i think a lot of people especially young women fixate on the idea of wanting to get married and have a wedding less bc of the actual marriage and more bc of the big party where they wear a pretty dress and everyone pays attention to them. and i don't say that in a judgmental way, i think it's very human to want attention and to have everyone think you're pretty and say nice things to you. i unironically think the divorce rate would go down if there was something like a quincanera for adults where you wear a nice outfit and everyone pays attention to you and then there's food and alcohol and dancing. like if people could just do that without also signing a legal contract binding them to another person.

















