you don’t think it’s harmful to call yourself a lesbian and actively fantasize about men? it feeds into the narrative that lesbians can have sexual attraction to men and just need to “find the right one”. a lot of “lesbians” here on pitt tumblr actively thirst over men and it’s so strange. being bisexual is not a crime, accept yourselves!
long answer: literally no one bats an eye when a gay men call a woman hot. ive seen many gay men thirst over women, telling them to step on them, spit on them, etc, and no one is doubting THEIR sexuality
i see straight women on tiktok complimenting other straight women everyday by saying shit like ‘me and my husband aren’t that serious’ ‘chill my boyfriend’s girlfriend is on the app’ and even more raunchiest stuff. no one is doubting THEIR sexuality
many gay men kiss their girl friends as a joke, straight girls will kiss when drunk, yet no one doubt THEIR sexuality
i’ve seen so many straight guy say they’d fuck ryan reynolds. no one is doubting THEIR sexuality
but a lesbian can’t even call a man hot without people trying to pick apart their sexuality… i’m sorry, if someone’s hot, they’re hot. everyone thirsts over fictional characters, dude. it’s not new. also im not even thirsting over men on here, my blog literally has f/f, m/m, and f/m, yes, because i like exploring the dynamics between different characters if they were in a relationship and im horny. nothing less, nothing more. NOWHERE have i said i have a sexual attraction towards ANY of these men - i don’t
about accepting myself… i have, thank you. and it was one of the hardest thing ever. a lot of people seem to think being queer is a ‘trend’ or something that people only do it to be ‘cool’. im happy for you that you seem to be privileged enough that you think people pretend to be queer for fun
my father was born in africa, raised in a very christian and conservative household. he grew up with a violent hatred for queer people, and even if he would never kick me out, i can tell he wishes i liked boys. and i wish i could make him proud, but i can’t. on his side of the family, everyone is extremely religious too, i don’t even know if my family would come to my fucking wedding because of my sexuality. my grandmother would probably not want to see me again, if she knew
right now im on holiday with my friend and we actively have to hide our sexuality to her family by fear of repercussions
it would be so much easier if i liked boys
accepting i liked girls was easy enough for me. accepting i didn’t like boys was so hard. i went so far to try and make myself like men, ended up crying, hating my body, and nearly throwing up. i tried to turn to god, i tried fucking hypnosis, nothing worked
just leave lesbians alone. we will never act the way society wants us to, there’s no point trying to pick apart our sexuality
