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Plus WIRED EARBUDS and fuck off shiny "holster" carrier for it

please dont forget about agender people this pride month

dont forget about agender people who dont also identify as trans

dont forget about agender people who want to transition (binary or not)

dont forget about agender people who dont

dont forget about agender people who use or like traditional binary pronouns like he/him and she/her

dont forget about agender people who prefer they/them or neo pronouns or a mix of pronouns

dont forget about agender people who dont want to use pronouns at all

dont forget about intersex agender people this pride

dont forget about agender people who are bisexual, pansexual, lesbian, gay, ect.

dont forget about agender people who are aromantic or asexual or both

dont forget about agender people who just dont care about dating or dont want to date anyone for any other reason

Congratulations to Chief Mouser Larry the Cat for outlasting yet another Prime Minister

Do I miss some foods I can't eat anymore without getting sick? Sure, but that's not what really bothers me. What bothers me is being excluded from a huge portion of human social life of which food is a crucial component. What bothers me is the stress and social stigma of trying to figure out what I can safely eat. What bothers me is the amount of extra work and cost that is required of me to identify, obtain, and prepare safe foods. What bothers me is people treating my needs like a nuisance, as though I chose to be like this - as though their brief inconvenience to check an ingredients list is unreasonable, when I deal with this every day of my life forever.

I don't miss the food that much. I miss not having to worry about what I eat. I miss freedom. I miss when trying new foods and new restaurants was fun instead of a minefield. I miss not having to plan my entire life around the need for safe foods.

This.

It took me a long, long time to identify the limits of my unsafe food web. I'm finally in a place now where I'm not constantly identifying problem foods.

I miss the foods I can't eat, sure, but that is such a mild problem compared to the Ongoing, Systemic, and Overwhelming requirement to vett every single item that I want to invest for every single meal or snack for the rest of my life EVEN IF THEY'VE BEEN PREVIOUSLY VETTED AS SAFE because recipes change whenever they want and there are no warnings about that.

My current aggravation is due to the fact that I live in small town middle america, my specialty foods are being purged from my grocery store and not restocked because if you can eat normal macaroni noodles, you're not going to pay three times as much for grain free macaroni and if I'm the only one buying grain free macaroni, they're not going to keep that in stock.

Despite every attempt at the contrary I now have a monthly grocery cart from Amazon. Because I can't get staples like noodles locally.

I have a bento box that I prep a meal in and take with me when I leave the house. Are we going to be out long enough to need it? I don't know, but I can't stop at a Subway and get a sandwich if we are out long enough. I can go hungry.

I cannot buy prepared foods. They are full of unsafe foods unsafe wrappings unsafe cleaners on the machines and utensils used to make them.

"do you want a piece of--"

No. I appreciate you asking but unless you're handing me an orange or a banana that I can peel, I can't eat it.

Preparing food must happen from scratch. No sauces no soups no bases no mixed anythings.

Traveling requires that I bring all my food (already prepared) or have access to both a kitchen and a grocery store AND time to use both AND space to keep the results.

I can't get on a cruise ship. I can't take an overseas flight.

I can't even buy butter.

I don't care about the foods I'm not supposed to eat. I'm exhausted by keeping track of the ones I can.

My parents threw away all of these things (even the vacuum cleaners and the dryer) when they got too dirty to function, because no one even told them THAT they could be cleaned. Cost them thousands of dollars over the years.

All I'm saying is that cleaning is not intuitive, and not knowing how to clean is not a moral failing, but it is something you can learn.

I like this video because it does a great job of introducing the basic foundations of house cleaning (and because he doesn't use bleach, which is a common allergy in addition to being awful to inhale). He also talks a little about how to clean a vacuum. And why you shouldn't put grease from your pots and pans down the sink drain. I also love that he mentions that different houses and different people have different needs and different versions of what clean and cleaning looks like.

This is another video from the same guy about cleaning and depression. This advice, especially at the beginning, can feel really really difficult and oppressive to hear. However, I find that it's generally pretty solid. But I'm autistic and so is he, so that gets a massive Your Mileage May Vary stamp on it.

I have a favorite part of this video. It's from 10:52 to 12:36. I think we could all use to hear that. There's a HEFTY pause after that one. I promise the narration does come back.

This is a pair of videos about how to correctly load and use a dish washer.

The first one is a quick 1 minute 30 second overview on loading. I can't find the exact video I'm looking for, so consider this a substitute for that. If I can find the one I'm looking for, I'll swap it in.

Here's a blog post about scrubbing brushes and how to clean them.

And a video for all cleaning tools, including scrub brushes. This video does use bleach. I'll try to find some alternatives to that.

