Friendly reminder that Queer is approved by 72.9% of the people, and the groups who don’t prefer it’s use as an umbrella term are straight people, exclusionists, transmeds, truscums, sex-negative people, and sex work critical people (x).

Friendly reminder that aros and aces are excluded only 9.2% / 8.1% of the time respectively while being included  78.9% / 81.2% of the time (x)

BLACK-OWNED ALTERNATIVES TO D*LLSKILL

We Are Unapologetic  (up to 5x)

Shami Oshun (currently closed 9/2/2020)

Karousel Kouture (up to 3x)

Gothic Lamb (up to 6x)

Ota-Q (up to 3x)

Girls from Planet Venus (up to 2x)

Adorned by Chi (up to 4x)

Playgang Gear (up to 3x)

Cozy Kids x Blvucci (up to 3x)

O’Dolly Dearest (only up to L)

Sugar Playhouse  (currently closed 9/2/2020)

Jada Lebour (only up to 1X)

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You can say you don't identify as "queer" without demonizing the queer community.

You can not want "gay" being used as an umbrella term for you without taking it away from people who do like to use it for themselves.

You can hate being called "it" without taking it out on people whose pronouns are it/its.

You can be uncomfortable being called "they" without blaming people with they/them pronouns.

You can not like neopronouns for yourself without making that the problem of people who do like them.

You can dislike having terms like "joyfriend" applied to yourself without mocking people who'd love to be called someone's joyfriend.

Sutematsu Oyama (1860-1919): Japan’s First College-Educated Woman

Full entry (with footnotes) here. Patreon here. Art notes behind the cut.

Hey so just so everyone knows, the union that’s helping the Amazon workers in Alabama organize has explicitly NOT called for a boycott and has no involvement with the posts going around promoting one. 
This boycott was something put together by people who don’t at all work at Amazon and has the potential to create more negative effects for the workers than positive. 

Organizing a union is very serious business, and we can’t take a chance that might fuck up the work actual Amazon employees are doing to better their lives for the sake of a retweet, you know? 


As they say, “Don’t do for the workers what they can do for themselves.” We do not help form unions by putting things like this together without communication and creating dynamics for the workers that they never intended to exist - we help workers by asking directly what they need and helping them with it. 


This is not that. 

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Binders worn too tight or for too many hours in a day can certainly cause some chronic rib/chest pain; they may even cause some scarlike thickening of the tissue under the skin - usually at the margins where the breast folds down against the chest wall in general. This can be uncomfortable, too. But none of this translates into making top surgery a problem. Not at all.

au where techno is stuck in a three-week timeloop (keep reading for more)

I made a video last night asking why the #intersex tag is banned on tiktok and it blew up with 100k views a Lot of intersexist assholes found it :) I deleted about 100 really nasty comments before I gave up and just let them come.

And like, it didn’t feel as insulting as it felt deeply irritating, but I woke up today shaky and heavily anxious, despite feeling excellent for a couple of weeks. Because no matter what I do, I’ll never be seen as a Real Woman OR as a fucking HUMAN for that matter. There will always be people who hate me for existing and want me dead for it. :)

And if it’s not them, it’s the 500 super confident people answering all the WHAT IS INTERSEX???? comments with “it means they have a penis and a vagina :) hope that helps :)” like how the fuck am I supposed to keep up when there are so many ignorant fuckers willing to talk for me and over me lmfao

And whenever I talk about any sort of abuse like this I get at LEAST one perisex trans person like, well sweaty, ur not trans, so this isn’t ur battle and u shouldn’t be upset, u must only be upset cuz ppl think ur trans, which is transphobic :// And if I try to find the language, as an intersex person who is living in a world that actively and effectively erases us, to explain why this sort of denial of our experiences is incredibly hurtful and harmful, I get a callout post about me warning people that I’m showing signs of Becoming A T*RF, that I obviously want to be one and I will be one in six months time. You know, just days after a bunch of t*rfs dogpiled me and one talked about beheading me :)))

Weirdly enough, perisex trans people denying my abuse and the trauma it comes with doesn’t make me want to be transphobic, nor do I believe people are doing this because the trans community itself is Mean and Bad. I think y’all are traumatized and somewhat reasonably distrusting but completely unaware of the violent intersexism you’re participating in by denying our abuse.

The beheading comment, followed by trans perisex people denying my experiences TO ME and telling me I’m transphobic for even having these experiences, was the combo that led to my suicidal meltdown last month. I’m NOT saying this to be manipulative, because my only fucking goal here is to get y’all to understand how serious intersexism is. I shouldn’t fucking have to lay out my trauma for the entire world to understand me. I shouldn’t fucking have to talk about my genitals and personal medical shit with every single person in the world, but I HAVE to to get anyone to take me seriously.