Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your βi donβt owe anyone anythingβ shtick are too happy to forget
Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the Β£5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly Β£5, I refuse to make an effort for you if thereβs nothing in it for me
Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and Iβm going to do the same for you, it doesnβt matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care

















