bassically by tei shi

The popularity of the "incompetent stupid piece of shit husband and competent wife who loves him anyways" trope in media is a psyop to make women believe its normal to settle for an incompetent stupid piece of shit husband

As someone who did have an abusive mother I always feel sort of caught between the knowledge that mothers are held to an insanely high misogynistic standard...and the knowledge that mothers are considered infallibly benevolent and selfless heroines whose children should fall on their knees in gratitude for. Like both things are true and knowing both of those things are true fucking sucks when your mom is abusive. Why the fuck is that woman getting shamed for drinking half a glass of wine while pregnant, but when my mom gleefully brags about hitting me it's "kids will never know how much we moms sacrifice for them 💔 we give and give and give and still we feel so so bad for not giving enough 💔 they will never give us the gratitude we deserve 💔 and we of course will never seek it because that's the kind of humble, selfless angels we are 💔"

I've thought a lot about this particular bit of cognitive trickery and I definitely don't fully understand it yet but I think a part of it comes from the fact that people love to smugly correct women for minor transgressions. But they don't love actually thinking too hard about child abuse and the systems that enable it. (They don't love thinking about this when fathers abuse either.) They also don't love really thinking about what the reality of abusive mothers indicates, which is that women are not actually innately maternal. Because that flattering lie is one of the spoonfuls of sugar that helps the patriarchy go down.

Also shit moms have good PR. No two ways about it. They just have to go on Facebook and post "my kids are my life! Mess with them and I'll mess with you! 😤" And every other shit mom will rush to the comments to go "you tell em, momma!" as if they don't regularly see each other beating the shit out of said kids and ignoring it when their boyfriends are sex pests to their daughters.

Also I think good moms have kinda bad PR because good moms don't feel the need to post on Facebook about how they'll kill someone for even looking at their kid wrong because they're too busy actually doing shit for their kids. And like they're not trying to pre-emptively dodge shit mom accusations so when they're scolded for giving their kid a non-approved snack or letting them walk two blocks alone, they just kinda get embarrassed and apologetic.

Also Americans as a whole love hitting kids even more than they love scolding women so they will never scold women for the most common parenting mistake because the most common parenting mistake is their very favorite pastime.

I love when they hate trans women so much that they start accusing cis women of being reptilians or something. LISTEN TO WOMEN unless they’re kinda uggo downstairs.

Equally disturbing was when other women chimed in saying, “I’ve been through childbirth and my vulva looks like the ones you identified as obviously transgender” and she completely discounted them.

So she's committed sexual indecency with a corpse is what I'm hearing. She should be in prison is what I am getting from this. And that she is a massive creep who also sexually harassed a woman for nudes.

AITA for realizing that my best friend is actually a ghost and not telling him because i'm worried that if he realizes he's dead he'll finally be able to accept it and fully pass on and i won't be able to hang out with him anymore?

AITA if i've been dead for a while but haven't told my best friend yet because he doesn't seem to have realized i'm a ghost and if he does i'm worried that he'll finally be able to accept it and let me go and i can't bear the thought of losing him?

AITA for killing that guy

My body is already an inhospitable environment, there’s no way a friggin baby would be able to survive in it

Also babies can’t even fight, how would they fare in battle against my inner demons?

sand tiger sharks

on it, boss lady

ur girlfriend/boyfriend should NOT be ur first priority... ur first priority should ALWAYS be me, ur tumblr mutual

why do men have this eternal fear of being used for money they don’t have lol