bog unicorn, inc.

but if you're like "this is relevant to your own current behavior" with the implication that the intracommunity thing they're currently big mad about is actually not as important and righteous as they're casting it in their head, it's like "no no. not MY behavior. mine is rational and I am correct. the issue I am fighting with other queer people about like rats in a sack IS actually the most important issue to be addressing right now"

and like

this is stuff I have to constantly watch out for in my own behavior! it is absolutely absolutely a thing, and absolutely something we ALL deal with and are capable of engaging in. it's ramped up in intensity the last year or two and I don't think that is a coincidence. I wish we were more capable of this level of analysis of this stuff without getting defensive.

Contrast his reaction to seeing Gabs again vs. how he reacted to seeing Louis again —

But it has never been text. Her relationship with her gender is COMPLICATED for reasons that seem both internal and external, but it IS canon that she sometimes presents more feminine when she's with Lestat.

But this idea that she starts solely presenting as masc after becoming a vampire isn't true. She's still wearing gowns in the coven in Auvergne in modern day!

So far, the GLIMPSES we've seen of her aren't conflicting with her character in the books.

Gabrielle de Lioncourt is someone with a complicated relationship to gender written by someone with a complicated relationship to gender, which also guides a lot of interpretations. Anne Rice, herself, was pretty feminine presenting, but she often spoke about feelings of gender non-conformity. This is also a valid interpretation. And yes, I do think gnc people who don't fit neatly into one box or another also deserve representation.