel their music, and to win their hearts. However, all they want is to play music and reach the right person. Will you be able to discover what their fingers are plying?
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Guides and other resources will be added to the top of the post over time.
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You want the king's head for the death of your family, but what are you willing to do to achieve it? You are a mage, which means death in the kingdom of Valencino. Constantly having to be on guard for mage hunters and being able to trust few is making your goals of revenge quite difficult, however, you have finally found an opportunity for the revenge you so desire that you just can't refuse. A job at the palace under the employment of the queen, but could this opportunity be more trouble than it's worth?
The Queen
A caged bird, or a weapon? No one knows the true nature of the queen's circumstances, and few care to. Disingenuous, Willful, and Quick-Tempered, will you be among the few who gain Miraâs trust?
(Only romanceable by F/NB MCâs)
The Entertainer
Alethea is a musician for The Queen who is known to frequent the taverns of Valencino. Known for her charming smile and sweet-talking ways, none take the poor entertainer seriously, well, that is, except for you and Eliseo.
(Romanceable by any MC)
???
They are onto you.
(Romanceable by M/NB MCâs)
The Knight
They are always seen by the queen's side, never wavering in the commitment theyâve been sworn to. Yet some question who their loyalty is truly to, their house? The Queen? Valencino?
(Romanceable by any MC and Gender Selectable)
The Princess
Terrene, the Princess of Valencino, the disinherited heir of the throne and therefore one of your best possible bets at an ally, that is, if you are okay with compromising your morals, not one known for forgiveness, and with a quite ruthless streak, most fear the consequences of opposing her.
(Romanceable by any MC)
The Bestfriend
Your best friend, Eliseo, a fellow mage, you have had only each other in the past, and you would never question Eliseo's loyalty to you. He wants freedom and your revenge, yet you both share the same goal: the death of the King.
This game is 18+ and features very dark themes I support none of the dark themes featured in this game!!! When the demo comes out or when I have the time (I am very busy so it might take a while) I will post a full content warning. If you have any questions or concerns before then however do not be afraid to send me a message or an ask about it thank you all for checking out my game and I hope you have a great rest of your day!
That video of Alex Hirsch reading S&P notes for Gravity Falls conveys a few things to me:
1) the U.S. entertainment industry (especially animation) is run by older conservative types who make up offensive terms and get really mad about them.
2) the people who run Disney would be the first to fall in line with a fascist regime.
3) most of the media we consume is tailor-made and watered-down to appeal to the tastes of older, deeply religious conservative audiences.
4) conservatism, not the left, is and always has been the biggest voice of censorship in American culture.
J. Michael Straczynski, creator of Babylon 5, was before that a producer and writer for a number of cartoons in the late â80s/early â90s (The Real Ghostbusters and the original She-Ra, most notably). After a few years of dealing with the censors and their obsession with finding Satanism (or at least looking for Satanism to further political agendas) he wrote an article about the whole corrupt and bullshit system.
And published it in Penthouse, to force those same censors to buy a skin mag. The editor there asked, why Penthouse?
That one is from his autobiography, Becoming Superman. See also:
(As he goes on to say, heâs never worked in animation againâheâs effectively been blacklisted by the cartoon industry.)
Every time something like this comes up, I remember two stories about making media. The first is about movies, and comes from Quentin âFeet Manâ Tarantino.
When he was making Pulp Fiction, he was worried that the MPAA would object to the high level of violence in the film, so he shot a bunch of extra-gory stuff that he didnât actually want in the film, and added it in before submitting it to the MPAA. Predictibly, they asked him to cut most of it (without even commenting on some of the things that had him worried, like the bits of Marvinâs skull that lodge in Samuel L. Jacksonâs hairpiece). The resultant cuts were actually more permissive than heâd expected, so he cut a little more and submitted it, and it got passed with an R.
The second story is about that artist on Morrowind whose name escapes me (Iâm not a big ES fan tbh) who figured out that if he made two creature designs, one weird and what he wanted, and one even weirder, he could get Todd Howard to agree to just about anything by showing him the whopper first, then going back and âworkingâ for another few hours on a second, âtoned-downâ version, and it worked every time.
The reason I bring these up is that the thing that drives censors isnât some extant physical rubrick of what is and isnât acceptable, itâs the idea that they can have absolute power over someone elseâs creative work. Itâs about the social dominance of the interaction.
There is nothing so innocent, so clean, that a censor will not find some fault with it. Because they must find something wrong with it to justify their existence, and because it makes them feel powerful.