How to clean a top loader (without the removable agitator thing). This should be done every 1-3 months depending on you unit, or every time you wash really soiled clothes.

How to clean a top loader (with the removable agitator thing). This should be done every month, or every time you wash really soiled clothes.

This video is for pet owners.

These carpet brushes are a LIFE SAVER if you have dogs. This thing allows me to go from vacuuming about 4 square feet before my vacuum is full to vacuuming half the living room (I don't vacuum often enough. You should vacuum weekly, and I just can't.). I have to unclog the vacuum less often. It fluffs up some of the flat spots in the carpet. And I also use the brush to shampoo my rugs in the spring.

A spot cleaner (or a carpet cleaner with a spot cleaner attachment) is another life saver, ESPECIALLY if you can afford to splurge on a heated one. I see them at Goodwill or at yard sales occasionally, and they're worth picking up. The shark one in the video is great too.

It's America's Housekeeping Book (1941). Available for free download on the Internet Archive. (Large PDF file at the link here).

The LISTS y'all. The step by step lists. The emphasis on efficiency and arranging spaces for the least resistance possible. The basic concept of "take a tray or basket into a room when you are tidying up so you can put things that belong elsewhere on it and take them out LATER in ONE GO".

Just a few important and gentle reminders:

🫶🏻 DO NOT WATCH THIS FUCKING SHOW 🫶🏻

If you claim you support human rights - not just trans rights but human rights in general - yet still plan to watch this show, unfollow me. You’re a fucking hypocrite and I don’t want you following me.

Do not watch it even if you’re hate watching it, it still contributes to streaming revenue and views!

The adults in this reboot of the franchise are FULLY accountable for choosing to do this show and accepting a pay cheque over supporting a minority group. Even if they claim they support trans rights, they’re cowards and don’t actually support them at all.

The kids do NOT deserve abuse or hate, whether it’s because you’re comparing them to Dan/Rupert/Emma or because you’re boycotting due to the author’s views. They are literal CHILDREN.

For example...

From yestersday. This follows on from the UK supreme court ruling last year that equalities laws would be based on 'biological sex only.'

That supreme court ruling got through, not because 'everyone believes in it.' But because JKR directly payed MASSIVE amounts of money into right wing thinktanks, politicians, and TERF influencers.

Harry Potter directly funds transphobia and anti-trans laws in the UK.

She pours her money into the J.K Rowling women's fund. Meaning Harry Potter revenue directly pays for right wing transphobic pearl clutchers to take trans people to court and to stamp out the rights of trans people in the UK.

I know now that I get gender euphoria from visibly being a woman doing things that were once gender segregated and which still often get categorized as "boy things" (like driving steam locomotives, for the example that made me realize it). I understand why certain gendered terms make me uncomfortable or don't feel right to me - yes, I'm a woman, but I'm definitely not a lady. I was able to revel in insisting on calling myself the best man at my brother's wedding despite being a cishet woman because it was a role I was filling, not my identity.

I had spent a long portion of my life ostracized from womanhood because I wasn't performing it in the "appropriate" white western neurotypical cisgender heterosexual way - and what helped me accept that I could just still be a woman on my own terms was being around a lot of people who weren't cisgender and seeing their joy.

So many dog owners are practically allergic to doing anything to alleviate human anxiety around their dog, even things that would greatly benefit the dog like keeping it leashed and not bringing it into high stress environments* without cause. If a friend told me they were afraid of cats, I’d tell them it is best we meet outside of my home because that is a completely reasonable accommodation. There are so many horror stories about someone being told another person is afraid of dogs and repeatedly putting them in situations where they have to be in close proximity to a dog without that person’s consent because they think it’s funny or because ‘My dog is such a good dog. It’ll definitely change their mind about dogs. This is like impromptu exposure therapy.’ and it makes everything worse.

Someone being frightened and on the verge of a panic attack at your little Shih Tzu mix may seem like an amusing overreaction to you but those bitches (pun absolutely intended) do bite and the safest thing to do for that person and your dog is to keep them separated. You don’t know what life they’ve lead.

This is not cruelty, this is not unfair to the dog, if they dont like muzzles and leashes its your job to teach them. your dog may be beautifully trained but other dogs may not! other animals, other people, they are not trained on your dog like you are. you cannot predict how your dog will react in every situation, because you cannot predict every situation it will be in.

And the thing that makes me craziest - if your dog bites somebody who's willing to get mad about it (or a kid with parents who are), animal control will kill it. if your dog injures someone from your negligence they will kill your dog. they will kill. your dog.